Is her child intelligent?

[ThisWittyNavyHiker]

My mum friend who has a child who's two months shy of 3 years has stated he's really intelligent.

Nothing out of the ordinary to warrenty mensa, just seems like a normal child. If she misses a page of a book he will notice and in "the higher group" at nursery. Not sure what that is as they have two rooms.

Aibu in thinking she's bat shit crazy?

And no I don't like her

@ThisWittyNavyHiker I agree it's annoying when parents think their kid is gifted. Especially when it's not true 😅.

Not at all!
As you showed these children do well in life but yes there can sometimes be a reason for certain skills.
Nobody is saying these children will not do well in life. But as professionals we do tend to look at the bigger picture.
Not sneering at all.
Just parents do boast and many parent thinks they have the most beautiful and clever child in the world.
This does not mean everyone has to agree or even that it is true.
But if people are finding dealing with such parents tiresome ( yes they can be btw) it is always best to just ignore them.
As I also say in my post it is best we all try and just enjoy the child we have.

Two year olds can definitely be gifted/above average intelligence. There's a spectrum of intelligence - some kids teach themselves to read age 3, some don't learn until they're 6, etc...

My kid was intelligent at 2. She’s still very intelligent at 12… she’s on an academic scholarship at a selective independent school. Of course a 2 year old can be intelligent.
Doesn’t mean this one is (or isn’t).
You don’t like the woman… block her and move on.

So intelligence doesn’t count or means less if the kid turns out to be autistic?

Of course a two-year-old can be intelligent. It's weird to think they couldn't be.

It's great she thinks her child is amazing. It sounds like you have the ability to block her, so do that. Why give it any thought?

You said you meet her right here…

You have children yourself and you ask if a 2 year old can be intelligent?

This must be a wind-up

Your attempt to claw back some decency after that shockingly unpleasant post is embarrassing tbh. You clearly sneered at parents with children who read/count early, sniggering that they think their children are intelligent, but we know they’re probably just autistic, haha. I could engage further, but I think I’ll just let your disgusting lack of professionalism speak for itself. It’s one of the most revolting posts I’ve ever seen on MN, and I would be ashamed to have written it.

I knew my DS was intelligent by that age. He was articulate and already had a lot of interesting things to say. What I didn't know was that he would struggle at school with Spld and was ND. He's now 17 and an A star student. Sometimes it is just very clear at a young age!

I remember my cousin and I having a laugh about how we felt when our eldest children started nursery. It was a case of ‘but you don’t really understand just how special and intelligent my child is’. Not said out loud of course. Two weeks later, having face planted in the sand pit, scribbled all over his face with paint crayons and gotten into a scrap with another child over a wooden train, I realised I may have been mistaken🤣

It is annoying when parents bang on about how intelligent their children are, but it’s best to ignore them. They may even be right. But it doesn’t matter. Nobody ever seems to comment on how thoughtful their child is. Or how good they are at sharing. It’s always about looks and intelligence.

And it's ok for "professionals" to laugh at them?

My sister is highly intelligent has a PhD. Mum knew from a young age she was v bright but she didnt boast about it. No need for that

In fairness, if someone feels the need to comment about their child being "kind" or "good as sharing" or whatever, I always feel sorry for them thinking that's the only good point they can find about that poor child

Just let it go, it sounds as though you are desperate for this child to do something really crass like split an infinitive, or refer to sheeps or something so you can gleefully point it out. I think you need to step away from the friendship until you can be a little more generous in spirit about a small child who is neither responsible for his parental shortcomings or his IQ.

The ‘nasty’ part is the HV sneering and saying ‘the child is probably autistic’ afterwards.

Yes it is quite annoying when another mum boasts about their child being so advanced/intelligent/gifted/a genius when in reality they are doing the same things that most other children their age are doing. Is the 3 year old her first? I find I see it more with first time mums who don’t have older children to compare to and they are amazed at every little normal development their child goes through and feels the need to boast about it. I have a similar friend who every day comes out with something amazing her child has done and is always mentioning the words gifted and genius, when my child of the same age is doing the same things. I’ve learnt to just let it go and let her live in her land of delusion.

That says a lot about you.

Laughing to the face of parents? Unprofessional.
Privately? Come on, it must be very boring after a while when at least half the parents come with their "gifted" child and expect preferential treatment, when they are just normal kids.

I am laughing when I see parents describing "genius" traits from kids who are barely achieving what my own kids and their friends achieve without any fuss, because they're just kids.

Everyone thinks their child is a genius. Just smile.

I much rather hear parents boast about how intelligent/brilliant/kind/etc. their child is than parents who don't give 2 fucks, are horrible to them, and frankly shouldn't have kids at all.
If you're not interested, just nod or don't respond.

that I have my priorities right? I think so. If you can't find better than "kindness" to compliment someone, it's really not a compliment

It's great, but it's really not top of the list

Maybe he is intelligent. It can be apparent from a young age, not always. I have two very intelligent kids, but it definitely wasn’t apparent at 3. In fact they were both late talkers and a bit behind when they started reception. Friends now adult DC who is super intelligent, it was apparent from a very young age. Who knows, his mum is clearly proud of him. I’d just smile and nod.

Wasn't it the previous one suffering from dementia?

Are you also a "professional" who works with children, like the other poster?