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To think DH changed my order?

124 replies

Pissedo · 01/02/2026 23:27

So we have ordered takeaway for dinner. My DH decides on a new place which is fine. I am neurodivergent and also hate chilli or Jalapeños of if I have food from a new place I always order 1 item (usually chips) that I know I will 100% be able to eat.

So DH sends me the link,I put in my name and place my order. I order a burger meal so a burger, chips and a drink.
I was unsure if I would like the burger as it had "house" sauce which in my experience usually means chilli.

It is important to know that the burger I ordered had an offer of 2 burgers for the price of 1 when ordered separately. There was also some loaded fries on the same offer.

The food turns up and there are 4 burgers, 2 loaded fries and some chicken. I check the receipt and my name is not on it and neither is my order. I asked if he changed the order and he is adamant he didn't.

So as predicted the burger was a no go, so U hand it over to DH. so he now has 4 of the same burger to eat. He then gives me 1 box of loaded fries and says they are bbq. They are a sensory nightmare but I pick through trying to eat something. I am beyond annoyed but DH insisted he did not Change the order.

So AIBU to think he is a liar? Would it also be unreasonable to pour the leftover loaded fries over his head?

OP posts:
Sassylovesbooks · 02/02/2026 09:40

My first thought was that you received someone else's order in error, and the other person received yours or the takeaway screwed up the order. It wouldn't have entered my head that someone deliberately changed the order.

Did you pick your choice, add it to the cart, then pass the device to your husband for him order his meal and then you paid? Or did you order and pay after your husband had made his choice?

Unless there's a backstory here, I don't see why your husband would change your order.

Howwilliknow122 · 02/02/2026 09:40

AppropriateAdult · 02/02/2026 08:53

100% - it’s like people don’t even bother reading the first post properly any more, let alone the updates. It was fairly obvious that he’d changed the order to take advantage of a 2-for-1 deal - except that this deal came with loaded fries, whereas the OP wanted plain. Not a big deal, but silly of him to lie about it when asked.

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No it wasnt fairly obvious. It could have been the restaurants error and the first post also said that the husband said he didnt change it . Its got nothing to do with your claim 'its like ppl didnt even bother to read the first post' some ppls opinion was that it could be the restaurants error.

Brefugee · 02/02/2026 09:51

so why are you digging in when your DH says he didn't change your order?

If my DH kept saying that to me after i had said not, i wouldn't be at all impressed. Words Would Be Had.

ETA: sorry i missed the bit where he did change the order.

He was being an arse. You need to talk about this.

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 09:54

Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:58

He made a mistake, he didn't read my order correctly. He wanted me to benefit from the burger offer.

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I'm pretty sure HE wanted to benefit from the buy one get one free burger offer.

If you've been together 20 odd years, he surely knows that you wouldn't eat loaded fries, and if he'd changed your order to benefit YOU why would he lie about it you?

He sounds like a right greedy git.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 02/02/2026 10:05

yuck that you had this much food for 2 people anyway

if there was a 2 for 1 burger offer wed have gotten that and shared and maybe an extra plain chips!

Why would anyone need more than 1 burger.anyway.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 02/02/2026 10:28

Sounds like they have automatically given you the 2 for one offer.

mcmuffin22 · 02/02/2026 10:28

Pissedo · 01/02/2026 23:54

So with uber eats we do a group order so my dh sends a link to me you can either log in (I think) or write you name in a box and make your order. So it is almost like 2 orders in 1. I tell my DH I am done and he will pay.

The receipt has my DH name and everything he ordered. So 2 burgers, 2 fries and some chicken.
Then it would usually say my name (some places print 2 receipts 1 for me and 1 for him) this time it just said my DH name again and then 2 more burgers.

I ordered the burger because everything else would.not have been an issue and there was no description for the house sauce and there was not the option to.remove that sauce. I like to try new things and sometimes it doesn't work out which is why I ordered the burger meal so I would have chips to eat.

Tipping food over his head was a joke.

DH can be greedy when it comes to food, he can't leave leftover food and will eat it so that it isn't wasted. He is also cheap and if he thought it was cheaper to change my order he deffo would. He would just usually ask first. I would usually eat loaded fries but the combination of these ones was not something I would like.

Dh has not eaten all the burgers yet but he will most likely reheat them and have them later.

He sounds like a real catch! How can one person eat that much food????

DappledThings · 02/02/2026 10:40

He wanted a deal where he got two burgers. He wanted OP to get the same deal so he could also have 1 of her burgers unless he thought she regularly eats two meals in one go. So he changed the order to be able o get 3 meas for himself in one go. That's so utterly bizarre

mamajong · 02/02/2026 10:44

Pissedo · 02/02/2026 02:49

Their is absolutely nothing wrong with my relationship. We have been together 20 odd years and we have ordered from uberore than once. So when I checked the receipt I knew something was up.

My Dh did not read my order correctly and changed it so that ai would benefit from the burger offer.

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Imo automically assuming DH changed your order, him lying about it and just the whole general drama over something as simple as a takeaway suggests otherwise, but we all have different tolerances and red flags when it comes to relationships. You know it better than me, each to their own.

MissAustenMadeAQuilt · 02/02/2026 10:49

You can a good choice of burger sauces in the supermarket.

Buy one that you think will suit you-you can experiment each week for a new taste sensation.

Get a baking tray-stick a burger and chips on it. Cut open a roll.

20/25 minutes later. Take the burger and chips out of the oven.

Put your burger on the roll and add your sauce.

Place the chips next to the burger.

Enjoy, with the added pleasure of knowing that it was prepared in a clean kitchen with clean hands and it will take less time than faffing about with phones, apps, payments etc.

Pigletin · 02/02/2026 10:56

OP, I have a son just like you when it comes to food, same thought process. I must admit I was wondering why you jumped to the conclusion that your DH was at fault but I can see your logic. I think it’s good to know your DH wanted you to benefit from the offer and he changed your order with a positive intent. Great that he admitted it so it can be cleared up.

Nice to know you are trying new things, maybe there is hope for my son too when he’s a bit older!

DappledThings · 02/02/2026 11:00

I think it’s good to know your DH wanted you to benefit from the offer and he changed your order with a positive intent
The benefit was entirely for himself and not for OP. He used the offer to get to meals for himself and wanted to use the offer again to get himself a third meal. Unless he genuinely thought that both of them would eat and enjoy two meals each in one go.

Swiftie1878 · 02/02/2026 11:12

Sounds like for every burger you order, you get 2? Their 2 for 1 offer?

BillieWiper · 02/02/2026 11:22

Why on earth would he change the order. And it's not his fault the burger you ordered had sauce you didn't like. You should've asked for no sauce.

The shop clearly either sent someone else's food or messed it up. But if it was the burger you ordered what difference would it have made?

If you were charged more than original order then complain. But don't blame it on your husband. Why would he do that? It makes no sense.

Ormally · 02/02/2026 11:23

It's a big deal to you that you are able to adapt a selection of food on an order so that you can eat it. Not doing this will spoil it for you. Usually it's easy to do, especially when ordering with written descriptions - have you seen the way Subway work with their screen based ordering? You can tick or untick anything.

It's a big deal to him that he benefits from offers or saves money in some way.

Both could make the person look quite inflexible in their practices.

That's an interesting pair of 'outlines' for me because I would align really strongly with both.

I think I'd say, in as calm (non-stirring) a way as possible, that you'd prefer your own account and are fine to alter the set selections if it will stop the deal with him ordering where you can't eat the food that comes. To save you both getting annoyed.

ColdAsAWitches · 02/02/2026 11:29

BillieWiper · 02/02/2026 11:22

Why on earth would he change the order. And it's not his fault the burger you ordered had sauce you didn't like. You should've asked for no sauce.

The shop clearly either sent someone else's food or messed it up. But if it was the burger you ordered what difference would it have made?

If you were charged more than original order then complain. But don't blame it on your husband. Why would he do that? It makes no sense.

If you're not going to read the whole thread, at least read the OPs updates, it would have been faster than typing your completely wrong post.

He DID change the order.

Scaredycat259 · 02/02/2026 11:36

Im lost at the sending a link when you could just use his phone if he had the app open.

BillieWiper · 02/02/2026 11:40

ColdAsAWitches · 02/02/2026 11:29

If you're not going to read the whole thread, at least read the OPs updates, it would have been faster than typing your completely wrong post.

He DID change the order.

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But it was still the same burger she ordered in the first place. Just four of them?

AquaLeader · 02/02/2026 11:44

So AIBU to think he is a liar? Would it also be unreasonable to pour the leftover loaded fries over his head?

If a mumsnetter outlined how her husband called her a liar and tipped leftovers over her head when a new takeaway messed up their order, posters would rightly be advising her that her husband is abusive, life is too short and that she should LTB.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 02/02/2026 11:45

Missing the entire point of the thread ……
ONE couple ordering 4 burgers, chicken and loaded fries for dinner?!
Bloody hell

watchingthishtread · 02/02/2026 11:53

Much ado about nothing.

An error in your take away order does not require the input of 862 strangers.

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 11:58

BillieWiper · 02/02/2026 11:40

But it was still the same burger she ordered in the first place. Just four of them?

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She ordered the burger knowing she might not like it with the sauce on it, so ordered it as a burger and PLAIN fries meal deal, knowing that if she didn't like the burger she would eat the fries instead.

He then changed her order to the offer, which doubles up the burger and comes with LOADED fries, instead of plain. So she didn't like any of it, then he lied about changing the order.

Her first paragraph of her OP states that if she isn't sure of the food, she always orders plain chips so she can make sure there is something she will eat, you'd think he'd know that after 20 years, but he was obviously pre-occupied with doubling up her order so he could eat the free burger himself.

DappledThings · 02/02/2026 12:35

but he was obviously pre-occupied with doubling up her order so he could eat the free burger himself
Which made it his third burger as he had already doubled his order so he used her order to triple his. That isn't normal behaviour.

BillieWiper · 02/02/2026 12:51

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 11:58

She ordered the burger knowing she might not like it with the sauce on it, so ordered it as a burger and PLAIN fries meal deal, knowing that if she didn't like the burger she would eat the fries instead.

He then changed her order to the offer, which doubles up the burger and comes with LOADED fries, instead of plain. So she didn't like any of it, then he lied about changing the order.

Her first paragraph of her OP states that if she isn't sure of the food, she always orders plain chips so she can make sure there is something she will eat, you'd think he'd know that after 20 years, but he was obviously pre-occupied with doubling up her order so he could eat the free burger himself.

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Ok sorry. So it was the lack of plain chips that was the main issue. I get it now. Though I would've ordered the burger minus the sauce also if I was wary of it.

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