11y/o helping mum after cosmetic surgery

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dontaskagain · 04/02/2026 17:28

(I am not the mum in this situation)

Mum had cosmetic surgery and her 11 year old dd helped her look after her while she recovered, wash, change dressings, toilet etc as well as looking after her self and younger sibling as mum wasn’t able to do much.
11 year old was apparently asked before hand if she was happy to help or if mum should invite friend to stay and throughout and following has seemed happy with arrangement.

I’m not entirely sure what I think but I’m leaning towards absolutely not ideal or a great idea but not terrible or requiring of intervention so for the sake of the thread -

AIBU to think this is okay?

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Candlestickinthediningroom · 07/02/2026 11:15

scabbyfanny · 06/02/2026 18:09

I think its irrelevant that its cosmetic surgery as theres nothing wrong in changing the bits you dont like .
An 11 year old helping out at home for a week or two whilst mum recovers from surgery is no big deal and a great way to teach joint family responsibility ...maybe people should save their concerns for the thousands of young carers who practically rum households and look after siblings and miss school for years because there is no community support.

I have enough concern to go around.

Candlestickinthediningroom · 07/02/2026 11:22

There's also no evidence to prove that cosmetic surgery has any significant impact on mental health beyond a short term boost in confidence.

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