Is her child intelligent?

[ThisWittyNavyHiker]

My mum friend who has a child who's two months shy of 3 years has stated he's really intelligent.

Nothing out of the ordinary to warrenty mensa, just seems like a normal child. If she misses a page of a book he will notice and in "the higher group" at nursery. Not sure what that is as they have two rooms.

Aibu in thinking she's bat shit crazy?

And no I don't like her

When I brought up concerns about DD’s speech delay I also mentioned that her understanding is quite good(particularly compared to her -lack of- speech).Got knocked down with “If she could understand she would be speaking.” AND no support on the speech side. Maybe she thought I was bragging about having a little genius too? 🙄

I think kindness is one of the best qualities a person can have.

I find this quite harsh on first time mums/parents to be honest. It can be so anxiety inducing having your first child - I remember being really anxious about the milestone (physical, verbal, intellectual...) and I was always panicking when approaching certain ages and wanting to tick all the boxes of development. I'm sure I have boasted about my child's intelligence to others but it was mostly to try and reassure me that everything was ok and I didn't do everything wrong. (I'm much more relaxed with my 2nd, but still panick a bit and count the number of words he says to make sure he's in the range, etc.).

Based on your responses, I think the problem may be you.

Seems a lot of pressure to put on a toddler

I don’t think she is. If she were, she’d know that empathy/kindness and social skills are one of the best indicators of high intelligence in young children.

Yep. @Justfact will have giggled with her health visitor friends and noted down that your child was probably autistic, because she knows better than parents.

This is a bit weird to care about. Everyone thinks their child is amazing and this woman is no different. So she's imagined sets in nursery, who cares? I don't know what you hope to gain from this thread because none of us know the woman or the child so we can't judge whether the child is intelligent beyond the level of a normal two year old and whether the woman is exaggerating.

Well she isn't a friend is she? You sound like a two faced bitch.

I don't understand why @Justfact 's post was sneering or a spiteful little gotcha.

What's wrong with saying "... Also see the hyperlexia or counting to 100 etc child where parent is stating genius. We make a note to monitor for autism..."

I just take it at face value - but maybe I'm autistic.

It’s not meant to be.. every mum has been a first time mum and most of them go through those same amazements at their child’s development. I remember being so proud my first baby rolled at 4 months before any of my friends’ babies did. At the time it felt important to me, but of course on the whole once you’re past the baby stage it’s a pretty irrelevant milestone. Everyone is caught up with their own child. But there’s a difference between being proud and amazed of your child and boasting and showing off to another mum. If someone is getting annoyed at someone going on about their child being intelligent then that person is clearly in the boasting territory, and let’s face it.. boasting is annoying.

What a very strange post... my mum friend

and then

And no I don't like her...

As others have said why do you care if you don't like her.. let it go and don't hang out with her.

I thought my newborn looked like Audrey Hepburn, till a friend said she looked like a middle aged accountant with a combover. I THINK I kept the Hepburn thing to myself, but if I didn't my friends would have smiled indulgently until I recovered my sanity, not sniped at me on MN.

My mum friend …. Blah blah blah …. And no I don’t like her

Fuck me, do this poor woman a favour and end the friendship. She deserves friends who actually like her and friends who aren’t pathetic and bitchy enough to write patronising anonymous threads on the internet about her.

She’s not a ‘mum friend’. By definition, you like your friends.

@ThisWittyNavyHiker

Why call her a friend if you don't like her?

Why have you started this thread?

You sound a bit jealous of her.

Awful thread isn't it? Full of bile and bitterness (from the OP.)

Maybe it’s true, maybe it isn’t. No one here can tell you either way.

If is possible for a 2 year old to demonstrate higher than average intelligence for their age. As far as the grouping by ability goes, it does apparently happen, so she may not be mistaken or lying.

www.theguardian.com/education/2017/dec/01/children-two-grouped-ability-english-nurseries

Sounds highly intelligent to me. I wonder if she's a really excellent mum or super bright herself and it's genetic, or both? Either way, I expect her child will do exceptionally well. Hopefully it will be a long term friendship and you will be around to share in all his successes. I'm sure you'll be so happy for them both.

I would be more impressed if the child was kind, caring and working in a meaningful way at 22 years old.

The DC might be a genius, although nothing you say suggests it. I could read at three. I'm not stupid but Stephen Hawkins had nothing to worry about. I lived very rurally with four much older siblings who taught me.
I thought DD was very average until she began winning prizes at GCSE stage. She's just aced her A levels (physics, maths and chemistry all As) and is now doing a Masters of mathematics in mathematical physics. Her SATS in primary school were good but nothing to suggest just how bright she is.

Well some three-year-olds have to be in the top percentile of intelligence. Not necessarily this one, but there will be very intelligent nursery children out there just by virtue of statistics.

There's only one swan and every mother has it!😁
An old saying but a true one.

My daughter’s 8-month old puppy is top of her puppy training class. So there.

Surely that means he’s going to get a double 1st from Oxford?!