To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

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I usually get home around 5 and Dh finishes around 9.
He isn’t allowed to park in his work car park as there is limited space and they are reserved for management.
It’s a sort of business park off a busy intersection so there’s no side roads or parking nearby.

Sometimes (not often) I really feel like coming home especially on a Friday and having a glass of wine while I make dinner but I always have to pick him up later so I can’t have a drink after work with colleagues on the odd occasion they do or with friend.
I was never a big drinker but I do resent having to drive later every night and just never being able to if I fancy ever.
He’s had this job for 6 years now and I miss sitting in the garden with a glass of wine after work, enjoying the last bit of sun of the day (in the summer) I just feel a bit restricted as his chauffeur when that should be my down time and this time of year I’d feel very unreasonable making him walk home in the dark and pouring rain just so I could have a couple of drinks after work but that doesn’t stop me from resenting that I never can.

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30 minutes walking is really not much. Plenty of people commute for well over that every day.
I couldn't bear to be that responsible for a partner. Was this all agreed when he got the job? How would he manage if you broke up or if you were ill or away (or busy?!)
I'm guessing this means you can't do anything else in the evening like a class or meet friends?
Nope nope nope.

Been mentioned countless times already...e-bike.

He won’t walk if it’s too wet. Or too dark. Or too hot. In other words, he is too lazy and expects you to run about after him. Maybe if he walked more often he wouldn’t get hot and sweaty.

That would be a nope from me.

So she never goes out? Ever ever? Because she is needed to pick up her partner who won't walk 30 mins home or get a bus or pay for a taxi? That's bonkers

30 minutes walking a day is the bare minimum for healthy daily movement.

I deliberately leave my WFH desk once a day to get 30 minutes of walking in.

He can wear lycra shorts for the walk home to stop chub rub. It's good for him. And regarding the weather -- I went out for a walk today for 40 minutes and ... get this ... took an umbrella.

Buy him an e-bike so there’s no excuses about sweating or leg rash from walking, and let him make his own arrangements. A half hour walk would be less than ten minutes by bike.

I think there needs to be some compromise here. You could continue to pick him up most nights, but if there’s an evening where your friends are going for after work drinks and you want to join, he should make his own way home. I really didn’t like it where you said along the lines of “why should he have to walk home just so you can have drinks with your friends.” I think that’s so controlling of him and inflexible. Really it should be “why should you miss out on drinks with friends just to pick him up when it’s only a half hour walk.” Also all this crap about him getting sweaty, so what? If he walks home and he’s a bit sweaty surely he can have a shower as soon as he gets in? Isn’t that what any normal person who’s done some sort of exercise and works up a sweat would do? Why does everything have to be on his terms. I think it’s horrid that you have to do this for him every damn night just because he can’t be arsed with a half hour work, or can’t get a taxi from time to time. Why does he get to call the shots?

I'm actually a bit jealous, I wish I just had a 30 minute walk to work rather than having to use public transport and then walk.

I manage to walk in all weathers. I have wellies, a warm coat, a proper waterproof coat, comfy trainers, a sunhat, a UV umbrella, chub rub shorts etc... It's not that difficult to dress appropriately for the weather in the UK.

So what option are you going to go for OP in order to have your well deserved drink on a Friday, as many do!

A. Divorce
B. Refuse
C. Tell him to do one.

“Is he made of meringue or something?”

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Thank you!

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Honestly, if he can walk back in 30mins, I really don't see the need for him to be picked up every single day. It's fair enough if you want to do it from time to time in bad weather but not as a standard, it should not be a given. He is an adult and he needs to get over himself. A 30-min walk is nothing and if he is too precious to do that then he can pay for a taxi.

I'm going to go with

D) continue to run round after the massive wet lettuce just in case he throws a tantrum

Hmmm, more than likely D alright. He has her under the thumb for sure, and I really wish women would just say no, but I get the feeling that OP is afraid to say anything, which is worrying.

TBF my local council locks the parks when it's dark, so that might not be an option even if he's not concerned about it from a safety point of view. If it's 45minutes by road is there really not a bus that goes at least part of the way?
However if it's hot just walk slower and maybe take a shower when you get home. How hot is it likely to be at 9pm anyway? As for rain, that's what coats and umbrellas are for. I WFH and still try to walk 30 minutes every day unless I've done some other kind of exercise.

Half an hour ?? He should definitely be walking . Giving me the ick here. In other words he is a bit lazy

Or HE could buy his own e-bike or solve the problem himself in some other way!

You need to at least take Friday nights off. He can easily get himself home. The only issue is that he will tantrum to make you feel guilty about it. That's a much bigger problem.

Petition to set up a crowdfunder for op’s husband to get a bloody bike

or work harder and get a promotion

something has to give here

I used to walk 30 mins each way, all year round, even when heavily pregnant and having a load of shopping in my backpack on the way home. I was also stood up all day at work, and very active.

If he gets chub rub, get him some Lanacane cream
www.superdrug.com/health/medicated-skin/medicated-skin-treatments/lanacane-anti-chafing-gel-28g/p/687900

Thats very do-able. Get him some men's chub rub pants to prevent the rash.

30 minute walk?!?! That's it??

FfS he is a big fat lazy toad! He should be walking or cycling such a short distance! It would do him good.

You are being quite the pushover picking him up so just tell him on fridays he walks!

Crikey tell him to get a bike. If needs be a folding bike so you drop him off in the morning but he makes his own way home.

30 minutes walk is less than a great many children do to and from school each day - a grown man complaining about sometimes having to walk seems very feeble. If he gets leg rash from half an hour’s walk he needs to see the doctor/dermatologist or wear more appropriate clothing.

As PP say - you have made a rod for your own back by offering the full serve taxi service.

Thank goodness they don’t (hopefully) have young dc. Imagine having to bundle them all in the car in their pjs to go and get him.