Was I mean to neighbour?

[cadburysbunny]

So my next door neighbour has pretty much excluded me since I moved here.

Has mums parties with the other mums on the estate, has a WhatsApp group chat with them etc.
Me and my other neighbour were not invited to join but we know about it from the other neighbours.
From what I hear the other mums have now distanced themselves from her now.

I don't know why as I would take her deliveries in for her when she was at work and was always friendly to her.

Since I found out about the group and about the things she said about me I began refusing her deliveries. She would ignore me (would say hello before) but would always say hello to OH if she saw him.

Suites me fine as as I found her quite intrusive to be honest.

Anyway a note was slipped through the door at 10pm on Wednesday night.

Her and her toddler were ill and would be going to her parents early Thursday morning to recover and wanted me to accept a delivery which was too late to re arrange.

Of course when the delivery came I didn't bother opening the door and it was a large delivery too.

My OH thinks I did the right thing as he knows what she has been like.

I do feel a bit bad was I mean to do this?
Im not a nasty person and usually do help neighbours if they are nice to me but she has cold for no reason.

Hi
I wouldn't have wanted to join the WhatsApp group as it's not really my kind of thing.

But it would have been nice to of been asked and to feel included.

The mum's round here were/are very tight as their kids play/attend the same school so it's all very close knit

Everyone knows everyone's business.

And she does ignore me, I have said hello on a few occasions and she just carries on as if she hasn't heard me.

But I'm glad that it's not just me who has issues with her as I was second guessing myself.

Nope.
Boundaries.
Some of you seem to invite being walked over….

I'd just say sorry, wasn't in, I already had plans. I'd have messaged you but I'm not on the group. Big smile.

If I say Hello to a neighbour, and they ignore me, I will probably attempt it again ONCE...if I get the same response, I just don't bother looking in their direction again.
Neither do I give it a moments thought.
Some people want to be friendly others dont....each to their own. Neighbours don't have to be friends.
It's certainly not worth fretting about.

I think she has a Ring door bell so she would have seen I was in from her phone.

But moving forward I will just continue in keeping my distance as I have been doing and hopefully there will be no more of her parcels being re directed here.

YANBU. After what my neighbours did to me and my family I certainly do not take their parcels in for them anymore. If they're not in isn't my problem.

Sounds like she has reaped what she sowed!

You did the right thing. She seems to think that the world revolves around her.
It doesn't matter if she says she was ill.
The delivery product was not a matter of life or death.

Also if anything did happen to a delivery you had taken in like a mirror.

.Example. If it got inadvertently scuffed or broken in even in its packaging. Who would be responsible for the damage.

Treat people they way they treat you is my motto.

Just give her a wide birth, don't ask her for anything and just ignore her
And look for more genuine friends yo u can trust.

I heard the doorbell ring but the kids were in the bath.