What would you do P6 hit my P2

[Mummy2both1991]

So yesterday my DD told me a P6 hit my DS hes 5 years old in P2 (hes ADHD) he was lining up at breakfast club and a P6 boy was trying to make him drink this thing he made at home containing blue and green food colouring salt and sugar (shouldn't even be in school) my son told him to stop many times ( sister saw this and shes a big tout lol) and when he didnt my son pushed him away then the P6 boy hit my DS in the face. School never told me this happened. The boys is big for his age and obviously alot older than my son.
I know my DS pushed him away but should I be furious he hit him on the face. How would you mums feel? Should I speak to the principle. Conflicted cause my son did push but he shouldn't have been trying to make him drink something.

Can people not ask things in a more reasonable manner, for goodness sakes? 😏
In Scotland and Northern Ireland primary school years run from Primary 1 to Primary 7 (P1-P7). The kids in the year groups mentioned will be around 6 and 10 years old.

I think you meant,
Oh I've never heard of P6 etc. Are you outside of England? What ages are they?

OK so you might have over reacted to the hit (you didn't) cos your son pushed but honestly the hit is the least of what the boy did. He tried to force your kid into drinking a concoction of god knows what. A smack or push or thump without injury is ry insignificant compared to what might have happened. My kids are the same age, and probably would have been soft enough to drink it

complete under reaction I feel. Your child has been bullied by a child twice his age and the adult in charge has done absolutely nothing. A proper meeting with teacher, head and LADO or equivalent seems reasonable. So many mumsnet threads where schools put kids at risk and the parent is made to feel like they are over reacting.

It’s quite simple. P stands for primary then the number. Her son is in primary 2 and the older kid in primary 6

You absolutely have to address this with the school. Apart from the blatant bullying, it’s incredibly dangerous that one of the oldest kids in the school, is bringing in homemade concoctions of drinks and trying to force other children to drink them! Say your child felt more intimidated and did drink it! It could’ve been poisonous! Who knows whether there could’ve been chemicals in it for example. I’m sure you have, but I’d 100% be praising my child for being brace and sticking up for myself, this could be so dangerous - please update on what the school says! The older boys parents absolutely need to know what he’s done so they can stop this from ever happening again!

Strong disagree. This sounds like Scotland where violence in schools is absolutely rife and schools have no meaningful ways of controlling it.

By making yourself ‘that parent’ the school will get the message that you’re a pain in the backside rather than a walkover and won’t try sweeping something like this under the carpet in future. They also might keep a closer eye on your child in future if they know that they open themselves up to a load of whining if anything happens to your child in the future. Passive is definitely the wrong approach.

I would say the head needs to hear this. As others have said, it could be that no one apart from the CA knows. It might be that it comes out on Monday morning because messages got delayed. Either way, get in there and state your case. I'd want to know how they're going to change things to prevent further incidents. Sounds to me like the younger kids need a seperate line to the older kids to prevent this unsupervised mixing. I had similar at a school once. It wasn't malicious in my case but the older kid gave something they'd brought from home to the younger kid to eat. Both children were spoken to by the head, both parents were called, it was discussed in a school assembly and new measures were put in place to keep the older children further away from the younger children's play ground. Its scary stuff!

In terms of the hitting - It's concerning to think that given it was *dealt with" at the time by a member of staff that a message wasn't passed to teachers... but that's definitely a possible reason why a message didn't get home. So if that is the case then I'd be asking if it's just the member of staff that wasn't aware/ made a mistake or if some kind of change in policy for reporting incidents from breakfast club to the teaching staff is necessary... Or whether they need to look at the way physical altercations are reported in general.

Completely agree with you. Your child said "no" a number of times. The other child ignored this.
Your child needed to protect themselves and did so in an appropriate way. I would be praising him for not reacting after being hit.
Speak to their class teacher on Monday, make them aware what happened.

Well according to @Bumbelinaaa if you ask it means you’re a bitch.

Maybe they are just reflecting your own energy xx

Have you considered it was maybe the way you asked?

I would go scorched earth on this. The kid probably found this prank online and decided your kid was a soft target. What if there had been bleach in it? Kids are stupid

Ok Janet x

Explicitly sharing your concerns (even following it up in writing) and, again, explicitly requesting specific actions is not passive.