Dd wants to call me mum

[Fancyahobnob]

And not mummy anymore 😔
Didn’t think it would happen this young (7)
Want to be mummy a bit longer!

What age was your child when you started being called mum and how did it happen?

Oh goodness both kids called me mum from a very young age. I never gave it a second thought to be honest.

Oh and my teen son now calls me “bruv” or “mush” and my adult daughter often calls me “mama”.

I don't really like 'mum' either, I'm usually mama at home still but she will call me mum if she's being serious. She's 10 and I also feel 'mum' is a shift from them being your baby.

I do also get bro, bruh or just br but I also call her that so I don't mind 😆

I still call my mum 'Mummy' and I'm 53! My 20 something kids call me 'Mummy'.

Im also Mama.

Mine are 6 and 7, and I get “mum” or “mummy”. My ex is “dad” or “first name”

I get called 'Mother' is a sarcastic funny way by all my boys ...or sometimes my first name. I don't mind what they call me 😁

Yes. It’s very immature, and it implicitly tells her that you want her to remain a baby forever, and that you love the older versions of her less. It’s damaging.

i would not answer. I find this very disrespectful.

I called my mum, mother/mum until she died at 73, I never uttered her name to her once.

DD(16) calls me mummy but speaks of me as her Madre (apparently that’s cool!) or mum
DS (11) calls me mummy or mumma to me but speaks of me as his Mum - he asked to start calling me mum about 2 years ago and whilst I was sad I didn’t tell him that I just said it was fine with me - however he hasn’t actually managed to call me mum yet- I think it’s perhaps where Mumma has come in instead as an intermediary.
I love that they still call us mummy and daddy.

is this sarcasm?

I can see your point about immature, though I disagree- but I wholly disagree that it means you love them less. It’s just a name.

My 16 year old is the same. I went from mummy, to mother. I have no idea why! She doesn’t use it often, she usually just comes and talks to me rather than calling for me, but when she doesn’t, she’ll say mother in a comical way.

I’ve never been mummy, always mama, and as they’re mid teens I don’t think it’s going to change. OH has always been papa.

My kidsall 20s call me Mother with eyerolls! Also my full Christian name which is quite long when totally exasperated with me, usually IT related or TV which is beyond my understanding, pathetic I know!

About the same age here, although my son didn't pivot to "Mum", but to "Mama". Which was a bit unexpected as I don't think we know any Mamas and haven't read any books with one... but I'm Mama now.

By switching from ‘mummy’ to ‘mum’, OP’s DD is communicating that she’s growing up and doesn’t want to be seen as a baby anymore.

By asking her to stick to ‘mummy’, OP is telling her DD that she doesn’t want her to grow up. She’s also placing her own sadness at her DD getting older above her DD’s excitement about growing up. She is putting her own emotional needs first, which is a fundamentally selfish way to parent.

It's mostly mam here, but I've noticed lately they call me by my name sometimes which I hate .

Mine are 3 and switch between mum and mummy

I’m not saying that OP does love her daughter less as she ages - just that, in her DD’s mind, it may well appear that way, if her attempts to act in a grown-up way, by switching from ‘mummy’ to ‘mum’ are met with emotional blackmail from her mother.

Sorry, but that's nonsense. Our DS and DD (now 57 and 54 and successful professionals) still call us Mummy and Daddy without a shred of embarrassment. They never asked to change and we never suggested it. DH (one of 3 boys) always called his parents Mum and Dad whereas I (2nd of 5 sisters) never called mine anything other than Mummy and Daddy. Both Mum and Mummy are affectionate abbreviations and only childish if you make them so.

No it doesn't, it just lets her know she doesn't like being called 'mum'.

I also get called mother I don't mind that as much as my name

I'll have to tell my parents that. I've obviously never grown up.

We call our mother Mummy. She's occasionally Mother when she has done something worthy of it. We're all middle aged. It's never crossed our mind to call her anything else.

My father still refers to his parents as Mummy and Daddy. And he and his brothers used to call their mother mama or Mummy.

King Charles used to call the Queen mummy. William and Harry refer to Diana as Mummy. I think Zara calls Anne Mummy too.

Also in Belfast it's perfectly normal and usual for grown adults to always call their parents mummy and daddy. Nothing childish about it.

So interesting reading these.

I was never allowed to say “Mummy” - it was always Mum in our house