To ask if you grew up in a clean and tidy home?

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Apparently your more likely to be clean and tidy if you were.

No. Grew up in a filthy home and I absolutely hate mess and dirt. I keep my home very very clean and tidy in reaction to growing up in a dirty, messy environment so for me that rule doesn’t work.

Yes but I found it so stifling and stressful that I've gone the other way and am perfectly happy with a bit of mess and clutter (we have a cleaner twice a week so it is always clean).

My parent's house is always cosy and tidy but dusty! Move anything and there is an instant cloud...
My house is messy from kids and WFH but no dust.

Yes, I grew up in a tidy house. As adults, my house is clean and tidy but both my siblings struggle, both have hoarding tendencies. The condition of our childhood home was due in large part to my mother's (diagnosed) mental health issues and I think that has played a large part in how we are now as adults.

I guess it depends to what extent your house was clean and tidy growing up.
Mine was clean and tidy but we were allowed to have our toys out etc so it didn’t feel stifling. We just tidied up after ourselves. I think growing up in an obsessively clean and tidy environment can cause people to rebel and go in the other direction. Equally I think a lot of people who grow up in chaotic, dirty homes rebel against that in adulthood and keep their own homes clean and tidy!

No! Definitely not! Not clean; not tidy! I have always struggled to maintain even a minimal level of domestic cleanliness or tidiness and I do wonder whether this was because I never 'saw' the mess and chaos as a child, and so I never really learned what 'clean and tidy' looked like, or how to achieve it. It could also be the case that I inherited the same executive functioning difficulties that my mother has.

The house I grew up in was an old, draughty, damp and broken down farmhouse, and we were 'lively' children to say the least, so I doubt anyone could have kept the place in immaculate order.

Nope. My childhood home was very cluttered and not very clean. It was hugely stressful.

My house is very clean and tidy.

Yes, clean, tidy , but quite cosy.

My mum worked part time and we had a dog. So while it seemed like she was forever cleaning, 3 dc and a golden retriever took some of the shine off her efforts.

i think our home today is similar , except i have a labrador

Yes and yes

My mum’s house is show house clean, though. I can’t even put my handbag on the table, or she’ll hang it up somewhere —I don’t visit her very often—

Yes. I was raised in a lovely clean home.

My home is usually very clean but NOT particularly tidy though. But a clean house is more important than a tidy house??

We have a dog and I really struggle with the mess the dogs made with mud and fur!

No. My home is immaculate to compensate 😂

I did, and I am tidy

I think you’ve got that wrong. Mud and fur = dirty, not untidy.

Fairly clean, maybe 6/10. Tidy in parts, one of which was not my bedroom. I’m now fairly tidy and I’d give myself 7 or 8 out of 10. I loathe housework though.

It was clean and tidy, but certainly not show home standards. My mother was a SAHM with lots of children, all quite close in age, and we lived on a farm, so naturally there was always mud and what not to be found if you so cared to look but frankly, given the circumstances, I look back now in wonder that she kept it so clean and tidy at all! Standards slipped a little when my dad left and she had to work full time but it was still really quite good. She works like a Trojan, always has.
My home is similar, I think. I’m alone with the kids for the most part, and again we’re on a farm so again, mud! Straw! Grass! But I do my best.

I grew up in a spotless house. Mum was a SAHP for my entire childhood whereas I work full time so my house isn't quite as tidy and clean as hers but most people would consider it clean and tidy.

No. It was downright filthy tbh, I have literal nightmares about that house.

Agree with previous posters that when you are brought up that way, it can take some time as a young adult to figure out what kind of normal baseline exists for the majority of people.

I have a clean and tidy house now, and even though my own children are getting a bit older, I do feel satisfaction that they never lived with what I grew up with.

No - we had a massive house full of crap.
My parents still live surrounded by crap (60 years of bills and bank statements) old photographs- suitcases full of old clothes - all the wardrobes full of clothes. Piles of toys, the garages are full of our old bikes and parts for cars they have not owned for 50 years)
They are in their 80’s and refuse to let us start to sort and make things manageable.
We have the contents of an 8 bedroom, 4 storey house to dispose of when they are gone.

thats why my home is tidy.

Complete opposite here, my mum was clean and tidy to the point of obsession, I’m untidy and only clean if I know someone is coming over. The difference is that she was a housewife and I work full time, I don’t have the time or energy to be wiping skirting boards and hoovering every day.

Yes and yes and my husband is thesame however what I dont do is make it my whole identity or try be make my child believe she is some way terrible or not normal for having an untidy room as a teenager. I’ve also never gone in her room taken stuff which isn’t tidied away put it in bin liners and thrown it out .

No,my late father wouldn't allow stuff to be moved, nothing put away..he had a lot of hobbies and made toys,gliders,all sorts. Stuff everywhere. DM was embarrassed, but this was 1950s, the man ruled the roost. I wasn't allowed to have friends in. I am very neat and tidy in contrast.

Yes, I did. The family joke was that my mother either polished everything or washed it. If we stood still long enough we would ask if she would do either to us. She had 7 siblings and they were all just the same. Unfortunately, my late husband was a hoarder, it's only since his death that I can have the house anywhere near how I would like it. Sad, but true.

Always clean and fairly tidy growing up, as tidy as can be for a family of 6. I am not too bad - don't like dirty, esp bathrooms and kitchens but can live with a pile of papers or something like that left for a while.
My partners parents were spotless, not even a water drop left on the sink. He though is incredibly messy and lazy about cleaning up after himself. He seems to think when we move into a bigger house that it will change. I just pointed out nope, it will be just a bigger house for him to leave messy. Under no illusions.

Yes and yes.

Yes and yes