To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

When the couple got back from honeymoon, and the wedding photos were due to be delivered, the photographer phoned the bride (my friend) and asked her to come in to the studio
He showed her some shots where the bride was with the bridesmaids one by one ... and in the background of a few, the groom had his hand up the bride's 15 y/o cousin's skirt

Ah bless 💐

Uncle of the groom flashing his penis at a waitress (but visible to everyone) on the dancefloor.

Oh dear!

I accidentally hurled a baby across the dancefloor.

My family friends little girl, I was dancing with her and thought it would be fun to gently spin her round, but I lost my grip. She went flying. I was absolutely mortified. Thankfully she was ok and her parents were understanding.

But I went to bed straight after that, at about 7pm. I wasn't really drunk or anything. It was just a foolish accident. But I was too ashamed to carry on!

My cousin's best man made a 'joke' in his speech about how he thought my cousin was in fact marrying a man?! The bride looked absolutely seething.

Another groom did a speech featuring endless anecdotes about what a gold digger the bride was. How she was just after his money. She looked strangely fine with it?!

I’ve been to all alcohol free wedding - don’t do it! It turns people into teenagers, sneaking alcohol left right and center. It turned feral, the actual teenagers were drinking too as they were blackmailing the adults to give them drink. People had car boots full of alcohol and people lingered outside drinking. It certainly spiced up a boring wedding.

Me & my husband who was my newly bf had attended his boss' wedding..
The day it self was lovely.. however the evening went abit pete tong. The groom was rubbing himself up against every female he could see, ended up standing me up & spinning me around... later on i went to the bathroom the queue was big so thought I'd pop into the disabled as I needed to go (weak bladder) anyway.. as I opened the door the groom was being ridden & had one sat on his face & his hand up another... I slammed the door & quietly said to the wife "there something going on in the disabled" she said "Oh, I know.. its a lifestyle"
The marriage lasted 12 months. Both have since moved on & married other people. Whether their "lifestyle" remained i do not know!!

I've always supposed that it's not the 'fresh air' as such, it's the fact that you start moving about more. Usually when you're drinking hard you are sitting down in a room and it's when you start walking outside that the physical activity makes you notice that everything is going round and round and your legs won't obey you and...whoops.

Presumably it was pushed into a low window, rather than hurled above his head into a large one.

Evening reception for my wedding my older sister punched my BIL (her husband) in the face. He got knocked through the doorway and was flat out on the floor.
I was very, very glad my 'genteel' new ILs had already left ...

One of the wedding party had far too much to drink too early, loudly projectile vomited over the table in front of them (and over the handbags/dresses of those unlucky enough to be sitting beside them) and had to be escorted/carried out - all during the speeches, It was red wine vomit too, which made it all the worse.

A fight ensuing after the bride was caught having sex with someone who was not her brand new husband. Many more (years working in hospitality).

AIBAPC? (Am I being a pearl-clutcher?)

Some of these are horrible! I think the man who put his dick in a roll and offered to it to the elderly ladies was actually committing an indecent act and it shouldn't be trivialised.

Yes, some crude and neanderthal men will do this kind of thing...with their revolting mates, and we can only roll our eyes and avoid them. But when you involve 'non-combatants', women, or elderly people surely that crosses a line into near-sexual assault?

If he'd done that anywhere near me I'd have reported him to the police. It's indecent exposure and involving others in a sexual act. The message has got to be got across that you can't get away with that kind of thing in a public place.

This one made me wee with laughter but I can imagine the horror on their faces & how uncomfortable they would have been.

A family wedding - Best Man’s speech referenced the groom licking the bride’s arsehole. Those exact words.

My own wedding - XH’s auntie walked up to me after the ceremony, pulled the front of my wedding dress forward and shoved a fistful of confetti down the front of my dress.

At the evening reception, my parents had arranged a singer ‘as a surprise’. It was a cheesy club singer from the Working Man’s Club my dad liked to go to. I was mortified, and stayed in the bar until he’d finished. Basically, my dad didn’t want to miss his night out, so he brought it to the wedding.

Oh, and I didn’t get any of the buffet at the evening reception. I was busy circulating and nobody thought to bring me any food or even tell me the buffet was open, so I ended up with nothing to eat.

The father of the Bride spent his entire speech talking about how his daughter was too good for the groom & he & her mother would welcome the bride back home with open arms if the marriage failed.
Following the wedding, her parents interfered in the marriage so much that couple separated a few years later.

At a close friends wedding, another friend of the bride decided to announce her pregnancy to everyone and managed to shoehorn it in to any conversation she had & loudly announce why she wasn't drinking etc. The bride was not happy!

Yeah poor bride refusing to listen to other people’s feelings and railroading someone into marrying her who didn’t want to marry her. Poor bride! 🙄

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Oh dear, those "gal-pals" don't cover themselves in glory 😂😂😂

Honestly I never realized people where such dickheads until I got married... people complained constantly, made every little thing a huge deal all about them. Its the most stressful thing I ever did and if I had to do it again I would elope.

My own wedding. 17 years ago. A friend who was commonly known to drink to excess and use drugs. He can and used to rein it in where appropriate, and we thought he would for the wedding.

Nope.

He got rowdy, abusive, started a punch up with someone. We had 6 groomsmen and all of them were missing for probably 1.5hrs of the beginning of the reception trying to get him under control. The worst thing he did was kept flashing people and that ended up being a child (not a guest) in the car park.

That is horrible. What happened afterwards?

Credit to the photographer. Some would have just quietly deleted the photos.

My Dad aged 80 was an absolute knob at son's wedding.

He definitely wasn't there to see his Grandson get married , we have now got non contact as his behaviour has been appalling.He also doesn't actually care and we have suffered two forms of abuse in the past from him as children.

@NotDarkGothicMama

I don't think it can be David Starkey, as the individual in question was described as a "Sir", which Starkey isn't (he has a CBE.)

It happens to me when I’ve been dancing though or on my feet all night.