To think DH changed my order?

[Pissedo]

So we have ordered takeaway for dinner. My DH decides on a new place which is fine. I am neurodivergent and also hate chilli or Jalapeños of if I have food from a new place I always order 1 item (usually chips) that I know I will 100% be able to eat.

So DH sends me the link,I put in my name and place my order. I order a burger meal so a burger, chips and a drink.
I was unsure if I would like the burger as it had "house" sauce which in my experience usually means chilli.

It is important to know that the burger I ordered had an offer of 2 burgers for the price of 1 when ordered separately. There was also some loaded fries on the same offer.

The food turns up and there are 4 burgers, 2 loaded fries and some chicken. I check the receipt and my name is not on it and neither is my order. I asked if he changed the order and he is adamant he didn't.

So as predicted the burger was a no go, so U hand it over to DH. so he now has 4 of the same burger to eat. He then gives me 1 box of loaded fries and says they are bbq. They are a sensory nightmare but I pick through trying to eat something. I am beyond annoyed but DH insisted he did not Change the order.

So AIBU to think he is a liar? Would it also be unreasonable to pour the leftover loaded fries over his head?

All I've taken from this thread is that OPs DH seems like a greedy sod if he ate 4 burgers, 2 loaded fries and some chicken last night!

I would be annoyed with him as presumably he knows you have issues with food, so even if he felt you had missed an offer why didn't he mention it to you and say oh look you can get two burgers on this offer and you could have said no you didn't want that. Sounds like neither of you are good at communicating (and he also sounds very greedy, as surely offers of two burgers are to share and he sounds piggish having 4!!).

You know what you can and can't eat. Ordering at a new place is a rookie mistake. My DD will eat a burger from McDonald's but can't eat it from Burger King. He'll she wont have milk from anywhere from tesco or pizza from anywhere than sainsburys. Just order what you like from where you like and try a bit of what he is having so you can see if you want it next time.

Does your H generally lie to you? It's a strong reaction. Is it a patten of behaviour or a one off? If he does this shit all the time YANBU to be cross. I'd theis is unusual it would be unreasonable to assume he make the changes and its not a processing order.

ETA: I've just read your updates. So he's admitted he changed your order. Why did he do that? Why does he think he knows best? Does he think your incapable of reading the menu/ offers? It would puss me off. Why does he need to get involved. He asked what you wanted and you ordered what you wanted. He did t care if you missed a deal. He cared that he missed the deal.

I cannot get past the fact that anyone is eating four burgers. Let alone chicken and loaded fries.

I am neurodivergent and I panic when a restaurant gets a takeaway wrong. I have to have the exact same thing every time. People used to laugh at me before neurodiversity became relevant/recognised. "oh why do you ALWAYS have to have yogurt with that?" / "Oh try THIS instead, you're so boring!" etc.

However, I tend to keep this sort of thing to myself and would never take it out on anyone else. In your case, this sounds like the restaurant got it wrong. Does your partner often play pranks on you? I'm unsure as to why you went to a place in your mind where he's the one who tricked you and messed it up deliberately.

Couldn’t you have asked for the burger without sauce? Or scrape the sauce off?

I can't get over the fact that both of them are ordering two each, or get my head around someone ordering burgers that they don't think they'll be able to eat anyway because of the sauce.

I only stated that I am neurodivergent as a way of explaining the texture issues with the loaded fries. Not as a reason for my "behaviour".
Op I think that the issue is saying you are ND is that the term is so over used in relation to issues that really affect much of the population regardless to being ND or not. Not liking chillie or a house sauce can apply to absolutely anyone, especially as its hot and having it on your food can annoy anyone.

Seems unlikely he did that unless you forgot to mention that this is a habit of his.

Why on earth do you think DH would change the order and annoy you?

I try new food yes. I don't think trying a burger counts as new food though tbh.

I don't think it was remotely clear you were joking about your chips. It wasn't a smart thing to add to your post because it made you sound ridiculous and it's hardly helped your argument or to make you look reasonable.

I don't understand the replies. I immediately thought he changed your order, my DH is always chasing a bargain and might have done this - once only because I'd be so annoyed. I thought he was a dick for not admitting it but it seems he didn't realise.

So I guess all is ok apart from you having a crap meal.

Did they double his order by mistake?

All sounds very unsatisfactory. People are being very unkind to you on this thread.

I appreciate I'm ignorant regarding neurodiversity as it's not within my ken but presumably if you were being old fashioned in your language, you just don't like spicy stuff?

100% - it’s like people don’t even bother reading the first post properly any more, let alone the updates. It was fairly obvious that he’d changed the order to take advantage of a 2-for-1 deal - except that this deal came with loaded fries, whereas the OP wanted plain. Not a big deal, but silly of him to lie about it when asked.

The bit I don’t understand is why two double-orders, not one? Was that a mistake or does he typically order and eat that much?

Ordering two double-orders, when that’s far more than you need, is not ‘getting a bargain’ it’s overspending.

Even one double-order for him, plus your single order would be cheaper than two doubles, surely?

yeah I can’t see what the OP has done wrong, she knows she’s fussy about food, but tries new things and has a sensible back up option, so others aren’t affected by her issues.
DH on the other hand, thinks he knows better than the silly woman and ‘fixes’ her order to be wrong.
OP, I have to know, were you in the same room as DH when this was going down or was he or you out at the time? Because the madness is doing the shared order thing rather than handing over the phone for 30 seconds.
Honestly for me it’s heading into LTB territory if he disregards your opinion and underestimates your intelligence like this regularly, especially when he knows that food is an issue for you so you would be careful about what you are ordering.

QUOTED WRONG PERSON, APOLOGIES*
My husband has adhd, second eldest has adhd and my youngest is autistic, plenty of ND in my house so I say this with experience: why are you not asking them for no sauce on your burger? It either gives you the option when you order it or add it to instructions on your order. Also once you've ordered it & they've accepted it, ring them and say "no burger sauce on one burger please"

Read the updates! He DID change the order. Op never suggested the reason was "to annoy her" in the first place.

OP I agree with others that if you have such strong issues with food takeaways sound like a complete waste of money for you, and even more so ordering them in such a convoluted way.

If your dh hadn't changed your order you'd have still ended up with 1 burger you didn't like and plain fries whereas he would have had 2 burgers, special fries and chicken.

Surely it would have made more sense for you to just order plain fries (although tbh still sounds like a completr waste of money for half cold plain chips, i would have just stuck some in the oven that id know I liked) and him to let you have a bite of his burger (seeing as he had all the other food anyway) to try to see if you liked it for next time?

And yeah it was also rude and disrespectful of dh to assume you can't understand a menu and to change your order - plus lying about it the first few times you asked. I wouldn't have been happy either.

OP wants to try the sauce, accepts she might not like it, has planned for that eventuality and has not complained about the fact she didn’t like the sauce.

Let her try the damn sauce!

She’s ND not stupid

So the issue is that he scrapped the meal which included plain fries and a drink as it wouldnt come with a free burger. The free burger deal is only applicable to standalone burgers.

So now that hes admitted he changed the order why didnt you insist he go back on and reorder you your meal or order you something different from another restaurant?? A portion of plain fries. For delivery Or send him out to pick it up? Why would u sit there and eat nothing?

So what was the issue again?

You ordered a burger (2 of those burgers arrived) you didnt like the burger (which you thought might have been the case), presume this was just some error because of the 2 for 1.

So the issue was the chips? I've never heard chips described as a sensory nightmare before.

@Pissedo id be livid . Knows how you are with food ( while he’s a pig) who eats anything . So he asks you to order then changes it .
why the hell couldn’t he just leave your order alone.
He changed it so his greed could benefit from it ! Did you benefit from it. No?? You didn’t even get chips.

You need to have words with him about his greed . He needs to leave your choices alone future .

Another greedy pig of a husband stuffing his face.
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if you ordered via uber eats you can log in to your app and check past orders (even if the group order was initiated on his phone). I’ve attached a screenshot of an order my DH did and it gives you a breakdown.