To ask if you grew up in a clean and tidy home?

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Apparently your more likely to be clean and tidy if you were.

Yes I did and yes my home now is clean and tidy.

Yes I did and yes I am now

I did. I’m clean but I’m not at all tidy.

Yes I did, and yes my home is clean and tidy.

Sort of. It was always clean (weekly cleaner) but my father is a hoarder and quite a chaotic person, so always lots of paperwork/tools/gardening apparatus/random bits of fabric lying around! It was also an old house with open fires, so very dusty etc.
I am fastidiously clean now, and can't stand clutter. It puts my nerves completely on edge if every surface has things on!

Yes.

No. My parents had full time jobs and 3 children, there was crap everywhere.

My house is not tidy, but I would like it to be

No I definitely did not. My house is immaculate.

My DM was obsessively tidy but I’m not particularly tidy myself.

Nope.

Not really. Probably better than I was, which is all one can hope for. Have an excellent gut biome tho.

Painfully clean and tidy to the extent that I wasn't allowed to have toys out. If I played in my room everything had to be put away if I had to do something else, even mid game.

Our house was immaculate when the dc were small and we tidied up at bedtime. They were allowed to play with theor toys and if they were half way through a jigsaw they were allowed to leave it until complete. The DC were also allowed to be grubby, mucky urchins.

No I didn’t and yes I do now

The house I grew up in was okay but not shiny, and my level of tidiness and cleanliness is similar.

Our home was immacculate, dm was obsessive as was dgm. Our home is clean and tidy but it wouldn't meet the exacting standards of dm. I don't have the obsessiveness needed tbh, I clean regularly where dm cleaned even when already clean. Of my siblings, half do and their homes always look as though nobody has ever lived there, I'm not sure I ever feel relaxed there though

Yes I did, and I have a clean and tidy home up to the point I can control it. However DH is from a family of hoarders whose house is piled high with "stuff" so every day is a battle of his natural tendencies Vs mine.

To be honest, I find it highly stressful, and I would honestly say to anyone who isn't in a committed relationship to consider the other person's home, their environment growing up, and compare those to how you live. I don't think you can be truly happy with someone whose expectations around mess and cleanliness are too dissimilar to yours.

Opposite. Not massively unclean. But my mum was a bit of a hoarder so lots of clutter.

Washing basket was always overflowing, kitchen was always full of washing up that was left until the last minute. Cleaning wasn't her priority.

Which I understand, being a working mum is tough.

I used to help as I got older. And now my house is immaculate. I am a clean freak and I hate clutter and I am a complete anti-hoarder.

Family home was uncomfortably clean and tidy.

Mine is……..lived in.

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Yes, I did and I keep the house clean and tidy without any drama. Thank god for programmable washing machines, dryers, frost free freezers and cordless hoovers though - I think I have it quite a bit easier than they did.

Yes, our home was always clean and tidy (with the exception of my bedroom...!), and we all spent Sunday morning helping to clean. My house now is relatively clean (well, actually clean since we got cleaners six months ago), but rarely tidy. Both my husband and I seem congenitally incapable of putting things back where the belong.

No, and I hated it. I'm now very tidy although the cleanliness is more at the "hygienic rather than spotless" level.

I think part of the problem with growing up in a house like this is that you simply have no idea what basic cleanliness and tidiness looks like. I remember living in a shared house and being bemused that everyone else thought we should clean the bathroom once a week.

I imagine the same is true in reverse, that you have no idea what less than perfect, but good enough, cleanliness and tidiness might look like, hence why you are likely to be quite clean and tidy yourself.

Yes my mother has OCD. Mine is clean but a bit cluttered & needs repainting which I am in the middle of doing!

Yes, but a sort of naturally clean and tidy. My mums house now is more hoarder than anything. My sister is very, very clean and tidy at all times. I’m much more chaotic but clean.

Nope, my mum was a minger and my dad not much better. My home is far cleaner and tidier than the one I grew up in - in part thanks to my DH - but probably not up to many Mumsnetters standards. It has been an effort over the years to learn to be clean and tidy without a role model. As I am better at it than my parents, I hope my children will be better than me.

No and now I make a real effort to have a clean and tidy house!!

Yes but my house looks fairly untidy as has many works in progress both hobbies and DIY.