Is her child intelligent?

[ThisWittyNavyHiker]

My mum friend who has a child who's two months shy of 3 years has stated he's really intelligent.

Nothing out of the ordinary to warrenty mensa, just seems like a normal child. If she misses a page of a book he will notice and in "the higher group" at nursery. Not sure what that is as they have two rooms.

Aibu in thinking she's bat shit crazy?

And no I don't like her

Of course they can be more advanced. I’d just nod and smile.

A friend of mine her eldest DD went up with the 3-4 year olds. Her nursery said she was too clever to be in with the 2-3 year olds and needed more stimulation. She was about 2 1/2. This might be what she means.

if you say so 😁

no one else does, but as long as it makes you happy! Believe what makes you feel better.

I mean our nursery said this to us about our DD and we were so proud and then they sent a letter saying they’d lost two staff members and were struggling to recruit which I suppose did make us question DD’s searing intellect slightly 😅

Hahaaa similar story, at a baby sensory class when my baby was five weeks old someone commented on how alert he was, so I couldn’t wait to get home and tell my boyfriend and family how “advanced” our baby is 🤣

Yanbu.

Sick of people telling me how brilliant their 2 year olds are. "Little max has been reading since he was in the womb!"

Doesn’t every mum of a child with ‘normal’ development think their child is above average in intelligence? Little kids are amazing to be around with how they pick up stuff and the things they come out with. My three year old the other day was building magna tiles and started talking about ‘tactical structures’ - I was going to call Mensa until my husband pointed out she hasn’t got a clue what she’s on about and is just repeating words she’s overheard (we’ve been talking a lot about ‘tactics’ because of traitors) . Not sure why you can’t let this person enjoy their child and just smile and ignore.

Jeez, you bitchy as hell OP. You ask an opinion on a forum then bitch at everyone who doesen't agree with you. What is the point of this post? Leave the woman alone, blick her, you clearly don't like her, is that simple.

I think it helps when you have a good group of friends with children of the same age - and you make close friends with your NCT group for example.

You can see first hand that the children are perfectly normal, and even if they were average they would be pretty amazing.

That's why it gets amusing when they start school, and the so-called genius are doing the same, if not less, than half the class. Nothing wrong with that, but cringey to read the mother's comments about their "exceptional" child

Genuine question to you and to other people who are saying this. Why is it annoying? What does someone saying something nice about their child do to affect you.

Sure if they are implying they are better than your child then that's another story but why would someone saying something about their child change your mood at all?

If my child’s nursery was streaming the children I would remove them PDQ.

Urm, in the same way a 2 year old can be tall or funny or shy or blonde? Some 2 year olds will be more intelligent than others. A lot of parents think THEIR 2 year olds is more intelligent than others. A lot or 2 year olds who are “ahead” often see their peers catch up or over take them before they turn 10.

This person is very proud of their kid, likely over proud. So what, every kid should have someone in their life who thinks they’re the best. Roll your eyes and move on. Her kid will either turn out to be a genius or he won’t - and either way that won’t be a reflection on his or her value as a person.

Einstein seems to be a counterexample to your first sentence, and I think there are many others.

Your last one is the key.

She won’t stop. You could sigh and eye-roll and she’d blather on about her brilliant kid. I retired after teaching for 30 years and believe me, teachers wish they could sigh and eye roll over these competitive braggarts.

I had one pupil who was brilliant but wasn’t competitive and had humble parents. He had an edge over another boy whose mum was one of those braggarts and had influenced her kid to act the same. I had to smile inwardly every time the first boy scored higher at whatever the task was.

you are both utter twats. These are nursery kids. You are both behaving obnoxiously competitively. For the sake of the future popularity and mental health of your tiny kids… stop.

YABU to give it head space and her child may or may not be unusually intelligent. We thought our DD was pretty average, early talker but standard otherwise. Then her GP/teachers/family members etc were all pretty clear she was unusual and it was obvious by age 3. I don’t live in the UK so testing etc is different here but turns out she is off the charts in IQ and in assessments at school. So sometimes, kids really are unusual and it really is a pain in the ass to parent a kid that far outside of average.

When my DD was in the toddler group in nursery she abruptly stopped having any naps during the day, and thought it was a great game to wake up the rest of the DC in her group at nap time. To stop her annoying me others nursery staff started putting her with the preschool group at naptime. I didn’t take this as a sign of high intelligence

You’re absolutely correct.

Is this another version of the threewordusername poster (four in this case) also new to MN, who does not engage with others as per the terms of their OP, just fighty, curt responses?
If this thread is genuine, then @ThisWittyNavyHiker could just have googled characteristics of a gifted three year-old. Instead it's just an unpleasant and embarrassingly ill-informed pop at a doting parent.
I'm not buying the idea of a streamed nursery at all.

What percentage of children/people are gifted? 3%? So although some posters on here would have you believe that its extremely rare, we must meet exeptional children all the time. I don't mind listening to parents have a brag about their children. I think its rather lovely that they are proud. And child development is amazing, theyre like little sponges in the early years. You go from having a little newborn spud to a toddler who can talk, climb, problem solve etc.

As I said it’s the boasting that is annoying. People who do it competitively and talk about their child in a way that their child is better than yours, that they are a better parent than you. For my example, my mum friend comments frequently about how much ‘work’ she puts in to help her child become more gifted and she has commented about other parents being lazy and using excuses to not teach their child things. So to me that is boasting, which I think is quite self explanatory as to why that’s annoying. I have another friend who’s child is the same age as my child and that child has always been very advanced, talking in short sentences shortly after turning 1. I’ve never once felt annoyed at the mum when talking about her child and the amazing things the child does because she’s never done it in a boasting way, or an ‘I’m a better mum than you’ way. Hope that distinction makes sense.

He could be neuro diverse, I once heard about a child who could repeat the whole book word for word after only hearing it a couple of times. That child turned out to be autistic.

I very much doubt that they grade the at nursery.

You sound jealous. Are you?

If there really is evidence of say 98th percentile ability, tell her to wait until the child is 11 then book her in for a supervised Mensa test. They have them all over the country and they’re not expensive.

I’d recommend this to any parent who has a ‘difficult’ child. Finding out that - due to accident of nature - you live at the far end of the bell-shaped curve is a cathartic experience and which explains so much about difficult relationships with others.

But if successful, for God’s sake don’t join. They are a bunch of bloody weirdos. 🙄😃

The sonographer called DS2 a "very well-behaved little baby" during one of my earlier scans.

She just meant he wasn't squirming about but I felt real pride. Proud of my fetus.

Motherhood can make us wacky.