As someone who did a lot of successful and unsuccessful online dating, whilst single, I think it’s possibly more useful for you to have an honest think about whether this focus and approach to dating has been working in the way that you’d like it to, prior to now. It’s entirely acceptable to prioritise anything you want, when deciding who to romantically engage with - sex, kindness, money, anything. The question is, has prioritising the stereotypical big first date that involves a fancy venue, a shopping trip for the new, perfect outfit, hair, nails and make up appointments, leading you to the kind of people and dynamics that you’re interested in, until now? From my experience, chatting for long spells of time without actually meeting in person isn’t actually helping you get to know a person, to see if it’s worth meeting up in person, it’s setting up an increasingly larger expectation when, as people have said, chatting online isn’t really going to help you learn very much about a person or the connection you might have with them, at all. Someone putting off meeting for weeks, and preferring to keep chatting online, instead, would actually be a negative rather than a positive, for me. Liking the finer things in life is absolutely brilliant - but it’s not really enough to hang a quality, long term relationship on and I’d caution it’s possibly not the best value to prioritise in a life partner, unless the type of relationship you’re looking for is superficial, at best, and possibly a bit transactional, at worst. What kind of men have you been dating, with this as your main focus, before now? Have you liked them? If not, broadening your horizons of what you might be looking for, in a partner (or reviewing your standards, as you might call them) might be a help rather than a hinderance. The best thing I found about online dating is, actually, what you think you’re looking for sometimes ends up being the complete opposite to what you really want and need, when you find it. Be careful not to get in your own way, with a set of overly rigid criteria for what your ideal relationship and partner look like. That’s not lowering your standards - just making sure the ones you’ve held for yourself, thus far, aren’t actually something keeping you from something and someone better (though possibly different) than the image you’ve built, in your head. I think your age is possibly relevant in this, as well, to be honest - in your twenties, absolutely, get done up, go on the big fancy first dates with the flashy guys, for a while, you’ll likely come to this perspective, yourself, in time, and have had a lot of fun, a good few funny stories and some really worthwhile life lessons, under your belt, to have made it worth your while. In your thirties? I see a lot of women (myself, at times, included) mistaking standards for persisting with a tick box list of qualities in a partner and relationship they hold as necessities that haven’t been working for them, for the last decade or so, and likely won’t all of a sudden start to, now. Hope you find the dates you’re looking for, out there, regardless. It’s a tricky but often fun game.