DH waking the kids!

[PinkPonyClubb]

He’s driving me crazy! I literally watch (baby monitors) as each noise wakes both kids. (1-3)

His alarm goes of at 5.30 both kids are flat out.

We leave both kids doors open when they sleep incase they ever wake and need us. I’ve asked him to shut these, he forgets every morning. He shuts the bathroom door and the noise always wakes the 1 year old first, it’s the latch it kind of pings so loud. He washes his hair which sounds like an avalanche, drops loads and that bloody cough drives me nuts! He can not brush his teeth without gagging.

On occasion, when it’s me up early first, the kids don’t wake.

Am I being precious? Is this just normal morning noise? I can’t see why he can’t assist the door closing quietly, close the kids doors and not drop everything

Is he generally quite careless and selfish?

Of course he can.. But then he needs to prioritise others over himself. What are the consequences for him waking the kids up... Does he have to take care of them? I would make sure he needs to get the kids ready and give them bfast etc

I’m assuming it’s not his problem if they wake? I’m pretty sure if he is the one who has to deal with them, he’ll learn pretty quickly how to be quieter.

You should shut your kids doors at night in case of fire, this will protect them from smoke inhalation and slow the spread of the fire.

https://www.london-fire.gov.uk/safety/the-home/bedtime-checks/

Get a monitor for their rooms so you can close their doors for a start

You don’t need the doors open at night you have a baby monitor.

No he’s not normally selfish. This is why it pisses me of more. I agree, I have thought not my problem so he forgets!

I get both kids ready and drop at nursery and pick up, as he starts work before the nursery opens.

He gets home before me, puts away the washing he’s put on the maiden before he leaves, washing the dishes from breakfast. Gets the kids stuff ready for bedtime and makes tea. We put the kids to bed together then I’ll shower as he does the dishes. So he isn’t normally selfish.

This drives me crazy!!! We literally never argue but I’ve asked him so many times and he says he just forgets! How do I get him to remember?

What sort of time do they normally wake and Is this really much earlier

I put them on silent. The white noise stops me from sleeping. Our one year old sometimes wakes and puts themselves back to sleep within 5 minutes, if lying down if sat up it’s there teeth. If I go in when they’re lying down I’ll disturb them and this caused a fight to get them back to sleep which wakes the 3 year old. Having the camera lets me see if they really need me.

At the weekends, 1 year old wakes about 7.30. 3 year old wakes at 8.

Regardless of day, they go to bed at the same time, 7.30.

But that time is he waking them, as obviously 5am is very different to 7.15.

Put a big sign on the bathroom door saying CLOSE THE KIDS DOOR!!!!

Not sure why you don't close doors, we have 4 toddlers in 2 rooms, teens in another 2 all doors shut for this very reason so hubby who gets up at 4:30 doesn't wake them as he gets a shower etc....and so far he never has they still wake for 7:30 it's me that's aware but that's me just a light sleeper lol

Could he do an evening shower instead?
Shut the kids doors when you come to bed or pull them very close to with just a little crack
You'll hear them sure enough
Or put baby monitor on low

My DH incapable of being sneaky and quiet as he is a lumbering giant. But he showers at night and if he woke DC he'd try putting them back to sleep
Could he brush his teeth downstairs? I've done this before when working earlies
Not sure about the bathroom door lock tho

We have an 18month old and can’t shut her door due to her baby gate. I start earlier than my husband so I shower night before and put all
my stuff downstairs. Just creep down and get ready.

does he really need to lock the door if he’s the only one up and about? You know he’s in there so you’re not going to go in

My DH and I have had the same rule for 35 years. You wake the - baby/ child/ puppy/ cat- you deal with them. Still going strong for our grandchild.
Make him deal with the consequences, itll sharpen his memory so he doesnt forget to close the doors.

How does this work if you’re getting ready to go to work though? He can’t just….not go to work?

Blutac a sign to the bathroom door telling him to close the other doors and this one quietly. Make it sweet by adding big kisses at the end so you don't sound grumpy!

Might solve one problem, does he need to lock the bathroom door? You're aware he's in there and kids are asleep so why the need to lock?

Can he not have a shower the night before and brush his teeth downstairs (kitchen/ downstairs loo).

Also agree with a sign on the bathroom door. Or if this doesn’t work what about changing the latch (or putting some WD40 on it).

To answer a few questions.

He shuts the door completely to try and block some of the noise.

He does shower the night before he washes his hair just water) as it’s easier to style.

Vibrating wrist alarm for your DH could help @PinkPonyClubb

What door is he shutting completely?

otherwise decent person.l and healthy marriage.. just sit down with him over dinner and explain that it’s genuinely impacting you and kids negatively

Close the doors then. He’s getting up for work. He can’t help that