Father crashing about kitchen every time I try to settle baby

[GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo]

I'm currently on my first family holiday and I'm at my wits end. My son is teething poor bubba and being very whiney as a result, and we are currently in a thin-walled accommodation with my husband, mum and dad. Every time I have tried to settle him, such as yesterday evening, when my husband and I wanted to go out, my dad has crashed about the kitchen making coffee and waking him up over and over again. His only response is "I didn't think he could hear" when I've asked him, told him, begged him over the past 3 days to just give us those 10 minutes of silence. He did it 5 times, every single time I was settling him until I was in tears. And he's done it again this morning a minute after I walked into the room and announced I was settling the baby and needed some silence and they said okay. He went and made himself a fucking cup of coffee, and when I came out and asked him why he said "because I needed one". What can I do, as I'm being worn down and I can't get any peace and my baby isn't getting his proper naps. I'm so angry with him and I've told him off but he doesn't care. I feel so disregarded and unheard and my mum just makes excuses for him and plays Switzerland. It was always like this as a child too, where I was completely unheard, and it's bringing me back. We weren't even able to go out yesterday as I was so exhausted from hours of settling attempts. How can I get through the rest of the week??

Perhaps you should go home.. it sounds as though you are used to being in your house alone and doing things a set way and can't cope with a change in routine.
If you stay with other people though you can't expect them to creep around because you need silence to settle your baby. Most babies cope with background noise because they have to and because in the womb thet have constant background noise. If your baby needs complete silence to sleep I think you should take him into the bedroom away from the kitchen or for a walk.
I understand what it's like to be sleep deprived with a baby who won't settle but I think you are being unreasonable to expect your parents to walk on eggshells , not get themselves a drink etc while you spend a long time trying to settle your baby

I can see both sides here. @GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo is knackered and sleep deprived, and is just desperate for her baby to sleep - I’m sure most of us can empathise - but previous posters aren’t entirely wrong to say that the world can’t revolve around a baby. I don’t think she is being outrageously unreasonable to want a bit of peace and quiet while her baby is going to sleep properly- not utter silence the whole time he sleeps, of course, but “Please don’t crash round the kitchen/please wait 10 minutes before making a coffee, dad” doesn’t seem unreasonable.

But I don’t think she is expecting the world to stop for her baby - she is asking for 10 minutes quiet whilst the baby gets off to sleep properly, and I don’t think that is unreasonable. Nor would it be utterly unreasonable to ask the other adults in the house to keep the noise down while the baby is going to sleep - expecting complete silence would be unreasonable, but it is possible to make a coffee quietly, without crashing around the kitchen.

Last year we had a holiday with ds1, our DIL, and their three children - a 3 year old and 9 month old twins - and we had to do things a bit differently to normal - different meal times, for example, or fitting in trips out to suit the babies’ needs - and we were happy to do what was necessary to make sure that ds1 and his family had a good holiday. The flip side was that they weren’t making unreasonable demands - there was give and take, and understanding, on both sides.

Babies do not need silence to sleep. If they did my babies and grandchildren would never have slept!
They are perfectly capable of falling asleep around normal household noise.

I agree, @Tryagain26 - @GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo isn't unreasonable to ask her dad to keep the noise down, or not to crash around the kitchen while the baby is falling asleep, but expecting utter silence would be unreasonable.