To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

[youretooearly]

I invited my friend over to my house for a takeaway tonight. She asked what time and I said about 6pm. She responded to say she was planning to leave her house shortly (this was about 3.30pm) as she has never been to my house before and wanted to find her way before it got dark. She said not to worry she would just "hang around" somewhere and wouldn't impose. I assumed she meant she would go to a nearby coffee shop or something. I wasn't at home at that stage and told her so. I got home about 45 minutes ago and planned to use the time before she arrived to do more preparation for a job interview I have on Monday.

I walked into my living room about half an hour ago and noticed her car sitting outside my house! So she was here at least 1 hour 20 minutes early. I was shocked. I haven't acknowledged that I've seen her or invited her in yet. She's sent me a message 15 minutes ago "let me know when you're ready". I feel a bit angry that she's turned up so early! I said 6pm for a reason and now feel under pressure to let her in.

Personly I value my friens so would let them in, if you really need more time give her a coffee and wxplain that you just have a couple of thing to do and next time make the time later,

Well if they did get to order a take out, surly by now it would of either

1. Been ordered and eaten.
2. Or a local seagull would of nicked it as the delivery driver turned up.

I mean if she knows you're home (either by seeing you walking around inside your home OR your car out the front, OR not spotting you coming home from being out and about), you'd have to let her in, right?! How did the night go?

That's not kindness its having no boundaries.
If you let someone do something that makes you very uncomfortable you open yourself up to being regularly treated this way.
It's not unkind to state a meeting time and expect to meet at roughly that time. 10 mins out or so is fine... but 90 mins either early or late is fkn rude. Sometimes unavoidable to be late but being that early certainly is avoidable and any decent person wouldn't do it

It’s your friend just let them in.

just seems weird you are too busy to let her in but have time to ask mumsnet for advice, just let her in lol

Why on earth would she not come in and hang out in your house?

How rude of you.

If someone turned up that early to a visit at mine I would probably be a bit worried about her! Is her mental health ok? Might be suffering from some kind of anxiety. Or maybe a situation at home meaning she doesn’t want to be there? As others have suggested I’d invite her in but suggest she watch TV till you finish your work. Could she help you with your interview prep? Quite mean and odd not to invite her in or have any curiosity about what might be going on with her.

MN is batshit, ok she’s early but to ignore her and leave outside is ignorant and bizarre.
Im sure you’ll find that hour tomorrow for your interview prep 🙄

Given that this thread is over a month old, I don’t think OP is still worrying about her interview prep.

😂😆

And when you point this out people are sometimes so snippy 🤣

Wonder if her friend is still outside...

Weirder not to let your mate in and make her a cuppa.