How would you feel if your partner wanted a career that you didn’t want him to have

[Daisychain67]

I’ve been with my partner since we were teenagers (now 29) and his ultimate dream has always been to be a famous rapper, I’ve known this since I first met him but was obviously really young back then and thought it was ‘cool’.

We’ve got an 8yo daughter together and the older I have got the more mature I have got and the more I just want a quiet life with my family, no fame, no dramas, just me and my family. We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

I heard him earlier today in the shower and some of his lyrics were about women and how they basically want him and how attractive they are, I’ve told him before that I’m not comfortable with things like that but it’s always brushed off and I’m told if I don’t like it leave him. I haven’t said anything to him yet as I’m not sure whether to or not.

I’m just not sure if this is what I want but I love him and want him to do what he loves. Am I being unreasonable as I’ve known this is what he’s always wanted for a long time?

Agree with @damemaggiescurledupperlipThis the problem: stay with a failed rapper - you lose. Stay with a suddenly successful rapper - you lose

How he treats you now is what matters. How he’ll treat you if he’s [miraculously] successful is worth considering because it doesn’t look good - he will be off like a rat out of an aqueduct. If he never fulfils his dream [the most likely scenario] then he will probably blame everybody else, principally you. Either way you will have put your life on hold/made huge compromises regarding your own values and goals in life for someone who does not indicate the same investment or thought for you.

A man like this would never be my partner so its moot.

You can’t control a man to the extent you seem to want to do so any more than you would be comfortable with him controlling you. You must decide if he is still the man for you. Without condoning the sentiments of the raps I do think it is unreasonable to stop a DP from following their dreams, especially if you have known about them from the beginning.

I mean, this really.

This. He doesn’t sound like a good long term prospect.

A famous rapper 🤣🤣🤣

Well of course he’s not been faithful, what do you expect from a man who aspires to such things?

It’s a might be generalisation but rappers generally do not mature much past their teenage years. They’ll stay in their youth mentality well into their 30s and 40s. Despite the fact they’ll rap about been “grown” and how their troubled pasts have “shaped them to the man they are today” blah blah… their idea of maturity differs from that of the majority of the population.

I find the whole UK rap and drill culture a bit of a cringefest, but that’s just me.

Sounds like he mainly cares about himself. He also doesn’t sound like a great person. Your relationship is heading nowhere (with a lot of pain for you along the way).

And ‘People Just Do Nothing’ has just jumped into my head… You’re not Miche are you!?

Crikey, he sounds like a child. What a turn off. He cheats on you, and is really singing about that kind of thing around you. How utterly juvenile. I'd leave him and get yourself a real grown up man.

I bet he talks with a Caribbean accent as well, even though he was born in Milton Keynes. 🙄Gah, it's just not very "grown up", is it?

🤭 a rapper… c’mon.

Long time ago I knew someone who’s partner admitted to her that he always wanted to be (drum roll)….. porn movie director 😆🤣 Relationship didn’t last, for various other reasons

He’s a very bad bet.

He’s a really useless prospect.

He’s a really useless prospect. Not a nice person either.

Wait. What ?

A rapper? What planet is he on.

After saying that OP. Have a word with yourself. You’re worrying about his lyrics !? He’s a cheater ffs.

How low is your bar ?! Tell him to fuck off. A fucking rapper. What a bell end!

Why are you staying in a relationship with someone who can't stay faithful to you?