AIBU to be turned off by unwashed hands and a small package?

[Tink3rbell30]

I've recently been dating again after a bad experience and long break. I have known this person years and we have chatted quite often so the familiarity is there. 2 things: he has a very small package and the whole thing was just very awkward and it didn't really work. And after a random conversation it turns out that he doesn't wash his hands after going to the toilet (both a wee and poo). I'm really fussy with cleanliness and to me that is very basic hygiene.

AIBU to do a 180 turn on the whole thing? He is trying to make plans to see me this weekend as we speak. My friend says give it another meet up and see as sex is always very awkward at first but it's the hand washing thing aswell.

Likely he wasn't taught as a child

Leg it. Fast! Thats gross.

Yes he told me afterwards.. I wanted to bath in bleach. I've done all sorts to try and eradicate any germs. I've had H.pylori previously which is from faeces, definitely not from my own hygiene and it was the worst infection I've had. Luckily he has not been in my house or I would have had to bleach every inch of it and myself!

Nah, just tell him sorry but you've realised u can't see him more than a really good friend and be done.

Imagine holding his poo stained hands or worse, them down your pants 🤮

The handwashing thing is gross, I'd be constantly on edge wondering what he'd touched. I wouldn't want him touching ME. Urgh.

The handwashing thing is gross, I'd be constantly on edge wondering what he'd touched. I wouldn't want him touching ME. Urgh.

I disagree, sex can definitely be awkward at first and then get better and better as the relationship grows.

I am reliably informed that many men using the pub toilets do not wash their hands and that is why you should never eat the free peanuts on the bar! I have challenged women leaving the "Ladies" without washing their hands. One girl said that she didnt use the loo, she was changing her top. I pointed out that she had touched the cubicle door handle, that the previous occupants had used the loo, wiped their bum then touched the door handle and that is how the debilitating Noro virus is spread!

I've just been speaking to my dad, he confirmed he always washes his hands after using the toilet but he rarely sees other men wash theirs in pubs etc 🤢 and yes the amount of women I see in shops and pubs that just walk out of the toilet without washing hands is high so not sure how much hope there is.

Four inches is 10cms which is the size of a normal pork sausage. A cocktail sausage is half that size, 😆

Get rid.
I would not even give it another thought.
Reason: I just don't feel the chemistry.

eta: unless you're utterly desperate for another disasterous shag and want norovirus.

I have only ever had a vaginal orgasm with a partner who had a large penis, 9" when fully erect. He was a wonderful lover so perhaps it had more to do with his technique than his size.

Your mate needs higher standards!

Heavens above, you have some self respect, your friend may not. Sex with a shitty handed man is vile. Run run run and tell him it's because he is a lazy slob.
Who doesn't wash their hands 🤮

You took the words right out of my mouth 😆

DOESN'T WASH HIS HANDS?! 😱It's just so needlessly grim, and why would he TELL you that?! If he's too lazy and selfish to wash ACTUAL SHIT GERMS off his fingers, in the first throes of romance, there's not much hope is there?

Small peen wouldn't bother me in itself, it's skill rather than size that makes a difference ime.

Not washing his hands after taking a shit and then has the audacity to let you know! Who the fuck does that? And wants to put those shitty fibre digits on / in you, I'd rather receive an exciting package from LH, and crack on with my life without all the male drama

Have you told him yet?

I was flabbergasted 😂🤢 absolutely agree. I'm disappointed when I made so much effort to start dating again and even try sex again so LH it is.

No I haven't heard from him at all today but when I do I have my message pretty much sorted. Along the lines of I'm not feeling it romantically or sexually, I feel we are better as friends and hygiene is important to me/our conversation about hand washing made me feel icky. I won't mention the small penis. Something like that.

Dirty bastard.

Go for the rose, you won't regret it! 🤪

OMG! He fessed up and even asked why it’s an issue after you’d told him it put you off. Clearly not bothered about winning you over. Or anyone, come to that. Who wouldn’t find that a massive turn-off? YANBU!

Would you even want to remain friends without someone who has such poor hygiene, yet argues they don’t. I wouldn’t.

If you do still want to remain friends, then tell him that. Plenty of people have tried dating friends then gone back to being friends again.

Oo really? I've not tried that 😬

Exactly, I was shocked. He always looks clean. Thank God he has never made me food 🤢 I don't mind being friends like we used to be, no touching involved.