To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

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I usually get home around 5 and Dh finishes around 9.
He isn’t allowed to park in his work car park as there is limited space and they are reserved for management.
It’s a sort of business park off a busy intersection so there’s no side roads or parking nearby.

Sometimes (not often) I really feel like coming home especially on a Friday and having a glass of wine while I make dinner but I always have to pick him up later so I can’t have a drink after work with colleagues on the odd occasion they do or with friend.
I was never a big drinker but I do resent having to drive later every night and just never being able to if I fancy ever.
He’s had this job for 6 years now and I miss sitting in the garden with a glass of wine after work, enjoying the last bit of sun of the day (in the summer) I just feel a bit restricted as his chauffeur when that should be my down time and this time of year I’d feel very unreasonable making him walk home in the dark and pouring rain just so I could have a couple of drinks after work but that doesn’t stop me from resenting that I never can.

You can have a drink

DS is a rugby player. Granted he’s younger than your DH, but he’s walking miles and /or cycling up and down the hills of Bristol in the pissing rain most days. Not a chubby thigh in sight. If DH is having that issue he needs some exercise!!!

Absolutely this. what happens if you're ill, or away visiting family or on holiday? You're enabling this.

My work is about 35 mins walk and I can cycle there in 15 mins. He could get a bike and start using that, especially in the spring and summer. You could drop to picking him up just some of the time.
I would be more annoyed at having to go out every night to pick someone up than I would at the lack of alcohol and you're not unreasonable to not want to do it all the time.

Well too effin bad. What would he do if you left him?

I actually cannot believe this is real. Don't you ever get sick OP, what does the poor helpless baby do then? Sounds like the walk would do him good, but on the days when its either too hot or too wet for Mr. Precious introduce him to the concept of an electric bike. I also think this is more about control because it's just utterly batshit.

He’s found a great way to control you, OP.

I'm guessing the OP would be jumping out of bed and driving to get him even if she was poorly...

Do you have kids? This stupidity will have to stop then.

Just tell him NO! He can get a bike or use an uber like PPs have said!

Ok that's pathetic. Half an hour's walk is nothing much for an able-bodied person.

How do his colleagues manage?

His workplace sounds mean. Can he find another job? Sorry if I missed the point of thread.

Yes because they're really relaxing and hit that spot the op is looking for!

in the spring he can walk
make a plan op

Why can't he walk during other seasons?

Yeah I mean, god forbid a grown adult wants a glass of wine 🙄

Why can't you just have a nice warm Vimto OP so you can be at your adult baby's husband's beck and call?!

How do all his colleagues get to / from work ?
Surely their wives are not driving at 9 at night to collect them - as for many that would mean putting pyjama clad children into the car

How did you ever end up agreeing to this? 🤯

It’s up to him to work out how he gets to and from work, that’s not your responsibility, he’s not a child!

Half an hour!

He's being pathetic. That's not a significant hike, and if he can walk it in 30 he could easily cycle in under 10.

the op said not in the rain and not in the heat

He is being lazy and needs a bike.

OP does not need to find a solution to her husband's work transport issue, she just needs to start refusing.

She is allowed to relax at home in the evening. She does not need to have something else more important to do to justify not wanting to do taxi duty every night.

She does not need to enable her husband's laziness by not having a life of her own or a glass of wine if she feels like it.

She does not need to research bikes, walking routes, available parking or new jobs with parking to spare him the effort if finding his own solution.

Her husband is a grown man, holding down a full time job he can sort himself out.

although how hot is it at 9 pm?

oh fgs, he can walk or cycle. Tell him to sort himself out from now on.

Right... but I mean that's absolute bullshit isn't it 😂Because it's rarely that hot in the UK (especially at 9pm) and if it rains then you just put your hood up / take an umbrella.