Nah… DP and I have talk about this a lot, especially at the beginning of the relationship where we both said exactly what we wanted. He was certain that he never wanted to marry again. I said marriage was important to me, and I do hope to marry again one day. We have talked about inheritance (we both recently made new wills, but haven’t included each other currently however, we do envisage redoing them again in the future when we combine our finances and assets), and everything that living together versus marriage would entail. Within a few months, he said that maybe he was too hasty to say that he would never marry again, of his own violation. I never applied any pressure at all, hé thought about it and brought it up. We are not in a position to live together due to my DC, (I don’t want to do this to them at all!) and things are ticking over nicely, but if he hadn’t been willing to discuss our future as a couple and consider options that suited us both, I would not have continued in the relationship. We are both happy enough for the moment, but with a clear view of how we expect the relationship to develop.
Life is too short to muck about and at this point in my life, I am just not willing to compromise on what I want my future to look like.
If living together is important to you, stand up for yourself and don’t give into this emotional blackmail. Have the difficult conversations and lay your cards out. Either he will start to make some compromises to meet your needs or he won’t. Either way, you will have your answer.
YABVU to wait and see if someone better comes along. Sort this relationship first, and then decide what to do next.