to wish this was a woman only forum?

[raspberrychoc]

I know anyone can join and that's fair enough, I'm not actually trying to impose my wish on anyone or the site but it still always annoys me when I am reading thought a thread where a woman is posting for advice from other women and a man pops up saying "speaking as a man" or "from a blokes perspective" I always want to say I'm not interested in what you think right now, there is a whole world of "men's opinions" shoved down our throats from the time we are little girls and all though our lives on every aspect of our bodies, what we do and think. I'd love just one space like this with lots of women without it having men interject and that is before we even get to the men who pitch up looking for permission to have affairs or get their jollies from dubious posts.

There’s a particular few male posters who obsessively monitor any mention of prostitution, and pop up endlessly with exactly the same tone deaf posts about how prostitution is really empowering, women enjoy it, they do it to get easy money, it’s the poor punters who are actually being exploited, etc. etc. It’s usually masked with faux concern about how “sex work” should be legalised, but every so often the mask of concern drops and something incredibly incel and unpleasant falls out. I could really do without those posters, to be honest.

literally yesterday I saw a man asking for advice - I was about to judge him but then I saw it was under ‘dadsnet’ so I left it alone 😂😂

see how easy it is, men?

Hard agree, that was definitely a man I was responding to 😂😂

I don't know why so many people assume you can tell sex from writing style. You can't.

Yes, I wish it was women only. I came into Mumsnet expecting it to be a space just for women. Nothing against men, I’m married to one, I have a son and some of my closest friends are men, I just don’t really want them here. And yes, the ones I’ve noticed have been moaning about their wives. F#%k off ☹️

You have a rather idealised view of women, I'm afraid.

I absolutely agree. I love a woman only space.

Tbf quite a few women post on male forums like Pistonheads.

Otoh the Internet as a whole is sexist from its roots arguably, and that still shows now. So women's forums have a particularly important role.

Yes these could easily be women.

The Sex board arguably needs reforming...

You one of them?? 👀👀😂😂

I’m not a man, despite my use of the laugh emoji btw! I just like fun: judging men

If you are talking about online spaces, how do you know they are truly women only? I also wonder how many women here who complain about men on this site as a whole, feel free to come into for example Black Mumsnetters if they aren't Black?

Lol!! No, I'm a woman although I'm sure some people don't believe that. I could post photographic evidence, but I fear it might be frowned upon......

😂😂😂

I’ve been accused of being a man on here, purely because I disagreed with something. Rather than accept that women are not a homogeneous blob, they assumed I must be a man.

Absolutely. That is clear on any social media forum where you can see who's posting. Liberal use of mockery and emojis by both sexes. I sometimes think Mumsnetters live on another planet where women are all kind and respectful and never belittle others. It isn't even the negative view of men I object to so much as the overly rosy view of women. Just look at the Trump administration, some of its most toxic mouthpieces are women.

Well your fears are misplaced. Noting patterns of objectionable male behaviour isn't at all the same thing as idealising women.

I get you, and I have no doubt that some of the people you mention are male. However, it won't be all of them. Personally I am not so much a NAMALT as a 'not all women are kind and reasonable'.

You can't with 100% accuracy, no. Studies show the accuracy of those who know enough about the subject to understand the differences to be around 75%.

I completely agree. To suggest all woman are kind and reasonable is as problematic from a feminist perspective as a more negative stereotype. As it serves only to result in far harsher judgment of those of us who don't wish to be 'kind' or conform to other peoples ideas of 'reasonable'.

It used to be women only. I would guess for the first ten years. The clue is in the name, isn't it? I don't have a problem with a Dads' topic but in the past few years they've spread everywhere. A low point for me was when someone came on complaining about "you women".
I have a gay male friend who loves the intelligent political discussion on here. So it's our own fault! But seriously, I have no problem with that. The problem comes, as a PP said, when women want advice on breastfeeding etc without men giving their two hap'oth.

The suffering I endured in my youth due to my misplaced feminist belief that all women are kind and allies 😂😂. Never again!

I will never ever be a ‘not all men’ but agree with that not all women are kind 😭

Has anyone ever suggested this though, that ALL women are kind and reasonable? There appears to be a habit when any thread wanting to discuss male issues, like how as a sex class they are more problematic, some posters manage to equate this to stating that ALL woman don’t cause problems, ‘women do it too’, when it’s not. At all. It’s mental.

This is it. I probably sound like a 'not all men' but I am actually more of an equal oppurtunities misanthrope. Yes, men are on average far more violent and cause more of certain of societies problems, but the idea that some women seem to have that a world without them would be a utopia is sorely mistaken.

Whenever I see a man commenting I always thing, "Why are you on Mumsnet?"