To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

I'm going to be MOB later this year and this thread has made me decide to stay stone cold sober for the whole day 😂

WTF why do people always have to ‘account’ for bad shitty behaviour with it being mental health related!! Getca grip!!

Yes, me too!

We used to go out to discos ( I am old) and dance for hours thinking that our previous time in the pubs would have ‘worn off’

The air hit us and we were drunk again! 🤷‍♀️

It’s a weird thing, just curious as to how it works!

My own wedding where:

I walked up the aisle in a cloud of weed smoke because my heavily pregnant addict sister who was BM (I didn't want her to be, she didn't want to be, Mum made us) decided to light up a joint as we walked in. She also refused to have her dress fitted and wore dirty old trainers under her (thank goodness) floor length dress. As soon as the meal was over she changed into a tiny vest top and denim daisy dukes and sat with a face like thunder because I wouldn't invite her drug addict, jailbird abusive boyfriend.

My brother forgetting to bring dummies and snacks for his two daughters and looking to me for a solution (food I could help with, dummies I couldn't) and refusing to go to the open shop 5 minute walk away so all my family had to leave and go home with him (my mum had booked a minibus to take them the 60 miles home because none of them would pay for a hotel).

My nana asking me over and over to ask the DJ to put "Rocking All Over The World" on at the night do - as if she didn't have legs or a mouth of her own

A guests plus one who repeatedly asked me to allow her husband in (I didn't know her, let alone her husband and we were already at capacity) and when I said no, she got wasted on red wine, passed out in the toilets and they had to call an ambulance for her.

We'd booked the room until midnight under the strict instruction to stop the music at 11:45. We were halfway through the last song at 11:35 and the DJ turned off the power and flipped the lights on because he wanted to go home early.

My cousins girlfriend who used it as a stage to loudly push for an engagement of her own and loudly moaned about our cheap and cheerful wedding to anyone who would listen and told them all how she would do it differently (I got her back 8 months later when I announced my pregnancy at a big family event, stealing her thunder - she had planned to announce her own pregnancy but as I was 13 weeks, in my late 30's and had been trying forever, I got a lot of attention and she decided to leave it another few weeks as she was only at 8 weeks herself!)

Ah…the ‘sisterhood’

My family are very straight laced and none of their friends who are all professionals in advanced fields misbehave.
So my sisters wedding was a disaster thanks to my now ex husband who I was disgusted with.
He got completely rat arsed and I found him outside the marquee entrance lying on the ground covered in vomit, all the guests were stepping over him.
I've never been so embarrassed in all my life, then later he was staggering about outside and tripped over the electricity cables and all the lights in the marquee went out.
This wedding was being attended by diplomats and various other people like that.
I divorced him soon after, he'd done this more than once and I just felt it was disgusting behaviour from a grown man.

ExH’s mate pissed in the corridor all over the carpet when drunk. Apparently he had form but my ex didn’t think this should perhaps exclude him from the guest list.

Initials SS, right?

David Starkey is a better bet than my guess.

This was many years ago, I wasn’t a guest but we were at the venue. The groom was unconscious through drink and was being carried by his friends, pall bearer style! The poor bride was walking behind them as he was carted away to their room! There followed a huge rammy…I often wonder if they stayed together.

Best Man made a horrendous speech, all of the grooms friends kept chanting like they were at a football match and then the brides dad made a ‘joke’ in his speech about how ordinarily the bride would have been ‘swallowed’ that evening but luckily for her he came too quickly and so she was conceived. I can’t even remember the exact words now, I was so horrified at what I had heard as was everyone else stunned to silence.

Worst I’ve seen was my dads best mates alki wife being carted away from the 11am ceremony, flat out on her back pissed.

The photographer.

It was quite an indie crowd, so lots of quirky, alternative dressers, and lots of festival wristbands. Photographer took extreme exception to all of this and went around putting bad outfits to the back, actually cut off wristbands and forcing hotel wristbands off people too.

Then proceeded to boss people around, correct their posture and snap if anyone didn't meet his standards.

With great difficulty. Dragged/shoved and then tipped through a low window. Managed it fuelled by drink and rage.

Husband's family member, Bride and Groom had been together a long time and had a daughter who would have been about 10 at the time. They announced at the reception that the daughter had prepared a special performance for her dad.
Everyone else was moved to the side and groom was placed in a chair in the middle of the dance floor while 10 year old daughter and her friend did a dance routine for him, while dressed in French maid costumes waving feather dusters around. It was bizarre and the outfits made it insanely inappropriate.
I brought it up recently and DH claimed to have no memory of it so I duly produced photographic evidence, I think he had chosen to blank it out.

On my side, my 18 year old cousin came rather worse for wear having just rolled off the plane from Ibiza and spent the night offering to show everyone her new tattoo which was in quite an intimate spot.

I couldn't agree more. Not too many years ago they were just an arsehole 😉🙄

Did you actually witness it? I only ask because: Moving a standard slate-bed pool table in the UK, such as a 7ft pub-style table, requires at least
four to six strong people to lift it safely, owing to a weight that often exceeds 200–300 kg (roughly 450–700+ lbs).
Because of the extreme, concentrated weight of the slate, simply "throwing" a fully assembled table is virtually impossible and highly dangerous; it requires careful, coordinated lifting, often with lifting straps.
Here is the breakdown of the effort required:

• Weight Factors (UK): A standard 7ft English slate-bed pool table weighs approximately 200kg to 300kg. A 6ft table is slightly lighter, but still averages around 180kg.
• Minimum Personnel: While two extremely strong people might lift one side, moving a full slate table safely, particularly through a window, would require 4–6 strong people.
• The "Throw" Constraint: To get a table through a window, it would likely need to be flipped onto its side, which requires substantial leverage and strength to prevent the slate from cracking or the table snapping its own legs.

Actually, no it isn't. Starkey is not a KBE. I back my original guess of Sir Simon Schama.

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One of DH’s childhood friends got married…..the bridal party arrived at the church door, ready to walk down the aisle, when it became apparent that the groom was still in the pub around the corner with his sister and a few family members. Fifteen minutes later someone was dispatched to drag him over to the church, which took several attempts. He made it to the altar, swaying, with a big red shiny face and a stupid grin, but his sister (bridesmaid) was so drunk she fell over the step in front of the altar, taking out a flower arrangement, and had to be carried back to her seat.

Then, a couple of years later he was our best man – he was too drunk to do his speech, and lost his car keys in a field, so was unable to drop us to the airport for our honeymoon the next day. Spent most of our wedding singing, with his shirt off.

Good thing we love him…. and he’s still married. His wife is a saint.

I think said groom must have either been the Incredible Hulk or Giant Haystacks.

I think the PP who told the story has more or less confirmed that it was D Starkey.

I was going to ask if his clothes were 5 sizes too small and ripped afterwards.

Was it in a bread roll with butter? 😂😂😂

Minor compared to these. Dessert was served and it was a piece of cake each with a gravy boat of cream between 4. This woman grabbed the gravy boat and basically poured it over her slice. Nothing for the rest of us. In loud voices we asked others on the table for spare cream. She wasn't bothered. Wish I had said something to her greedy gob.