To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

[Onempretime7788]

I would have thought post 35 was rare

??? This has to be a joke thread!

Are you new to Mumsnet @Onempretime7788?

My friend had her first 18 months ago aged 44. Why would 35 be rare?!

Stop it now 🤣 I'm 36 and will be trying for my first later this year.

Menopause is later than 35 so why does it surprise you?

Not impossible

Start now!

Very possibly. I was two weeks short of 39 when I had my third, I'm sure it wasn't anything unusual. The midwife knew of a woman who'd had her children at 44 and 48. I went through the menopause at 44!

Eh? Are you new to Earth? 44 is not that unusual.

I dunno, this is MN where everyone knows at least 6 people who got pregnant first try at 57, and age-related fertility decline is just a myth peddled by the patriarchy to keep us down.

It took me 7 years and 6 pregnancies to have a live birth. I started trying at 33. The problem was low egg quality, which is a factor of the ageing process.

People age differently. Some women have good quality eggs into their 40s, but they are statistically the exception.

We hear about those people, so it seems more common than it is. We don’t hear about all the people who try in their 40s and don’t succeed. The pregnancies that don’t happen, or don’t go to term, are not visible.

The only person I know who had a baby in their mid-late 40s used a donor egg.

When my great aunt had a baby aged 45, she thought she was going through menopause. She'd had her first at 22.

These days it's not that uncommon (although suboptimal from a health risk point of view).

Why I'm not on deaths door lol. I've just lost 7 stone and enjoying a few nonths of that first! I only want one baby so all will be well. I'm a young 36, look young, feel young, no health issues, very regular periods I'm good!

My mum had me at 44. I had my only child two weeks short of 38.

You faint the piss OP? Where have you heard it’s rare post 35?

My paternal grandma had my dad at aged 48, in the 50’s.

Looking young and feeling young have fuck all to do with anything.

Where are you people living? It’s not normal. It’s fine for your first, much wanted and tried for baby or maybe your 9th in the 1950s. That’s it though. The shock on here is so fake and also a little funny.

As a sample size of one 2/3 of my babies were born after I turned 35.

Not in the slightest bit rare.

I had ds (my only) at 45. Bit of a surprise. My dm had babies at 35, 38, 40, 42 and 44 intentionally.

My dsis had dniece at 44, dSIL had dniece2 at 43. My closest friend had her ds at 45.

All without medical intervention.

If you have a busy career first, or take time finding the right partner, babies come later.

My 3rd was born 5 month before I turned 39 and my friend had her one and only, with no intervention, at 45

so yeah no faux shock here

So two examples?
or one rather.

I also said healthy and regular periods LOL. I'm not exactly a menopausal women unable to get pregnant.

35? 🤣 I didn't have my first until I was 37.

Op obviously doesn’t live in London - anyone pregnant under 35 seems young!

You and your friend are not a large demographic. You may think you are. But you’re not. I’m assuming you have no other mums to compare with?

More women 40+ are having kids than teens nowadays. It’s not surprising to me.