To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

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Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

Yep. My DP was in army and says they were always getting naked, mooning. I read that story to him and his response was “probably a squadie”

Not sure why you had to mention she was “hugely fat”

@southerner29 to your point about older ladies not necessarily being easily shocked, I recently heard someone suggest that the lines on a woman's face are like the stripes on a wasp- there to warn people that they can take care of themselves, and might sting. I'd say juvenile Sausage Bap Man was lucky if it didn't get stabbed by a fork, far from giving old ladies the vapours.

Your last sentence is why i refuse to watch horror films. If someone can think of it, someone else can probably get their kicks out of doing it.

@Lurkingandlearning Not booing you, and not condoning the behaviour either. But for me, the fact he was approaching old ladies makes it less bad, because old ladies are a) less likely to think they are being propositioned or targeted sexually and b) more likely to he able to turn a quip ridiculing the tiny chipolata without giving offence in return. I'm not quite ready to describe myself as an old lady yet, but if a youngster at a wedding offered me a buttered willy roll today I'd be much less troubled by it than 20 year old Hubertus would have been, and reaching for a fork rather than smelling-salts.

I agree

Its the sort of thing that would have left me feeling violated when I was younger but now, in my 50's, I would have no bother making my feelings clear. Probably along the lines of "You need a smaller bun"

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I don't watch them either!

I agree about the penis thing actually. I am only in my early 40s, but if someone got his population-paster out at me now I would probably roll my eyes and say 'put it away ffs' or 'doesn't look very appetising!' rather than a younger me who would have been shocked.

There we go again with the victim shaming. Now they are "pathetic and weak" if they don't like it.

This is the sort of attitude that leads women to berate women like Sandy Peggie and the Darlington nurses for objecting to a naked penis in their work changing room. Women who object are sent to change in cupboards while the men get full access, alongside all the "robust" women who don't mind.

It suggests that anyone who objects is unreasonable. Well they aren't. They are simply protecting pretty universal boundaries.

Oh give over. Start another thread and stop trying to spoil this one.

As a health care worker we are often treated to such sights ( minus bread roll). I have a colleague who often says ‘oh that looks like a penis only smaller’ in a completely disinterested tone that soon has them tucking it away😂

Mine cost £15k 24 years ago so not bad going so far!

My mother worked as a theatre nurse in A&E. They saw all sorts. One of the doctors once sneered at a drunk flasher 'It's like a button on a fur coat'.

... and before that, the tale of a waiter offering his "wares" (in this case on a sliver platter and garnished with salad) to unsuspecting ladies featured in actor David Niven's autobiography, which described his life in Hollywood in the 1940s and 1950s.

It wasn't my attitude. It was an attitude that I was referencing. But yes, as a PP said, let's not derail a fun and (mostly) lighthearted and entertaining thread.

People Can be strange and weirdly take it upon themselves to be offended for all.
People take/ do coke (as demonstrated on here) and the fact it’s on most bank notes.
’Gurning’ is not just for the latter throws of addiction to cocaine. Speed can also make you gurn and also gives you a ‘billy Willy’ which also leads onto….
Willies, penis’, Johnson’s, pork swords etc. My ex brother in law (rugby winger) used to rest it on my mum’s shoulder and see how long it took her to notice. A firm swat and an ‘oh *’ used to encourage him to tuck it away again. She used to find it funny, it made many a family picture.

We aren’t all cut from the same cloth. Is it really such a stretch (on a light hearted thread) to even entertain we might find different things funny? Not normal? Not acceptable? Just…. Oh well…..

We definitely need the laughing emoji back! 👏👏

OK, my last post on the subject , but are we really saying it's ok to sexually abuse women if they are old?!!

Literally nobody is saying that.

....but it probably is okay to body shame a flasher

Yes yes that is exactly what everyone is saying...🙄

So, posting the hot dog story as an “example of the worst behaviour” (see title) is “really saying it’s ok?”

I have been part of a wedding where the bride was forced to sleep on the pull out couch bed the night before (despite paying for everything).
I have been to a wedding where the brides supposed “best friend” was incredibly jealous and kept saying “He had to get drunk to marry her” - they are no longer friends.
I was helping at a wedding where the bride turned full on bridezilla and refused to pay anyone to set up her wedding so instead she had family and friends do the set up for her, whilst she got a mani pedi, came in to scream at us for doing the napkins wrong and then left again to get her hair done. When the actual ceremony was over, her new husband went to the pub and had to be forced to do the speeches - he was dragged back by his bride screaming the whole way that it was HER day and it was NOT ABOUT HIS FRIENDS.
I went to a wedding as a guest where a new mum wasn’t allocated any space for pumping, despite being reassured she would have somewhere, the venue and couple decided the mum and baby could “deal with it for a few hours”. Mum left after 3 hours as she was in too much pain. Once she had left the bridal couple trashed her to everyone who would listen saying that she was causing sooo much drama on their day. She had enquired discreetly and left when the party started - no one except those sitting beside her knew.
I also served at several weddings: we had a lovely bride who clearly had a lot of relatives staying over. They were all absolutely wasted and ended up falling over themselves to try and flirt with 14/15 year old waitresses. When her brother tried to shove £20 into my top, winked and said “see ya later” I told my boss who had the whole thing closed down. There were tears and screaming, the whole nine yards, but I will never forget this beautifully dressed 24 year old woman screaming at the top of her lungs “you broke my wedding, you punk ass cowboy” in the most southern of southern American accents I had ever heard.
I served a wedding where the best man was sleeping with the bride, groom was sleeping with the maid of honour. They went through with the wedding, during the reception the truth came out. Punches were thrown, it calmed down, groom takes maid of honour to her room, bride invites best man to the bridal suite. Instructs me to “get the registrar on the phone to change the names on the paper”. It was very weird explaining I was 15 and had no way of doing that.
The magician hired by the couple set a table on fire….evacuation of a 1500s Manor House….
A couple hired a local dance instructor to entertain their guests whilst having photos taken. None of the guests even moved, the poor dance instructor was mortified and ended up refunding the couple.
yeah there have been a few!

Thank you @ToffeePennie for rescuing the thread- you've given us some proper humdingers here. I'd take 'wedding-breaking punk ass cowboy' as a badge of honour in the circumstances.

“ Instructs me to “get the registrar on the phone to change the names on the paper”.

Yeah do that. Sounds simple enough!

Before these very very sensitive times, 20 year olds were able to deal with this sort of thing, (I almost wrote handle these sort of things!) I recall a group of us being flashed at by a member of the dirty mac brigade and we all laughed, Is that the best you can manage?, he got really offended and stormed off!