To think DH changed my order?

[Pissedo]

So we have ordered takeaway for dinner. My DH decides on a new place which is fine. I am neurodivergent and also hate chilli or Jalapeños of if I have food from a new place I always order 1 item (usually chips) that I know I will 100% be able to eat.

So DH sends me the link,I put in my name and place my order. I order a burger meal so a burger, chips and a drink.
I was unsure if I would like the burger as it had "house" sauce which in my experience usually means chilli.

It is important to know that the burger I ordered had an offer of 2 burgers for the price of 1 when ordered separately. There was also some loaded fries on the same offer.

The food turns up and there are 4 burgers, 2 loaded fries and some chicken. I check the receipt and my name is not on it and neither is my order. I asked if he changed the order and he is adamant he didn't.

So as predicted the burger was a no go, so U hand it over to DH. so he now has 4 of the same burger to eat. He then gives me 1 box of loaded fries and says they are bbq. They are a sensory nightmare but I pick through trying to eat something. I am beyond annoyed but DH insisted he did not Change the order.

So AIBU to think he is a liar? Would it also be unreasonable to pour the leftover loaded fries over his head?

Why would you think he changed your order rather than that the restaurant got it wrong, especially as your name wasn't on the receipt? Was someone else's name on it?

How could he have changed your order after you added your name and placed the order? (Sorry, I don’t order takeaways so don’t understand the process)

Did he eat 4 burgers??

Sounds more like the order processed wrong rather than your DH deliberately changed it - who wants to eat 4 burgers.

Unless DH has form for that sort of thing, I'd just assume an app/order error rather than anything malicious.

I know (hope) the last bit is a joke, but yes, you would be UR to tip food on another person.

I think you’d be pretty unreasonable to tip food on him just because a takeaway made an error.

why do you jump to him changing it and lying?

Unless your dh is in the habit of lying to you, I'd assume the restaurant made an error?

No, because surely you married a mature intelligent man, not a child? that's the only thing you can think of for the order being wrong, a conspiracy?

Why did you order the burger knowing you might not like the sauce? Didn’t you just ask them to make it with no sauce?

What did your DH order? Burger and some chicken too?

It wasn’t your order.

It had 4 burgers, surely yours would have 2 - one for you and one for your DH

I'm guessing you've received someone else's order by mistake and presumably someone else has received yours. Does your neurodivergence make it difficult to accept an unplanned change of events, leading you to the easier conclusion of blaming others? If so, it might be something work on together with your DH.

I think it would be complicated to change an order. So you order and he rings up and changes it and pays the difference? Sounds like an error was made with the take away. I’ve had that happen a few times. Try and remember, the most likely answer is usually the answer.

Yes as others have said you got someone else's order, you should have contacted the take away and told them and they would change it for you. Once your order has been placed online it's difficult to change it without having to phone, and as it was more food then he would have had to give another card or cash/card at door. It being a new place they probably just mixed up orders. You can adjust toppings to food if it doesn't let you while ordering put a note on it.

There must be some long history I think for you to jump to this conclusion… the restaurant mixed up your order seems the obvious answer

Yeah, it sounds more like a mix-up at the restaurant than devious sabotage by your DH, unless he's done this kind of thing before.

I also don't know why you'd order something with a mystery sauce on it if you are particular about what you eat. I hate mayo, for instance, so I'd never order something that might have mayo on it, and to be sure I'll specify 'no mayo' if there's a chance it might come with it. (Still end up with mayo sometimes 😡, but at least I've tried.)

So with uber eats we do a group order so my dh sends a link to me you can either log in (I think) or write you name in a box and make your order. So it is almost like 2 orders in 1. I tell my DH I am done and he will pay.

The receipt has my DH name and everything he ordered. So 2 burgers, 2 fries and some chicken.
Then it would usually say my name (some places print 2 receipts 1 for me and 1 for him) this time it just said my DH name again and then 2 more burgers.

I ordered the burger because everything else would.not have been an issue and there was no description for the house sauce and there was not the option to.remove that sauce. I like to try new things and sometimes it doesn't work out which is why I ordered the burger meal so I would have chips to eat.

Tipping food over his head was a joke.

DH can be greedy when it comes to food, he can't leave leftover food and will eat it so that it isn't wasted. He is also cheap and if he thought it was cheaper to change my order he deffo would. He would just usually ask first. I would usually eat loaded fries but the combination of these ones was not something I would like.

Dh has not eaten all the burgers yet but he will most likely reheat them and have them later.

If you can't cope with a new restaurant you should have just cooked dinner yourself rather than having a tantrum because you didn't get something you wanted.

Whilst you may be neurodiverse this doesn't justify you acting worse than a five year old who doesn't get the burger he wanted when he knew tonight was pizza night.

You are an adult not a child.

I've tried to get 2 4 1 on an app before and basically there was no facility for 2 different pizzas (in my case). So basically you order 1 and you will get 2 of that pizza. If you order 2 you get 2 of each. You couldn't order 2 different pizzas and pay for 1. But who wants that?!

Did you submit your order or did you hand the phone back to dh to add his order? Did neither of you double check it before you paid? Some of these websites and apps are awful to use and I've had it before where orders got messed up because of the app's poor functionality, it's why I always double check the order before payment. So it may be that yes, your dh did alter the order but not deliberately. It could also be that the restaurant sent the wrong order - what does your order confirmation say and what does your dh think he ordered?

Edited to add: i took so long typing that you updated

"I ordered the burger because everything else would.not have been an issue" - eh?

UE has a bit where you can message the restaurant (people use it for allergens etc). Maybe next time ask for sauce or anything which might cause you an issue to be on the side? Or even if it doesn't (which it does) you could just call them and ask?

Every single takeaway app has a 'note to restaurant' where you can ask for 'no house sauce on one of the burgers please'.

Just sounds like a mix up, stay and help him place the order next time

So you ordered a burger and chips and presumably so did he (plus chicken) and the restaurant added the two free burgers.

Not sure why you couldn’t just scrape the sauce off your burger to be honest. Seems you’d already decided this would be difficult.

Great relationship if that's all you can do pick at small things. The amount of takeaways we've had from different places and the amount of times things are wrong is the takeaways fault, I would never blame hubby who puts it thru for me

You arent being very clear. It reads like you knew u might not like the burger toppings but ordered it anyway.

If not and they sent something different why didnt you ring the place and tell them to send correct order?

Why cant you reorder a plain burger?
Why cant you eat the chicken?

I don’t think you’re suited to take-aways.