How would you feel if your partner wanted a career that you didn’t want him to have

[Daisychain67]

I’ve been with my partner since we were teenagers (now 29) and his ultimate dream has always been to be a famous rapper, I’ve known this since I first met him but was obviously really young back then and thought it was ‘cool’.

We’ve got an 8yo daughter together and the older I have got the more mature I have got and the more I just want a quiet life with my family, no fame, no dramas, just me and my family. We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

I heard him earlier today in the shower and some of his lyrics were about women and how they basically want him and how attractive they are, I’ve told him before that I’m not comfortable with things like that but it’s always brushed off and I’m told if I don’t like it leave him. I haven’t said anything to him yet as I’m not sure whether to or not.

I’m just not sure if this is what I want but I love him and want him to do what he loves. Am I being unreasonable as I’ve known this is what he’s always wanted for a long time?

It's not a career, OP, it's a self-indulgent hobby.

We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’

This, not the rapping, is the problem.

His interest in rapping is neither here nor there. He's never going to be a famous rapper. Forget about that. But what you do need to worry about is the fact that your boyfriend is a complete cunt who has cheated on you, is 'mean' to you and is selfish.

Is he 12? What a horrible role model for your child!

This is it in a nutshell!

Totally agree

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Of all the people that seek fame, a tiny tiny minority succeed, so him becoming a famous rapper, while not impossible, is very unlikely. So you don't have to worry on that front.
But he's a cheating misogynist arsehole so best get rid anyway.

Oh god op 😂😂😂 what on earth?!

My friends DP just wants to be "known" too. Hes done everything - been on reality shows, tried to launch various cologne/fashion/homeware ranges, hes tried being an artist, hes spunked thousands on coaching to become an influencer, done outrageous stunts etc to try and go viral......He just won't accept hes just an average, boring middle aged Joe. Hes utterly convinced hes going to make it one day.

Honestly listening to him just makes me want to cease existing 😂😂 hes been like this for 30 years. It doesnt get any better they just get more desperate.

Well, I thought this was going to be someone who had dreams of becoming a barrister, police officer or stockbroker- something with god awful hours. Definitely did not have rapper on my radar! I’d honestly find it really cringeworthy. If he’s truly talented, I think he should have tried to make it work before starting a family. Now he has responsibilities, I don’t think it’s fair to start following this which in all likelihood will lead nowhere. Most ‘artists’ of any sort don’t make it.

There would be no coming back from the ick id have if my boyfriend wanted to be a rapper

that’s without the cheating

Are you for real?

I thought this was going to be something actually realistic, not something in someone’s wild dreams

I’d like to be a billionaire and a supermodel. Doesn’t just happen.

is he even talented? Does he move in circles where he would even get produced?

Hes rapping in the shower ffs hardly going to be selling on gigs tomorrow is he

the issue you have is his behaviour towards you and women generally not his career dreams

My fanny curled up and died reading about him. You deserve better.

Does he tell other people that he wants to be a rapper? I couldn’t cope. My sisters would disown me.

rapping in the shower lol. Does he have a real job OP?

Show him people just do nothing. Don’t be that woman

Great example you are to your 8 year old daughter. Staying with a cheating misogynistic, egotistical, mean loser. Show her you value yourself, be the strong woman you want her to become.

@Daisychain67 Your post reads like an AI answer to the prompt 'describe a partner and include as many 'icks' as possible; truly revolt me, don't hold back.'

He sounds vile. I can't think why you would want to stay with someone so ignorant and unkind. If it is at all possible for you to leave, I think it would be much better for you - and your child.

He sounds an absolute bellend. Why are you with this cheating shitbag?

He's never going to be a famous rapper. He makes me think of the wannabe DJs in People Just do Nothing.

I read your post and all the while I’m thinking does he wear jeans that hang off the bottom of his arse and does he wear his baseball hat backwards?

Seriously, he seems very immature and you deserve so much better OP. He’s never going to be a rapper, and you’re never going to be happy and fulfilled if you stay with him.

You think the problem with him is that he wants to be a rapper?

I hate rap, but gosh love this spot on

Wow OP he sounds like a real catch 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ honestly you need more self respect, doesn’t sound like he has any for you.

He sounds like a stupid little boy who needs to grow up.

He sounds like a loser. No self respecting man needs to boast about how women find him attractive.

Nailed it!