To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

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I usually get home around 5 and Dh finishes around 9.
He isn’t allowed to park in his work car park as there is limited space and they are reserved for management.
It’s a sort of business park off a busy intersection so there’s no side roads or parking nearby.

Sometimes (not often) I really feel like coming home especially on a Friday and having a glass of wine while I make dinner but I always have to pick him up later so I can’t have a drink after work with colleagues on the odd occasion they do or with friend.
I was never a big drinker but I do resent having to drive later every night and just never being able to if I fancy ever.
He’s had this job for 6 years now and I miss sitting in the garden with a glass of wine after work, enjoying the last bit of sun of the day (in the summer) I just feel a bit restricted as his chauffeur when that should be my down time and this time of year I’d feel very unreasonable making him walk home in the dark and pouring rain just so I could have a couple of drinks after work but that doesn’t stop me from resenting that I never can.

YANBU although wanting an alcoholic drink is a bit of a rubbish reason. I don’t drink but would still refuse to pick him up more than once a week because I have my own life, and my husband is also not a big baby who can’t walk. A half hour trundle each way sounds lovely!

YANBU

Your DH should be more flexible. As PPs have said, he could walk, cycle or take public transport and/or a cab on days you can’t collect him.

A healthy adult wearing suitable clothing should be able to walk for 30-45 mins without discomfort in all seasons. In fact, it’d be healthier and better for the environment.

Suggest you make it clear you won’t be able to chauffeur on a Friday, at least. As well as (or switched for) some other days if you’re out with colleagues/friends. That’s perfectly reasonable to allow you a social life.

He sounds pathetic. Tell him he needs to walk/cycle/or park as close as he can.

Needs to invest in vaseline or chub rub.

Also why cant he cycle? The fact youve said hed be put out if he had to walk so you can relax in the garden is making me think hes just a selfish prick.

But this is an actual grown man we're talking about! Why should his partner have to be available EVERY DAY to collect him from work?? If he doesn't want to walk, there are plenty of other options available to him (cycle, e-scooter) and as there doesn't seem to be anything physically wrong with him, he seems very lazy and presumptuous to me. My kids walk to and from school that distance and they're still alive.
And she's not saying she needs her fix of alcohol like an alcoholic. She's saying she works hard, comes home and cleans and cooks and would love the ability to relax afterwards with a glass of wine. But instead, she has to wait to relax and first pick up her inept husband who can't manage to make his own way home like every other adult out there.

Surely he can occasionally walk himself home in spring/ summer.

This arrangement would annoy me and I don’t drink! What happens if you want to meet friends?

A 45 minute walk home once a week is nothing. Tell him to suck it up and enjoy your wine.

It's not a rubbish reason at all if that's how OP chooses to relax in her own time. Even if some disapprove and consider a glass of wine in an evening makes her a raging alcoholic, as a grown women OP should be able to make her own decisions without being controlled by a man baby.

You’ve been picking him up from work 5 days a week for 6 years? And he can’t manage to walk once because he might get sweaty?

Depends..if he's the main breadwinner, bringing in significantly more than you, I'd suggest you suck it up or start carrying the load a little more.

Jesus, he sounds pathetic.

Surely he can either walk or get a taxi on the odd occasion you want to go for a drink with work mates.
If he walked or got a taxi just once or twice a week it would give you a break to have a bit of me time. Which I think you're perfectly entitled to.
And if he walked a bit more he might get used to it. I don't really understand the rash - is he allergic to walking or do his legs rub together or something? I'm sure there's a solution anyway.

You're being a total mug here, OP.

He's a grown man. He can walk home. I'd be mortified to ask for a lift for that kind of distance unless I was either seriously unwell or it was absolutely treacherous outside.

He can park near by and walk or walk/ cycle/ get the bus/ taxi home. You don’t need to pick him up every day, say no.

I walk 35 mins to work and back at least twice a week. I find it strange that someone wouldn't want to do that for the exercise tbh. I'll occasionally drive in or get a lift or take the bus home in bad weather.

I would appreciate the lift as often as my dp offered it but I certainly wouldn’t moan if they said no

Another man-baby, buy him an e-bike for Christmas/birthday, tell him he’s saving the planet by reducing all the short car journeys and going to live longer with the exercise, then take to the turps in a big way to celebrate!!!

just wondering is he on the phones how do lone females cope if they can’t park nearby

Or, if you can't be bothered to read the whole thread, you could just read the OP's posts and save yourself the bother of making a completely irrelevant post.

You haven't answered why he can't get an Uber. Not every day maybe, but once in a while to give you a break. If it's a 30 minute walk it can't be that far and it wouldn't cost a lot.

if he walks home every day he will have thinner legs that don’t rub together - problem solved!

Exactly - I'd take it if it was offered but there's no way I would ever ask.

If it’s a thirty minute walk then it would be a very short cycle on an e-bike, probably ten minutes. He should buy one and get exercise at the same time. Win-win

A 30 min walk cutting through the park sounds like the dream commute tbh!

Surely it wont be that warm by 9pm in the summer? Why is he worried about weather extremes when late at night in summer it would probably be a lovely temperature for a walk home.

Genuinely think its ridiculous that he hasnt found a way to get himself home from work in 6 years, there are plenty of options.