Will dr’s give me DD medical records

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DD is 15, she went to the doctors yesterday but won’t tell me why. I’m waiting for the morning rush to die down and then will ring the surgery and ask. If the receptionist can’t tell me, can I do a request for her medical records seeing as she’s a minor and I’m her parent? I only found out by accident so now I’m wondering how many other times she’s gone and not told me! Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy.

Look up Gillick Competence, if all apply then no they wont. You need to value her privacy if he proud she is mature enough to take responsibility for her own health needs! Even if she’s going to access contraception or similar (which I assume is one of your concerns) if she’s mature enough and confident enough to do so alone she should be allowed the independence.

Based on the fact that 15 years olds do not need privacy where medical decisions are concerned.

I'd rather destroy my relationship with her than allow her to destroy her life because I was worried about her privacy FFS.

Sorry I've not made myself sufficiently clear.

Yes, the website does talk about the need for the child to consent, but you have to go halfway down the page before you reach that rather significant requirement.

My complaint is that the page doesn't mention at the outset the need for a child aged 11 or over to consent.

So where it simply says at the top:

"You can only get online access to the GP services of a child aged under 16 if you are their parent or guardian with legal parental responsibility"

I think it would be a clearer and more accurate statement if it said something like:

"You can only get online access to the GP services of a child aged under 16 if you are their parent or guardian with legal parental responsibility, provided that if the child is 11 or over they must give their consent to that access."

Seems to me that the important bit - the consent requirement for over tens - should be made clear from the beginning.

My mum was like you, and your username is apt in my case. I went NC 15 years ago.

But it will be the parents left to pick up the pieces if it all goes wrong. I expect she's gone for contraception. Or maybe she's pregnant. My bet would be on one or the other. But I would worry about an std. Yes I can absolutely see why you are concerned.

It’s likely to destroy a 15 year old’s life more if they don’t have privacy for medical decisions they’re competent to make, so don’t get contraception and end up pregnant…

There's a reason she feels she can't talk to you. It's obvious why!

Destroy her life? By going to a GP? That's some leap you've taken

15 years olds do not need privacy where medical decisions are concerned

The law, the NHS, the NSPCC, most of the posters on here, and every 15 year old who's ever lived all disagree with you.

So would asking why she went to see her GP! And no if they have deemed her Fraser competent they will not share her medical history with you. The fact they gave her an appointment means the deem her to be! I do t think it would take much to figure out why she went without telling you, she’s probably asked for contraception!

She is Gillick competent. The GP will not share anything with you.

She'ed be Gillick competence at 15 - so able to consent to treatement and entitled to privacy so I don't think you get anywhere or hope you wouldn't. To even pick up perscriptions for teens or make appointments that age at our GP they had to sign a form to let me have limited access to some of the medcial knowledge.

Honestly from around that age I was trying to make sure kids knew how to access GP or pharmacist themsleves and think about seeing dentist and orthodeotsist by themselves. Seems to have paid off as the often wanted me around - at least outside and seem happy for me to know stuff - and then left for uni able to access medcial care as needed.

Access the records and she finds out will lead to a breakdown in any relationship you have with her.

if she wants to tell you she will but in her own time.

if you read her diary will you then challenge her on anything you disprove of. All of her trust will be destroyed.

tread very carefully and don’t be overbearing

period pain? Mental health? Stress caused by an overbearing parent?

It's blindingly obvious why your daughter does not tell you things.

I’d maybe ask yourself why she is not telling you as opposed to finding ways to get round her right to privacy!

Are you for real? Something about the way the two posts are expressed make me wonder

The GP surgery wouldn't even give me the NHS number for my 13 year old, I had to take her to the surgery in person and she had to request it. We needed it for a dental referral. They are definitely not going to tell you why she went to see a GP.

Why? Don't you think children deserve some privacy and space for themselves? And what happens when you find something you don't like? You'll have destroyed any trust you might have had and potentially ruined the relationship for life.

The answer is no. Nothing will be shared unless she is at risk of harm.
You are focusing on the wrong thing here.

Why is it a fact that 15 year olds do not need privacy when medical decisions are concerned?

Do 16 year olds?
17 year olds?
18 year olds?
19 or 20 year olds?

Why should anyone be able to make a medical decision in private; why not just advertise them to everyone?

Same. The GP won't tell you but I would definately be looking at her diary and phone.

I can understand how worried you must be, I'd be exactly the same. If my 15yo went to the doctor I'd want to know what was wrong (because I care, and I worry).

However there's nothing you can do other than talk to her.

We've answered your question though. The answer is no.

On that basis - no, you can’t. At her age she is considered to be Gillick competent and thus also entitled to privacy. It’s really hard to be in this position as a parent, but you have to hold fire and simply say that want her to know that she can talk to you about anything at any time and genuinely wish she would open up so that you can support her properly. But beyond that you have to step back.