To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

There were some funny things going on at my wedding.

First, my mum who was not at all helpful leading up to the day, made a fuss about having to walk 5 mins to the ceremony from the hotel. So we organised her a ride, but when it was time to leave for the ceremony, she was nowhere to be found and did not answer her phone! When she was finally found hiding in her room, she came down noisily blaming everyone else for the fact that she was late.

Then we had some friends who didn't turn up until late in the evening, didn't say hello to me at all, managed to upset several other guests (slander the company the groom works for in front of several colleagues, hint that the best man and best friend of my BBC husband is a racist), and then left!

That's no excuse though.

I went to a wedding where during the speeches at a very family orientated wedding, the best man pulled out a 24" double ended dildo and swung it around his head before dropping it on the top table in front of the horrified MOTB. He then passed out cock rings to the bride and tried to lead the guests in a rousing sing song of "Can't Take My Eyes Off You" but he didn't know the words and stumbled along until the na-na-na-na part in the chorus. Same wedding where the FOTB stumbled over his speech and said nothing nice or of note about the bride. During the evening do, one distant uncle decided he wanted to do karaoke and sang along to Red Light Spells Danger (despite there being no karaoke!) and at the end of the night the groom dropped the bride in the bridal suite to fend for herself, before spending the rest of the wedding night getting coked up in his best mans room. They're separated now, funnily enough.

I used to work in the Town Hall building next to the Registrar room.

It was always fun when Border Control / Immigration stormed the building for sham marriages. We never got a tip off either, they just barged in unannounced.

Apparently the easiest way to tell it was a sham was the size of the brides wedding ring - they were always massively too big 😆.

Sir David Starkey? He seems the cigar type

My father’s whole speech was about the fact that we’d been living together before marriage and he didn’t approve. No congratulations, no welcome to my husband’s family. Just shock and humiliation all round.

He’s not even religious. Just wanted everyone there to think he was ‘respectable’. Classic narcissist. Neither he nor my mother have ever apologised.

I only heard about this one second hand. Posh wedding, fancy reception venue where guests were staying overnight. Best man got hammered and threw up on himself, then appeared in the female duty manager’s office in his pants claiming his trousers had been stolen. Security escorted him to his room where they found his trousers and he didn’t reappear.

Wonder if this was the same funeral I went to, my Dad's cousin passed quite young (early 50's) and her daughter of course was grief stricken however she proceeded to get very very drunk and danced on the table amongst other things.

You must have been at my DD wedding, my ex husband during his speech also called here an elephant.

Please do tell...

We were invited to our neighbours wedding eeception at our local village hall. Low key wedding with family providing the buffet. Unfortunately they underestimated how much food was needed and everything was cleared in a few minutes. Lots of arguments and eventual fist fights and tears.
We left and had fish and chips from a local take away.

Or the MN favourite ‘this screams autism to me!’

An uncle listening to football on his headphones during the speeches, and then loudly celebrating when his team scored a goal. There's a time and a place isn't there?

My wedding:
SIL turned up in what looked suspiciously like a wedding dress (image should be shown once approved)
MIL didn’t speak to me all day - I never did find out why, but didn’t utter a word to me all day despite being fine with everyone else, and she had a face like a slapped arse on all the pictures.

When I married my first husband he was in the RAF and we had our reception in the club house. This was early eighties. One of the other airmen got really drunk and for some reason decided to smash up the phone box. Nobody really enjoyed it after that.

A guest wearing a very revealing, very tight and VERY short bright red clubbing dress. With no knickers. I spent the day wondering whether I should tell her that she shouldn't be going up and down the stairs but I didnt know her and she was a bit scary.

A woman who came on to the grooms boss, and two of the brides older cousins (50s), who were all with their wives. As in, asking them if they wanted to have sex with her, what would they do to her etc. When the men pointed out they were married and the wives were present, she said "put her to bed then fuck me". Then fell over outside and refused to get up.

The best man (brother of the groom), who's a TV and radio celeb, tried to turn the day into a celebration of what a great guy he is. He'd made a lengthy video presentation to play as part of his speech, mainly of his favourite clips of himself on TV. And he wanged on about how he's always been there for the groom even though his life had taken a very different (glamorous, exciting) path to his office worker brother's. We were all chewing our fists willing it to end.

My wedding to my 1st husband some 30 yrs ago. Our local pub had several undesirables who would have gatecrashed had we had the reception locally so we hired 2 coaches. 1 for those attending the whole day and 1 for evening guests and bussed everyone to the reception venue around 30 miles away.

Part way through the evening a stir went around, it was a woman who had walked in, fluorescent cycle shorts and crop top with make up to match. I didn't know who it was and she seemed to quickly disappear again. Until she reappeared very very drunk having tried to proposition my new husband. Turned out it was an ex girlfriend and though he hadn't seen her in years, she had arrived back in the local area and went to the pub. On enquiring why it was so empty she was told why and had got a taxi to the venue. She was chucked out, gobbing off all the way.

Many years later I was running a bar and she walked in, and I had great delight in barring her.

My husband's cousin got married 3 months after my MIL died suddenly (so, the bride's auntie). FIL was the most tactless person ever and after the wedding reception he disappeared before the evening party. We moved to the room where the evening party was held and DH's uncle said "Your dad's back, with his harem". FIL was sitting at a table with 3 women whom none of us knew, with a grin on his face, like the cat who got the cream.

SIL and the bride were crying in the toilets as they were very much feeling the loss of their mum/auntie. DH and his uncle were furious.

2 weddings I saw:

The wedding party was in the dodgy pub next to the registry office. The bride's dress was beautiful but she had made zero effort to hide the back of the bra and she was quite drunk. The men kept hugging her which we thought was odd. Just as we realised what was happening, her friends did as well. The men were taking it in turns to try to undo her bra. Understandably her friends kicked off. We quickly left after one of the women threw a pint glass. TBF I understand why that kicked off. We would have told her if we'd realised sooner. I hope she saw sense and divorced the loser who has friends like that.

The same registry office has a balcony overlooking the town square. It's common for people to have photos on there. What is less common is for grubby men to decide it's funny to wee over the balcony.

@asco Massive damages deposit maybe?

I imagine as the bride, she’d be at the top
table…

We had 2 minor inconveniences that annoyed me.

Everyone stayed the night before (at our expense). We made a mistake with the rooms and put "Dave" in a downstairs room nearest the social areas. Dave was only there as an obligation/favour. We had a relative who struggled to walk and accidently put her near the back with stairs. As soon as we realised (and before anyone had chance to unpack) we asked Dave if he would change rooms and explained why. He refused and said he didnt want to walk that far. So instead he let an elderly lady struggle/have to constantly ask for help.

Another relative bought a dog without even asking if the hotel allowed them! The hotel did with a hefty charge which we ended up paying.

Also I once stole the limelight and passed out at my friends’ wedding reception. I had a really bad stomachache - said to the person next to me that I felt ill and I didn’t want to get up or I’d pass out. The next thing I was coming to and the guests were cordoned off so I could be attended to (by a guest who was a medic). I was a bit of a serial fainter so not too concerned for myself, but I completely freaked the groom out (was a small wedding and he was right there!! Once I’d recovered a bit I felt much better and tucked in to dessert!!