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To think DH changed my order?

124 replies

Pissedo · 01/02/2026 23:27

So we have ordered takeaway for dinner. My DH decides on a new place which is fine. I am neurodivergent and also hate chilli or Jalapeños of if I have food from a new place I always order 1 item (usually chips) that I know I will 100% be able to eat.

So DH sends me the link,I put in my name and place my order. I order a burger meal so a burger, chips and a drink.
I was unsure if I would like the burger as it had "house" sauce which in my experience usually means chilli.

It is important to know that the burger I ordered had an offer of 2 burgers for the price of 1 when ordered separately. There was also some loaded fries on the same offer.

The food turns up and there are 4 burgers, 2 loaded fries and some chicken. I check the receipt and my name is not on it and neither is my order. I asked if he changed the order and he is adamant he didn't.

So as predicted the burger was a no go, so U hand it over to DH. so he now has 4 of the same burger to eat. He then gives me 1 box of loaded fries and says they are bbq. They are a sensory nightmare but I pick through trying to eat something. I am beyond annoyed but DH insisted he did not Change the order.

So AIBU to think he is a liar? Would it also be unreasonable to pour the leftover loaded fries over his head?

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tachetastic · 02/02/2026 00:08

Sounds like somehow your DH's order got filled twice by mistake rather than filling his and yours.

Not sure he would have done this on purpose unless he has a pretty twisted sense of humour and has form.

Sounds like a restaurant mistake to me. But sorry you didn't get to eat your burger. Was there no way the sauce could be scraped off and replaced with ketchup or mayo that you could eat?

HidethebiscuitsitsNellie · 02/02/2026 00:08

Sounds like a glitch to me then. His order and then his order again.

Gobacktotheworld2 · 02/02/2026 00:09

I think this is just another "greedy DH" thread.

snowdaze76 · 02/02/2026 00:12

for future reference:- the box for instructions on the pay page you can request no sauce etc on your burger

XiCi · 02/02/2026 00:24

Sounds a really complicated way to order a takeaway! Uber Eats are absolute shite. Always getting orders wrong or delivering to wrong places so I'd blame them rather than your DH

Booksandcheese · 02/02/2026 00:28

Ok, I'll bite. Why don't you ask for no sauce if you think you won't like it? Also, if the order is wrong ring and tell them??

ThePerfectWeekender · 02/02/2026 00:29

Even if there's the slightest doubt it's the takeaway's error, why would you jump to accusing someone especially your beloved DH of being a liar? That way lies misery.

DH runs a takeaway. He would have seperated any toppings, sauces, salads, etc. if you'd asked. It's not a big deal.

FrozenFebruary · 02/02/2026 00:30

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 23:55

If you can't cope with a new restaurant you should have just cooked dinner yourself rather than having a tantrum because you didn't get something you wanted.

Whilst you may be neurodiverse this doesn't justify you acting worse than a five year old who doesn't get the burger he wanted when he knew tonight was pizza night.

You are an adult not a child.

And you are your usual charming self

BeeHive909 · 02/02/2026 00:30

But you got your order so how is it wrong? You got the burger meal for yourself and presumably he got the same deal and some extra chicken for himself. I’m failing to see the point. If you don’t want sauce either write it in the notes or ring up and advise them.

MsGreying · 02/02/2026 00:39

Is there no option to request sauce free burgers?
Most usually do and should have an allergy box to put details of that in.

Dliplop · 02/02/2026 00:46

I think you wanted to try the new burger and also have plain fries. I think your DH probably didn’t notice that the app applied the 241 which switched it to loaded fries which you didn’t like.

My DH and I find that restaurants get my orders wronf a lot or apps screw up and give me meat or regular buns instead of gf. He’s always sympathetic and sometimes it is his fault for not asking a question or double checking but I try not to let it bug me and eat something else/have a treat another day. Some days it is utter crap and I hate it

caringcarer · 02/02/2026 00:49

In future just order directly yourself. Don't add your order to DH's order.

LucyLoo1972 · 02/02/2026 01:01

Pissedo · 01/02/2026 23:54

So with uber eats we do a group order so my dh sends a link to me you can either log in (I think) or write you name in a box and make your order. So it is almost like 2 orders in 1. I tell my DH I am done and he will pay.

The receipt has my DH name and everything he ordered. So 2 burgers, 2 fries and some chicken.
Then it would usually say my name (some places print 2 receipts 1 for me and 1 for him) this time it just said my DH name again and then 2 more burgers.

I ordered the burger because everything else would.not have been an issue and there was no description for the house sauce and there was not the option to.remove that sauce. I like to try new things and sometimes it doesn't work out which is why I ordered the burger meal so I would have chips to eat.

Tipping food over his head was a joke.

DH can be greedy when it comes to food, he can't leave leftover food and will eat it so that it isn't wasted. He is also cheap and if he thought it was cheaper to change my order he deffo would. He would just usually ask first. I would usually eat loaded fries but the combination of these ones was not something I would like.

Dh has not eaten all the burgers yet but he will most likely reheat them and have them later.

honestly I wish that the wrong or even irritating and harmful thigns my husband has done were on this kind of level

mamajong · 02/02/2026 01:22

If your default is to assume your dh deliberately ordered you something you wouldnt like rather than the restaurant made an error, there is something seriously wrong with your relationship imo

Bournetilly · 02/02/2026 01:38

You should have rang the takeaway and asked them.

It sounds quite possible he changed it but why would he order 4 burgers instead of 2?

WinnerWinnerChickenDinnner · 02/02/2026 01:48

I specifically request no condiments due to allergies and intolerances.

WinnerWinnerChickenDinnner · 02/02/2026 01:49

And I don't think your husband did wrong, the resturant mixed up.

Millytante · 02/02/2026 02:09

The big question is: who ate the chicken?

(Isn’t that burger sauce more likely to be that mayo-ish garlicky stuff that seems to be the nation’s favourite food? All off-scrapable anyway, I’d have thought, and there’s always the tap! Your poor bloke, condemned without trial)

Isittimeformynapyet · 02/02/2026 02:17

BlonderThanYou · 02/02/2026 00:02

Just sounds like a mix up, stay and help him place the order next time

Stay where?

Isittimeformynapyet · 02/02/2026 02:22

Booksandcheese · 02/02/2026 00:28

Ok, I'll bite. Why don't you ask for no sauce if you think you won't like it? Also, if the order is wrong ring and tell them??

You're not the first person to "bite." You're not taking one for the team.

Original poster
Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:44

The app did not.change the order because of the offers. I order a meal deal.

I ordered that burger because apart from the house sauce (no description ) I have no issues with any of the other ingredients. That is why I ordered the meal deal as it came with plain fries.

My husband paid as I do not have an uber eats account.
Not all restaurants on uber eats in my area have the option to add a message.

I was happy to try the burger and only eat some of it or just eat my fries. I do this sometimes as I like to try new foods, it is a risk I am willing to take.

I asked my DH to check the confirmation and it was the same, as the receipt. He admitted he changed the order as he did not realise I had ordered a meal and not just the burger as he didn't want me to miss the offer. Not that I have ever eaten 2 burgers.

I only stated that I am neurodivergent as a way of explaining the texture issues with the loaded fries. Not as a reason for my "behaviour".

It hasn't been an issue with my DH at all we had 2 conversations about it. 1 before I made this thread and 1 when I was reminded about the confirmation.

I have no idea why some people have gotten so bothered about someone you do not know ordering a burger they may not like 1 ingredient of.

I clearly need to make it more obvious next time I try and make a joke. I was never going to tip anything over my DH head!

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Original poster
Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:46

Millytante · 02/02/2026 02:09

The big question is: who ate the chicken?

(Isn’t that burger sauce more likely to be that mayo-ish garlicky stuff that seems to be the nation’s favourite food? All off-scrapable anyway, I’d have thought, and there’s always the tap! Your poor bloke, condemned without trial)

DH ate the chicken as it was what he ordered. If it was anything like the chicken on the loaded fries it was not nice.

All the house sauce near me tend to be chilli based just hot chilli with tomato. I wouldn't mind mayo and garlic.

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Original poster
Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:49

mamajong · 02/02/2026 01:22

If your default is to assume your dh deliberately ordered you something you wouldnt like rather than the restaurant made an error, there is something seriously wrong with your relationship imo

Their is absolutely nothing wrong with my relationship. We have been together 20 odd years and we have ordered from uberore than once. So when I checked the receipt I knew something was up.

My Dh did not read my order correctly and changed it so that ai would benefit from the burger offer.

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Original poster
Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:50

BeeHive909 · 02/02/2026 00:30

But you got your order so how is it wrong? You got the burger meal for yourself and presumably he got the same deal and some extra chicken for himself. I’m failing to see the point. If you don’t want sauce either write it in the notes or ring up and advise them.

I did not get the burger meal I wanted, I got 2 of the burgers. My DH then gave me 1 of his loaded fries when he realised what he had done.

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HappyTalkingAndLaughing · 02/02/2026 02:51

So infact the OP was correct....and DH had changed her order.

I would be very pissed off with him.

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