To ask if you grew up in a clean and tidy home?

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Apparently your more likely to be clean and tidy if you were.

https://www.compulsive-hoarding.org/hoarding-rating-scale-1-9/

I think most people I know would consider picture two messy in the examplesgiven at the bottom of this page.

Mine was. But that was because my dm always did it out of guilt because her mum was obsessively tidy. My dm was not naturally tidy. I am not naturally tidy, but was lucky that my dm not pass on the guilt, so I'm not very tidy.

My mum also liked entertaining and kept up with interior decorating and so on.

My df on the other is a naturally very tidy and organised himself and helped mum around the house. Especially after he retired. He's 90 now and with dementia so less able.

Yes and no, clean to look at, but far to much clutter so untidy.
As an adult im spottles clutter free and tidy im also a minimalist.

Yes, picture 2 is messy to me.

Yes. Ex forces dad. He cleaned and dusted everyday.

He used to iron everything too, even socks and t towels.

My house is also very tidy, but we don’t own an iron. I can’t stand mess and clutter.

Nope my house growing up was neglect levels of unclean, my own house is generally clean and tidy but not obsessively so, I struggle to know what needs done and how frequently so constantly hope no one looks at my skirting boards and corners.

So’s mine, two dogs and an incredibly untidy DH means that, despite my best efforts, it’s never going to be immaculate (unless DH is away when it’s exactly how I like it!)

No. My mother was anal about cleaning. Except it was us kids doing all the cleaning from a very very young age. While she sat and did ‘paperwork’ (reading the paper!). When I got my own home I was fussy with the cleaning for a bit then realised I didn’t have to be. I could do what I want when I want. My house is clean but is cluttered in places….laundry piled in a basket, stack of paperwork etc.

No, my dm was a housewife who hated housework. It was untidy, a bit grubby and a bit dusty and disorganised, not horrific though. I am clean and tidy and organised but my house is not a show home, some houses I enter i just wonder where they keep their stuff, they're just empty.
My dm has not improved with less people in the house, my late df liked things clean and with him not around the house got worse. I actually clean her house myself now. She pays me some pocket money to do it, she likes it clean and tidy but doesn't seem to be able to organise herself to achieve it. I suspect some adhd traits, she just can't set her mind to tasks. I recall when I was young she looked down on people she deemed 'houseproud' like it was some kind of failing that they took care of their home. Not sure if she really thought that or if she did it to justify her own lack of order. Me doing her housekeeping has brought us closer now I'm adult. She's grateful for the help and I'm relieved she's not living in disorder. It was prompted by a serious illness she had about 10 yrs ago, some adjustments were required in the house and a big clear up ensued. She was so happy with it I agreed to keep on top if it. It works well.

Not particularly. It wasn’t dirty as such but untidy and dust, cobwebs etc. Furniture that had been passed down from family and was 20/30 years old. My mum still has most of it and it’s now 40/50 years old.
Not so much shabby chic as just shabby.
I’m much more houseproud, nothing is immaculate because I don’t like how that looks, I like a bit of clutter but everything is clean and can be put away easily if necessary.

Grew up in an unclean and untidy home. My mother was a SAHM until I was 12, but she didn't like cleaning or tidying, so didn't do it, and instead went to the neighbours to chat, or walked to the local high street twice a day. My dad was a 1970s dad who went out every night after tea and although he's only out once a week now, still doesn't lift a finger. Me and my brother never saw much cleaning or tidying and weren't told to do it or join in, so never learned off parents. What I've learned about all that (including personal cleanliness) I've got from other relatives (ours was the only unclean house in all aunties/uncles/cousins houses) or magazines/books. My house is clean and tidy (infact my mam says she can't relax in it).

I did- and I’m very tidy, I can’t stand mess!
My partner on the other hand…bloody hell. He’s so messy, he’ll open a pack of yoghurts and leave the cardboard packaging on the side RIGHT NEXT TO the recycling bin, drives me mad. I’ve noticed when his mum comes round she’ll just leave her water bottle, biscuit wrappers etc lying on the sofa arm. So I can see where he gets it from!

This but 4 children. I now also have 4 children. Do my best but mostly it's clean and tidy when I have visitors and once a fortnight when my cleaner comes (for about half a day!)

Same.
I also have an allergy to ornaments, thanks to all the dust-collecting shit that filled every surface in my parents house.

Clean and tidy enough to say there were three children. I am clean, but not really tidy, I am same at home and was at work.

I lasted a month in a shared house when I left home as a teenager. I found a studio flat very quickly as I soon realised no one else was as clean as me.

My ds is the same. He wouldn’t consider living with his friends as they are all dirty. He hates eating at their shared house (they are childhood friends of his who I know well, I’ve popped round to help before with small maintenance things and don’t accept a drink from the kitchen, its grim!)

I did, but no, not particularly.

No.

My house is very untidy and in need of a deep clean.
My sister keeps an immaculate home.

No, my mum was obsessively compulsive about tidiness and getting rid of clutter as her father hoarded, and I had very few toys and clothes. Anything not played with or worn for a couple of weeks vanished

I've gone the other way and have hoarding tendencies, and my child had lots of clothes and toys

Yes my parents house was clean and tidy. My house is clean but often not that tidy. I’ve improved as I’ve aged!

Grew up in a clean and tidy house. Mine is a mess. Unless people are coming. I hate people coming!

I grew up in an exceptionally clean and tidy home- sterile as a doctor's surgery- with a germaphobic mother who always insisted it was a mess and she needed more time to clean. I am messy af. As others have said about growing up in a messy house, when you grow up in a very clean house, your compass for what counts as normal is off, and my Mum refused to provide any sensible guidance.

My brother and I did nothing at home, as whenever we did do something it was wrong and she would redo it whilst berating us for getting it wrong (not that she ever showed us how).

When I went to Uni I had an en-suite room and I asked some questions about what I should be doing.

"How often should I clean the bathroom?"
"Every day."
"OK...well how often do I actually NEED to clean it?"
"Every day."
"But even you don't clean all the bathrooms every day!"
"I know, it's very embarrassing, I do as much as I can but you and your brother don't help and your Dad is always working, so I can't get round to them all every day (continues in this vein for some time)
"Right...well what about the bedsheets?"
"Every other day."
🙄

I ended up changing the bedsheets about twice a term and cleaning the bathroom even less often. 😂

I have improved but it's never instagram tidy. My Mum's house is still pristine and she still completely martyrs herself to the cause, for example I came round with food and to help her out after surgery and she was stood on the kitchen island cleaning the chandelier one crystal at a time with glass cleaner, as she does every week. Then complained that it had been 3 days since she scrubbed the skirting boards because she couldn't bend that low.

She refers to our house as a filthy squat. 😂

Yes, I did and yes, I am, although not as obsessively tidy as my dm, but unfortunately my dc are very messy since they became adults.

The whole place needs stripping out and starting again. Yuk

Same