To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

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I would have thought post 35 was rare

That's crazy. Do you live in an area where people have their kids v young?

I had mine at 33 and 38, my sister had her last two at 38 and 44. My friends had their babies somewhere between 34 and 40. My school Mom friend had hers at 40 and 42. Plenty of Mom's at school gates in their mid 20s (youngest are 6) for their first child but plenty wh odef conceived late 30s / early 40s.

I’m 36 and we’re planning to start TTC when I’ll have just turned 38. You’ve got time to enjoy your weight loss (and well done on it!)

Edit to add we also only want one, so we won’t have issues around babies being born close together and whatnot.

My shrivelled up ovaries and I managed to make 2 whole children after the age of 35.

Talk about defying all the odds.

Might write a book about it since it's so rare. Wonder who will play me in the film?

What?

I take public transport in London with my baby and have often struck up conversations with mums who are in my age group (early to mid 30s) who have 1 teenage child and 1 v young baby. Reason is multiple dads so I guess that means a large gap. They often want a third as well..even people who had their kids as teen mums continue to have kids into late 30s so why wouldn't someone want to have a first child in late 30s.

Thank you x

What?

I'd say as a rule of averages, having regular periods every month as opposed to one or twice a year implies better reproduction health and thus greater chance of conception. Of course it doesn't mean any one person will conceive over any other woman, but you're less likely to have PCOS or similar if you have typical, regular periods vs going a year without one. That makes it hard to get pregnant and never knowing when it light come makes it hard to plan sex

I had all of my babies post 35. First at 36, 2nd at 42, 3rd at 45. The average age of mother's where I live is 31-32. So there a significant portion above that.

I only want one as well and my dh even had a vasectomy when I was 6 months pregnant. For me the reason to have 1 are housing related (not likely to change as we live in London and dont wish to move) and also health (gestational diabetes which is v likely in a second pregnancy) but even i wavered a little after my first. I dont regret it at all as a second really isn't viable for us at all. But most people who do decide to have children do have 2. It is very hard to say what parenting will feel like if you aren't a parent and therefore hard to say how many you will want.

I am typing this while my 7 month old is sound asleep, he sleeps a good 6 hours and only wakes up v briefly to feed at my boob then falls asleep again. He is a joy. People said it would be years of sleepless nights but that isnt the case (fingers crossed). If you have the finances and a straightforward pregnancy (or are simply better at managing gestational diabetes, i was on insulin), you might just want 2..

It definitely does. You’re right.
You can have regular periods with anovulatory cycles for example. That was my point, and it isn’t uncommon after 35. A gp and then a gynaecologist told me this when I was ttc number 2.
My comments are based on having ttc in late thirties after conceiving in early thirties. I’m not trying to get at anyone. I’m sharing my own experience.

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Haha I do literally know someone who had her first and only baby at 50. 45 is very doable.

You seem quite ignorant.

The pill has only existed for 60 odd years, this was adopted far more swiftly by women than any type of condom-esque sheath ever was by men and was far more reliable.

Women having children beyond the age of 35 in to their 40’s, is the norm historically.

Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

I don't think 36 is old but I don't think looking young and feeling young has anything to do with it. regular periods may help but I dont know aobut that. I didnt have kids so I dont have any personal experience to draw on

Thanks, DP and I are aligned on only having one child. DP is an only, both my nephews are onlies and our friendship group is a mix of child-free by choice or one-and-done (or planning to be). In our world, parenthood = 1 child! We live in one of the most expensive cities in the world and our social circle consists mainly of dual-high-earning couples, so I know this is not the norm everywhere.

Schrödinger's pregnancy. If you are in your thirties and know you want to have children, assume that it will get harder later on and it's probably not a good idea to wait until your forties to begin TTC.
If you are in your forties and don't want children but are having sex assume you are still very capable of getting pregnant naturally and act accordingly.

It's not really what Schrödinger's box was about. But you get my drift.

One of my father's grandmothers had her last child at 45 - this was in 1864. My mother's maternal grandmother also had a child at 45 (in 1894).

Really curious where you live! Maybe we need to live there. I live in nw london and I am the only person I know who is resolutely oad, even the 37 year old mum in my baby group said maybe 2 now she has met some first time mums in their 40s. Even my baby class in highgate is full of mums on their second baby..

Really curious where you live! Maybe we need to live there. I live in nw london and I am the only person I know who is resolutely old, even the 37 year old mum in my baby group said maybe 2 now she has met some first time mums in their 40s. Even my baby class in highgate is full of mums on their second baby..

Why does a pregnant woman’s age matter to you OP?

I have pockets of social groups where most people had their babies in their 20s, others in their early/mid 30s, and some in their late 30s/early 40s. A wanted pregnancy, whether planned/unplanned or very very longed for, is always something lovely to witness, regardless of age!
I am genuinely thrilled for all of them. Each age comes with its own pros and cons, but it’s a unique experience regardless

I think it depends so much on the individual. A friend of mine has just been through IVF to conceive at 38 due to poor egg quality and she already has a nine year old conceived naturally with no problems.

Had 3 35+

You cray cray