To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

I don't think penis-bun is real!

Why not? There really are men out there that behave that way. I know a friend of a friend whose partner gets his penis out in every group photo taken that he’s in. He thinks he’s hilarious. He is also ex military. I think they must like getting their knobs out.

Someone said it happened

How does that lead you to the conclusion that it didn’t happen?

The bride, wedding a couple of years ago. Got trashed and started screaming abuse at her new husband on the dance floor. His lovely family left in tears. Her equally offensive son was wandering around effing and blinding. Great night only made even more exciting by the people we took home to ours to sleep as they fell over in the road (60mph blind bend) and from the 1st car that stops a woman gets out and sits in the road with them . Very memorable.

Yes!!!

Google cancelled celebrity John Barrowman! He regularly got his Weiner out.

Someone once did it to me at a barbecue - I can believe it’s real.

Ah! So it was taken from the scene of a film. Thank you!

Yes!

There’s a difference between men pulling this stunt amongst their mates and doing it towards elderly women at a wedding. Which someone has just pointed out was taken from a film. The poster who gave us this anecdote hasn’t returned to the thread. It just seems unlikely and either way certainly not worth people getting upset about.

I totally agree. I appreciate everyone is different, but the bride's behaviour is very over the top. It's a bit of ink on a frock, surely it doesn't have to ruin her wedding? Have a good time, see the funny side, tell the elderly priest not to worry and get on with it. We're a long time dead.

What. The. Actual. Fuck.

Not all elderly women are the same, they're people. I mean my Mother is 81 and wouldn't have been traumatised by that (and she's not a rough and ready type of elderly woman either). She'd have probably threatened to stab it and told him to beggar off.

You know that's victim shaming, as in "I was never sexually harassed, they wouldn't have dared" ie you are disregarding other women's feelings and experiences as irrelevant and showing a degree of superiority into the bargain.

No, it isn't! PPs have assumed elderly women would be distressed by the sleazy prank. Nobody actually said they were. Several older posters have said what they imagine they'd do if offered a 'wiener' at a wedding, not one of them saying they'd be shaking and crying, gasping or fainting.

YOU are the one making assumptions about elderly women's generic victimhood.

This is what I was getting at. 'Poor little elderly pathetic women'. Who says?

I am not endorsing what the bloke did, of course it isn't right at all. But older women aren't necessarily all pathetic weak characters who've never seen a penis before.

Of course not everyone needs or wants to know about the ways illegal drugs work and why people might take them at a wedding. Not everyone wants to read any post on any thread.

But all that PP did was explain. I didn't see anything self-important within her post. She was explaining to other PPs who had expressed that they didn't understand why someone who does coke may do so at a wedding, why it in fact would be something they would do-i.e. Cocaine is a stimulant and helps keep energy levels up and depletes the effects of alcohol. It is just a fact. I don't think she was implying that anyone was a 'sober dickhead'.

In essence, people who readily use cocaine, would not necessarily decide to not do it at a wedding. They would be likely to because weddings are often long, booze-filled food-scarce days where it is very easy to end up drunk and tired.

Again, I have never used cocaine in my life but I have worked with and been around those who do (ex police staff and ex nightclub promoter).

It's just the truth.
I don't think calling someone a 'wanker' for explaining to those who are ignorant about a subject is called for really.

Unfortunately I can readily believe the 'penis in bread bun' story too. It having been on a film does not mean the PP made it up. People copy things from films all the time.

People imitate film scenes.

And vice versa.

Ex best mate’s wedding.
She was a complete Bridezilla from the get go and didn’t let her poor fiancée have an opinion on anything to do with the whole thing. She got stroppy when people complimented my hair and make up (bridesmaid who didn’t usually wear dresses/heels).
Then her hugely fat aunt who had a really sour faced expression all day, made a complete show of herself by drinking so much she was sick outside the venue and had to be ‘hoisted’ into a car home by lots of burly male relatives whilst loudly crying.
Bride threw a strop over something to do with photos, over colour of napkins (yes really!) and then got hammered and spent the reception with her make up smeared all over her face. The whole event was like a Jeremy Kyle episode 😂
Best man (who didn’t usually like the bride) then gave a really awkward speech where he pretty much told the groom he was making a hell of a mistake marrying her and nearly got hit by the father of the bride.
The whole thing was an absolute farce and the groom thankfully divorced her less than a year later. Still friends with him and he’s such a lovely person that I cannot fathom how they ever paired up in the first place!

Her wedding cost so much that her parents remortgaged their own house to pay for it and then divorced due to the financial stress not long after!

Awful family. Funnily enough, she wasn’t invited to mine several years later and I don’t regret it one bit ☺️

My mum would have said "That hot dog looks like a willy, only smaller..."😀

At my own wedding, my DF speech basically turned into him talking about all the different PhD students he'd mentored along the years. Not in a sexual or suggestive way at all, very factual eg "And then in 1997 when DD was 4, I mentored Rebecca when she did her PhD on blah blah, it was a very interesting thesis. The year after I took on Greg who did xyz" and so on. It was so random and basically he didn't think he needed to write a speech down and winged it, and went off on a weird tangent for far too long 🤷‍♀️

Someone wrote a paper about the inverse relationship between the cost of the wedding and the length of the marriage.

Since mine cost $80 I’m doomed to be with DH for eternity …

I think they were probably correct!

Mine only cost around £5K and we’re still doing great 7 years down the line but all the people I’ve known blow over 20K and upwards have divorced rather quickly! So they could be right with the correlation 😂

‘ex-best mate’s wedding’ - assuming your ex-best mate was the bride rather than the groom as you say you are still friends with him. You don’t seem to like the bride in this story, so how was she ever your best friend?

And you hear about couples who have been together for 10 years or so, they plan a massive wedding and then divorce a year later.