To wish I didn’t work

[Iwishididntwork]

I only actually work two days a week at the moment but in some ways that makes it harder because I’m not in work enough to feel a proper part of things but also have a tendency to be treated like a SAHM at home.

I just wish I didn’t work (but that my child still attended nursery for a couple of days …) I have this whole fantasy Monday of dropping children at school / nursery and then going to the gym, going a food shop, getting the house clean and tidy, ready for the week ahead.

I don’t massively enjoy my job which I think doesn’t help (I think there’s an element of having been doing it too long but I am stuck as I earn too much to do anything else!(

Many MNetters seem fulfilled by their jobs. Am I the only lazy arse out there?

I probably will when DD is older. At the moment it’s impossible to do the school and nursery run which is why I’m only doing the two days

People are fulfilled by different things. I have never found employment fulfilling, and I've done a lot of different jobs with varying levels of responsibility. I find family life, pursuing my creativity and making my home a lovely place fulfilling. I wish there wasn't so much judgement around this. Some people are not fulfilled or stimulated by paid employment and that doesn't mean they're lazy.

I agree. I’m not lazy at all, if anything I work far too hard, but I’d be far happier if I could not have to work.

How is OP not getting on with it? Just because she's having a little moan? Do you never have a little moan or fantasise about something in your life being different? As far as I have read she IS getting on with it, DESPITE finding it a bit of a struggle at times

I can relate as I'm a primary school teacher. I work 4 days a week since my eldest was born. It wasn't a break at first as I had my daughter with me and when she started preschool I had my son so for about 6 years I didn't really get the benefit of relaxing. I did love my day off though as managing one was easier than 30 primary twos and I always arranged playdates on my day off. They are both in primary school now and oh how I love my Friday off. I love taking them to school and picking them up and being a small part of that side of things (DH does most of the school runs). Unfortunately they both finish early on a Friday 😂 but it's still 5 full hours. My husband who earns more, pays for more and as I'm only off one day housework etc is split pretty evenly so hopefully your partner can approach things fairer financially. Hang in there. Once they start preschool it's a game changer.

Hmm you're only working 2 days a week so yes, you're being unreasonable about the work aspect. You barely work at all compared to most people, 2 days term time only is not that much.
Is it the SAHM "work" you don't like? Can't your partner have the child at weekends to give you a break? Or put your child in nursery for a few hours on your non work days in the week? You might have a husband problem not a work problem if he's expecting you to do it all and earn it all.

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Yeh , I mean technically I’m having a little moan myself here when you think about it

I hear you , it’d be nice to have just a little time to yourself, even half a day.
So a little bit of time when you’re not at work and not in charge of a small child/ children .
A nearby neighbour of mine does irritate me a bit when she complains because
she has the best of both worlds with a really nice job and doesn’t appreciate it at all .
Work is 2 shorter days for her + she has the remaining school days to herself AND relatives help a LOT !
plus her husband does plenty with the kids too and helps around the house !

I get it. I am also a teacher and it can feel pretty relentless constantly dealing with kids at home and work.
It's also not a job with much downtime so I think that can contribute to the fed up feeling, especially this time of year. My kids aren't toddlers anymore but are still young-ish and I think the grass is always greener tbh as I'm full time now and I look back fondly at being 3 days a week. But at the time I also found that hard so 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe I am also lazy!

This thread made me go and check my online euro lottery ticket. Nope. Nothing…

I'm the same.

The nature of my work (I'm a supply teacher) is quite variable. I can do anything from about 3 days a week, to 5 days. I don't very actively chase the work, it seems to find me well enough. The days are tiring in that you don't know what you're walking into. And at times it can be pretty lonely.
Sometimes I think about quitting teaching entirely, but I'm 41 now, and have done this for almost 20 years. I just feel too cynical and jaded to even think about starting afresh at something.

I always find this time of year quite hard. I tutor after school, so only get home in the daylight one night a week.

I'm only doing a half day today. Heading off in about an hour to a school I don't like, to teach a class I like even less. I'm also full of cold, so am even less keen to go out. I'm sitting here willing my agency to text to say it's cancelled, which they won't do at this point.

And tomorrow I've agreed extra pay to travel to a school miles away. Which I'll have to leave for at around 7am if I want to be there and parked up at a reasonable time.

Roll on Saturday!