What would you do P6 hit my P2

[Mummy2both1991]

So yesterday my DD told me a P6 hit my DS hes 5 years old in P2 (hes ADHD) he was lining up at breakfast club and a P6 boy was trying to make him drink this thing he made at home containing blue and green food colouring salt and sugar (shouldn't even be in school) my son told him to stop many times ( sister saw this and shes a big tout lol) and when he didnt my son pushed him away then the P6 boy hit my DS in the face. School never told me this happened. The boys is big for his age and obviously alot older than my son.
I know my DS pushed him away but should I be furious he hit him on the face. How would you mums feel? Should I speak to the principle. Conflicted cause my son did push but he shouldn't have been trying to make him drink something.

For goodness sakes can we not speak normally anymore? What in gods name is a P6 and a P2?? Are there P5’s and P4’s in between? Honestly do people make this stuff up just to be deliberately vague?

OP your son has done nothing wrong. Anyone posting otherwise are quite literally morons.

Why should a 5 year old boy, being pushed to drink something by a 10 year old boy who isn’t listening to ‘no’ NOT defend themselves? Him pushing him away is after saying no? That isn’t ’starting’ anything, that’s him defending himself and telling the boy to respect his space. The over reaction is him then smacking him in the face.

Never tell him he did wrong or should not have stuck up for himself. He reacted, not acted, there is a difference. Imagine if we teach girls that “it doesn’t matter you said no, just take it”.

Defo raise with school.

What’s a P6?

Chill out love.

Thank you for asking normal

Primary 6

What were you hoping to get from this thread op?

Oh and calling people a "Karen" tells us all we need to know

This is all true and helpful, but as a teacher I'd say in this situation straight to the Head, not his class teacher who then has to either report to the Head or go and negotiate with the y6 teacher. It didn't happen in class- go to the Head and you can always mention to the class teacher that you've done that.

Don’t speak to anyone, put it in writing so there is a paper trail. Schools will sometimes do very little with “conversations” but once it’s in writing there’s “evidence”

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Prep 2. So year 2 in state school.

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Yeah I'd not be happy at all. I think there's a few issues;
It's very strange that a child that age wants to force a younger child to drink something weird they made at home- why is this older child really interacting like this with a littler one, why have they been allowed whatever it is in school? What if it had been something really nasty?
The hitting is definitely not ok, sure your son shouldn't push but I can see why he did in the circumstances and an older child like that should know not to react and walk away

I'd also be worried about how this older child will interact in the future with your son, why was he singled out to drink the weird drink in the first place? I'd be worried this will escalate.

I would talk to your sons class teacher, explain the concerns, explain the situation- for me I wouldn't be looking necessarily for a consequence, I'd be more focussed on how the school is keeping your child safe in the future. Children bringing in weird concoctions and asking smaller ones to drink them is a huge safeguarding risk and they need to work out how it doesn't happen again.

He tried to poison your son ffs! Enough said

I'd go straight to the deputy head or head. In my school, the DH would be the one dealing with day to day school issues.

I'd not talk to the teacher because they weren't there, won't know the P6 pupil and will be very limited in what they can do about things in breakfast club. I'm a TA who runs breakfast club - there are often 2 of us to 50+ kids and things definitely do get missed/not dealt with how they would in class time due to necessity. I have definitely regrettably had to deal with a hit with 'don't do that again' because I'm also dealing with someone in a seizure, or meltdown, or an actual full fight, or an aggressive parent, or, or, or... I do always follow it up, but I am aware not all my colleagues do (which is fair enough. I stay unpaid to do it). Every school that is internally staffed for BC I've been in has been the same.

It's fair enough your DS pushed him away. Better that than cower and drink whatever it was. You do get very reactive kids who will always hit when someone touches them with no age filter for the little ones, which is difficult though when you teach to push back. Teaching them to scream loudly when people do things to them will typically work better in school.

Definitely follow it up. Your DS needs to feel safe at school. There's every chance no-one has dealt with this or knows about it beyond club.

You don't need to overreact, don't worry.

Go into school on Monday and say your dd told you this.

They may not have seen it, they may have a different view on it.

My dd could sometimes be very overprotective of her younger brother although she tended to react at the time rather than coming home and telling me (she could also be a horror to him at times - siblings!) and she hadn't always got the situation right.

I think your ds pushing away was totally fine and no one should get worked up about that. But if he has no mark on his face and he wasn't the one to tell you, I suspect the hit was less than you are envisioning - doesn't make it right that he hit him, but a little comforting.

Northern Ireland perhaps?
Certainly not Ireland.

how very rude. P6 is perfectly acceptable. P1-P7 is standard in primary schools in some parts of the UK

I am guessing that the OP is from Scotland or Northern Ireland as primary school years there run from P1, primary 1, to P7, primary 7. And to answer your question yes there are P4 & P5 too so no one is making stuff up or being deliberately vague.

If you were unfamiliar with the term there was a much better way of asking

OP I don’t think you are overreacting at all. Your son was being pressured by an older child to drink something that quite frankly could have been anything. He pushed in self defence as I think anyone would have if they were in the same situation. The older child trying to make him drink something and hitting him in the face was wholly unacceptable and the school need to be made aware. They have a duty of care to protect all children attending the school and in my opinion they failed to do that so need to act appropriately and take firm action with the older child to ensure this doesn’t happen again.