Is her child intelligent?

[ThisWittyNavyHiker]

My mum friend who has a child who's two months shy of 3 years has stated he's really intelligent.

Nothing out of the ordinary to warrenty mensa, just seems like a normal child. If she misses a page of a book he will notice and in "the higher group" at nursery. Not sure what that is as they have two rooms.

Aibu in thinking she's bat shit crazy?

And no I don't like her

Of course you can tell by age 3 if a child is intelligent, they will be developmentally advanced compared to their peers. Whether this child is or not you have no idea. He could be or the mum could be over precious about her son. The only question you can answer is why it bothers you so much.

If you don't like her why is she your friend? My mum friends are carefully selected. Anyone who bleated on about their genius child would be out! People who have gifted children don't have to spell it out, it's obvious to anyone who meets them.

Just nod and smile. I wouldn’t spend time worrying about it.

My dd was/is intelligent, was reading at nursery etc…, turns out she’s autistic and has hyperlexia, she’s had a tough time growing up, has been bullied all the way through school.

I don’t think I ever mentioned to other mums that she was intelligent, though it kind of became clear when she was hitting high grades at school.

You don’t like her, but you’re spending hours with the child. Just stop meeting up with her if it bothers you so much.

Just wondering, what do you think when it turns out that they were right all along?

Sometimes people who believe that it's not possible and it's just Mum bias/Mum stupidity can get quite angry about it.

@ThisWittyNavyHiker I can only hope that the two year old is more emotionally intelligent than you. Your posts seem very unkind. If you don't like the mum then move on, it really seems to be bothering you unnecessarily

You two faced cow, I hope she runs a mile from you and finds better friends.
So what if she thinks her child is intelligent, she has done nothing wrong, you sound spiteful, and nasty, leave this poor woman alone.
You call her a mum friend in one breath, and then say you don't like her. Are you jealous of her, because you are dragging the bottom of the barrel to find some thing to bitch about her.
You really need to be avoided. Horrible woman that you are.

Maybe he is a smart child, more intelligent than average, some children are when they’re really young, others blossom later.
So what if he is or not. Pathetic to be bothered by this.

This !

Wow about OTT.

I am autistic amd completely agree there was nothing offensive about the post. The fact is the majority of people think that they are above average intelligence, when it comes to their children who they naturally adore this intensifies so that almost all will say their kid is above average. This must be quite amusing to see when multiple times a day you see parents gushing over something you know to be normal.

On the point about hyperlexia etc what I understood that as is there is very little that a 2 year old does which can actually be diagnostic of being 'a genius'. However evidence of one area of extreme developmental advancement might be indicative of a spikey profile commonly seen in NT individuals and other forms of atypical development so is worth noting. I really didn't take any kind of gotcha from it at all and think others might be projecting from their own experiences with dismissive professionals.

Has you child got a development delay?
I'm trying to understand why you're so bothered about it. Most people praise their children in this way and most people just let them enjoy being proud of their children.

Could be upstairs

The mum of the intelligent nearly-3-year-old sounds annoying, but somehow I'm still on her side here!

I can relate. Sat next to many a mum at swimming lessons and brownies whilst listening to how advanced their dc was. Usually reading bands or the like. It’s unnecessary and often unfounded. It doesn’t coincide at all to who does well later down the line IME. Mine are adults now and I can still remember a few of these conversations. It’s meaningless. Great to think your dc is wonderful. Absolutely no need to boast.

Sounds like she's just really proud of her child - don't we all think our children are clever?

Why do you care? She's allowed to be wrong, it really doesn't matter.

Or perhaps other people interpret text differently to you. Laughing at parents who are proud of their child is unkind.

One of my mum friend’s kids was consistently exceeding expected standards in the first two years of school. She only told me in about year 4 along with other concerns about her child needing support for autistic traits. I asked why she hadn’t shared her child’s successes and she said they were always proud but didn’t want to put pressure on them by bragging about exceeding levels in Foundation year which might well fluctuate through their school career. You can be proud quietly!

I think you read the post v negatively?
I did not read sneering or “gotcha”
at all just a professional being diplomatic and kind ?

It sounds like your poor mum friend is slightly less quick than average if she accidentally skips pages in a children’s book and gets confused about the purpose of the split age groups in nursery. Maybe that’s why she sees her son’s behaviour as ‘intelligent.’ Just smile politely and give her some grace as it’s tough for everyone with toddlers.

Of course they can be - there’s a bell curve and IQ tests (as problematic as they are, can be used with children that young). However, it’s socially unacceptable to state it. It’s okay to say kids are good at sport, music, art but mentioning academics is frowned upon!

However, nobody here can tell you what the child’s IQ is and I can’t fathom why it matters to you.

Some kids are brighter than others and its noticeable even at that young age. Its not a big deal its just that some develope quicker than others.

i could read at age 4, think I peaked then as I am not especially intelligent! My own child talked very early and had a good vocabulary and would definitely have noticed if I skipped a page in a book and I did used to try when i was really tired and trying to gallop through the bed time story. A lot of it is down to the attention they get, they are like sponges especially in the pre-school years which is why talking to them and reading books with them is so important.

Op are you ok ? Genuinely asking , you’ve started a bitter. Post and your tone towards people who have responded it really nasty

are you depressed ? do you need help ? Is this a genuine post as it seems all you want is a fight ?