AIBU about another parent saying my kid has learning difficulties

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Hi

My daughter who is 7 has a best friend. Said best friend came to our house after school today and said his Dad had said she has learning difficulties (I don't know the context of the conversation). Daughter is autistic and slightly ADHD but doesn't have any learning difficulties.

Am I unreasonable to be upset by this? I am hopefully not upsetting parents of children with learning difficulties but my child is perfectly capable they just struggle socially. It's particularly upsetting as she has a very small circle of friends and I do worry this kind of impression will make relationships harder.

Apologies I am not saying there is anything wrong with having learning difficulties and probably not putting this across very well.

Am I being unreasonable at being a it upset?
Edited for typo

This is not a learning disability. A learning disability is having an IQ of less than 70. Also known in some countries as an intellectual disability.
Learning difficulty and learning disability are different things.

I'm ADHD as is my child. I also have another child with profound learning difficulties and processing issues. In all the research I have done, ADHD does count as a learning difficulty. It really does effect learning. your daughter will be working much harder than her peers to access and absorb material even if she doesn't realise it yet.

Years of spending ages on homework, answering the questions I thought I read, straying off the point, rushing answers, being distracted by pretty much anything, daydreaming, not being able to read a slide while listening to a teacher, skim reading, masking sensory discomforts...honestly learning is exhausting. Just because she's achieving doesn't mean your daughter doesn't have a learning difficulty.

She's achieving in spite of them. (I have 2 degrees...I achieved in spite of all of that too and that was before ADHD was a thing!)

So the dad is not wrong, hate to say it, but you are!

Have a chat with both kids about what ADHD means for your child and how learning difficulties doesn't mean a low IQ, it means a barrier to learning exists...and barriers are meant to be climbed....oh wait that might not be a great message in other circumstances ;-)