To think we should get the best room in a villa?

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We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

Why would 30 be missed? Personally I thought entering my 30s was a bigger deal that 40.

Because is normal and respectful to assume that the older members of the family have the best.

If you want the best room, you need to make it worth their while. Birthday aside, this is a holiday with other adults paying their way.

I really wouldn’t care enough to start a thread about which room I got for a short holiday. Just enjoy the time with your family!

Do you offer your seat to an older person on a train? Do you teach your children to?

Why? Just 'because it is' isn't an answer. I would agree if OP and her husband were paying more, but they aren't.

To add to my post that I’m quoting, when you’re the organiser, when anything is wrong with the accommodation, people tend to look to you to sort it out. Remember Kevin in that Motherland episode. 😅

Maybe if they’re elderly with mobility issues. They’re only 60 though!

My point was just that the organiser doesn't always have to take the best room as some people were saying - they might deserve it. but they might also choose to offer it to someone else as a kind gesture.

older son and his girlfriend should get the better room as they arranged.

Why?

It’s culture and it’s basic manners. Maybe it’s cultural but in my family this wouldn’t even be a question

As a parent, I'd show respect for DS and girlfriend (who organised it!) and give them the best room. Why expect it just because you're older?

Has OP actually spoken to her DS's GF about it?

For all we know, she may have been planning right from the outset to let the older couple enjoy the best room, as a nod to their seniority - could even have chosen that villa specifically to enable this as a lovely special treat for them - but OP is actively going to pick up toys to put them in her pram purely so she can throw them out again!!

Who said it was a single room? I’m not talking about single rooms. I’m saying they always get the shit room. In THIS instance they are all paying 1/5 but that doesn’t mean he should get the shit room. Many times single people pay the same still get the shit room. It’s happens to me all the time, I’ve paid the same as everyone else but got the shit room.

Isn’t it cultural then for thr parents to even pay towards their kids staying?

It amuses me that the OP has decided to pick up the responses to the side point rather than the one she actually came to ask about, which is almost unanimously against her view.

Yes

I absolutely know that, I was just developing a point in order to clarify something that I probably hadn't expressed clearly. 👍

We do these trips as a family regularly. It’s completely irrelevant but I organise everything and my husband and I pay but I’d never dream of us using anything other than the least good bedroom we’ve done bunk beds on numerous occasions 😄

Our children decide among themselves who gets what in the other rooms but it’s never an issue, the rooms are only there to sleep in so it’s not a big deal for anyone

Especially as their relationship is much newer and more nascent (going on their age and the fact that they aren't married yet); whereas OP and her DH have already lived their lives together as a married couple for probably longer than the younger couple have even been alive.

And I say this as somebody who is between their ages, but considerably nearer to 60 than 30.

It probably would be in my family as well. However, my parents would be paying the entire cost. The OP is not.

Op has clarified that single son is paying 1/5 and the others are paying 2/5 per couple.

If you're all paying the same, then the organiser gets the best room.

I may have missed something, but the only 'reason' I've seen so far as to why OP thinks that she (and her DH, of course) should get the best room is basically "It's the best one available, and I like me (and maybe my DH) the best of the people who are going, so therefore it should obviously be mine!"

I'm reminded of that time on Shooting Stars, when Vic came out with what seemed like a very improbable 'fact', which was then quibbled - and he stamped his feet and shouted "IT'S TRUE!" three times before saying "And I think that proves it!"