Spa day alone

[Bluehead]

Would you?

I think it sounds like heaven. A massage and facial, a sauna, hydrotherapy pool, sitting on a heated recliner in a dark room with no expectations from anyone else. Just time dedicated to relaxing.

My friend thinks it’s weird and going to the spa is something you do with friends and would be boring alone. She says just book a massage somewhere else rather than the spa if I want one.

Is it weird to go alone?

I often do this. Nothing wrong with it at all.

I prefer them on my own to be honest! Take a book.

Ive always preferred it when ive gone by myself.

Heaven. I have done this, and it was dreamy. I’ve also done a spa day with a friend and my DM, and much as I love them, my idea of relaxing categorically involves not talking to people, so on my own is best. Also when on holiday if the hotel has a spa I always spend some time there, on my own as DH isn’t interested.

Currently lying in a large comfy bed all to myself at a lovely spa hotel awaiting breakfast.

It's bliss. Had a lovely day yesterday spa-ing, wonderful massage, good meals and just chilling with my book and a glass of wine.

I have a great husband, great family and friends, several of which would be happy to join me. Sometimes it's just nice to do exactly what you want to do without any consideration for anyone else.

I would absolutely hate to do a spa day with other people. I did one last week (xmas present) and I napped, read a book, hopped in and out of the sauna/pool, treatment, another nap. If I had to co-ordinate with anyone else when would I nap?!

Sounds amazing

I wouldn't have thought spa days are supposed to be 'fun', more relaxing, indulgent, luxurious or something. Anyone wanting fun might be better doing something else.

There are quite a few posts I see here abut whether it's weird to do things alone - go to the cinema being another one. I'll always do things by myself, including foreign travel, and don't understand people (women) who view it as odd but it does lead to some interesting conversations.

I feel a bit sorry for those who don't do things solo.

Of course I would - in fact, it’s sometimes better alone.

Your friend sounds like one of those people who doesn’t have the confidence to do things independently.

I go every week at least once. I have a membership, as do many others. Your friend is the weird one!

Your friend sounds as though she is very insecure and immature if she needs her pals there to validate the experience.

She doesn't sound like she has confidence and the ability to be in her own company. There's nothing finer than being in a spa alone!

Very, very normal. I go alone all the time, and see lots of other people there clearly doing the same. Your friend sounds envious - maybe they never found the confidence to do anything alone, or they're cursed with clingy friends/family.

My friend thinks it’s weird and going to the spa is something you do with friends and would be boring alone.

People with mindsets like this are usually extremely insecure (and boring themselves!). They usually don’t have the confidence or courage to do things alone so they act like someone else doing it is “weird”.

I wish more people would go alone and then the peaceful relaxing experience wouldn't be disturbed as much by those who go in pairs and groups and spend the entire time talking.

Not at all, I did it once and I had the best day. I got to read my book in peace and take the whole day as leisurely as I wanted. I actually preferred it to going with friends.

This is exactly what I did last weekend. It was lovely.

DH buys me a spa day every Christmas (it's what I ask for) and I go alone every year.

The peace and quiet is wonderful. I have never given it a second thought or felt all strange being on my own.

There's couples there and groups of friends having a nice time but I just want to fully relax and just suit myself.

Is it possible she's fishing to join you x

DH arranged a spa day for me mid week when DD was 9 months old, it was heaven, I was more than happy to have the day by myself at that point. I also know lots people who have done the same, go for it OP and enjoy

I prefer going alone. I have lovely friends but I go to a spa to relax and enjoy the peace and quiet.

Your friend should be pitied, is she also the type who wouldn’t go to a restaurant alone?

The best way to do it imo. I’ve had several three or four day spa breaks on my own. It’s bliss.

I have done a few spa days alone - and once even included an overnight stay. Just me, relaxation, my own thoughts, some healthy food…sometimes it is much needed.

I did a spa day where I was not alone - as part of a hen weekend a few years ago - which was the first time I had not been alone. It was not relaxing at all for me. Rushing to the right room at the right time. Expectations of always part of a conversation but the people changing constantly so having to repeat lots of the conversations multiple times. Being in my bathing suit in front of a group while lying on a lounger, but not really being able to just go and have a swim (what else would you do in a pool but swim, normally?!) - if I am not swimming but actually on a lounger, I want to read my book or a magazine in peace as I so rarely get that time to do it.

i haven’t tried it with company since. But I still love a solo day when I get a chance.

I love spa days alone. In fact my DH gets me a spa day voucher for my birthday every year and I love it.

Nope I have done it before. Loaded my Kindle full with books and had a great time.

Even when I go with a friend we don't spend the whole day together. She prefers way hotter saunas than I do for example.