To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

[youretooearly]

I invited my friend over to my house for a takeaway tonight. She asked what time and I said about 6pm. She responded to say she was planning to leave her house shortly (this was about 3.30pm) as she has never been to my house before and wanted to find her way before it got dark. She said not to worry she would just "hang around" somewhere and wouldn't impose. I assumed she meant she would go to a nearby coffee shop or something. I wasn't at home at that stage and told her so. I got home about 45 minutes ago and planned to use the time before she arrived to do more preparation for a job interview I have on Monday.

I walked into my living room about half an hour ago and noticed her car sitting outside my house! So she was here at least 1 hour 20 minutes early. I was shocked. I haven't acknowledged that I've seen her or invited her in yet. She's sent me a message 15 minutes ago "let me know when you're ready". I feel a bit angry that she's turned up so early! I said 6pm for a reason and now feel under pressure to let her in.

I'd roll my eyes but still let them in.

Why are we sympathising with someone who ‘didn’t want to find her way in the dark’?! How old is she? Doesn’t she have sat nav/google maps?

You don’t have to entertain her, just let her sit on th sofa with a cuppa.

Some people suffer with night blindness or struggle with headlights and hate driving in the dark. Especially when there’s lots of standing water on the road due to heavy rain. Two of my friends have this issue so not uncommon

Frightening to think these drivers are actually out on the roads at night!

not much choice this time of year. there are ways to mitigate the effects, like not driving to unfamiliar places in the dark.

She is your friend. Why would you leave her outside in her car!!

Did she know you were peeping for a interview? Could she help you?

It is annoying when people arrive ultra early but I get why she has - /it's hard to navigate to new places in the dark.

I'd bring her in sit her with a tea and the TV and say I'm peeping for a interview be with you in 30mins.

I would def not leave a friend sitting in tgeur car in this weather. If you can be anything, ke kind.

She was ok to find her way home in the dark though? Anyway I'm assuming @youretooearly kept her waiting until exactly the arranged time and her friend got so pissed off at being kept waiting she murdered her in a fit of rage hence why there's no further update!

I'm assuming she's gone home now 😁

Of course I’d let my mate in. Bloody hell. You wrote a post on MN so you’re not that busy.

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This

oh ffs. Op is a one and done

Bashing her friend on here is obviously a nice thing to do then? She wasn't harming anyone being outside. She didn't ask to come in, her friend was polite enough. Things to do? What like come on mumsnet and write a post. I find that quite peculiar. Obviously not close friends as you would have just messaged her and said. Why are you waiting outside 90 mins early, come in and sit down while I just faff around

Bashing her friend on here is obviously a nice thing to do then? She wasn't harming anyone being outside. She didn't ask to come in, her friend was polite enough. Things to do? What like come on mumsnet and write a post. I find that quite peculiar. Obviously not close friends as you would have just messaged her and said. Why are you waiting outside 90 mins early, come in and sit down while I just faff around

Why are people talking like the friend is still sitting outside 24 hours later? And given the OP never returned, the whole thing is probably a wind-up anyway.

Did she know you were peeping for a interview? Could she help you?

Oh god no. There’s nothing worse than when people try to “help” with something like this. Many years ago, a friend badgered me into doing a mock interview with her and it was horrendous. She didn’t berate me over my personal life like Uncle Bryn in Gavin and Stacey, but it was close.

Yes lovely diplomatic, compassionate comment for both friends 💚🤗💚

This seems almost… unbelievable.

This!!! People often do this to me! No biggie. Just make a drink and let them watch tv/help with chores/play with kids/dog… this is a friend right??

This. ^ Some posters on here, I would NOT like as 'friends!'

Annnndddd... The OP NEVER returned. (After her first - and one and only post!)

Nothing to see here folks.

Most of them just need an eye test I reckon. Feeling uncomfortable driving at night is one of my first symptoms. I can see ok enough (it seems, especially during the day, and can still legally drive) just don't feel comfortable. Then I get updated glasses (with a minor tint for the blinding headlights as well) and feel comfortable driving at night again.

People have such an issue with getting their eyes tested regularly, all the ones I've ever spoken to it's because they're too tight to buy new glasses and won't stand up to the opticians hard sell and tell them replacement lenses only. I'm guessing they also CBA to get them online like one of my friends does very cheaply. Drives me nuts when the worst ones can't tell who just said hi when you're standing a few metres away and you have to say your name, then they go get in their car!

OP I'd leave her out there and switch off my phone so she couldn't message again, because I'd be feeling pressured. I couldn't concentrate on the work knowing someone was sitting in another room waiting for me. Once she's inside I'd be in host mode.

If I'd said "about 6" I wouldn't be expecting anyone to show up before half 5 earliest. If it was the other way round and I'd shown up that early to someone's home, I'd park down the street so as not to pressure my host with my presence outside and go on my phone for a bit until 5.45pm before knocking.

I think she's taken the piss TBH. You said about 6, she's decided she doesn't like that time because it's dark and announced she's coming earlier, reckon she was expecting you to just go along with it. She should have asked if she could come over before dark, then you could have said no and both rearranged for some other time. She took away (or is trying to!) your option of saying no to an earlier visit, so she's the rude one and I'd have no qualms leaving her outside.

Read the post and couldn't belive it... Of course you're being unreasonable. Relax if you want to make friends and don't invite anyone if you've got an interview.