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To wonder if past trauma was a factor in the Renee Nicole Good murder and that, while not absolving agent, it shows ICE should select agents more carefully?

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Carla786 · 11/01/2026 20:58

Reading this from the BBC, I wonder if the agent was suffering from previous trauma. They had earlier been in the Iraq War and then had huge number of stitches after being dragged by a car while arresting apparently a 'child sex offender' illicit migrant last March.

Thus I wonder if, because Renee Good clipped them with the car earlier(as The Times indicates), shooting at her car as she drove past was less a rational decision borne from evil and more an instinctive reaction from recent trauma with cars on the job?

This is NOT an excuse. But I wonder if it also shows that ICE are selecting traumatised agents who are too dangerous, due to this, to be in that position?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdx4qd4d16no

Person wearing tactical vest leans toward a car with shattered rear window, broken glass visible, trees and houses in background.

ICE agent in Minnesota shooting was dragged by car in June

The officer was injured in a separate case that also involved a car pulling away during an investigation.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdx4qd4d16no

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Carla786 · 12/01/2026 00:11

ItsSlipperyWhenWet · 11/01/2026 22:29

She had a wife.

I know. If she had 2 long marriages, the second ended by her husband's death in 2023, before marrying her wife in 2025, it seems more likely she was bisexual.

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ScaredOfFlying · 12/01/2026 00:12

I agree with you wholeheartedly @OP

Carla786 · 12/01/2026 00:12

halfpastten · 11/01/2026 22:35

Almost no one commenting so far has actually read your post or the linked BBC article OP, which states the officer was dragged by a car, trying to arrest an illegal migrant who was also a pedophile, a few months earlier and badly injured. From the perspective of his body cam, the car did drive suddenly at him. The driver's wife had called out to her to 'drive'. Those are facts. I am not condoning the shooting, but any speculation about motive needs to include actual facts. From those, it is obvious that he would have heightened anxiety and probable trauma about being dragged or hit. It was less than a split second, he was holding a gun. The driver and her wife made bad decisions, guns should not be legal, for everyone involved it is a tragedy.

I agree mostly but he shot three times, altogether it was more than a split second.

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ScaredOfFlying · 12/01/2026 00:15

ItsSlipperyWhenWet · 11/01/2026 22:29

She had a wife.

Yes, she also had 2 husbands. Hence bisexual.

Carla786 · 12/01/2026 00:15

TempestTost · 11/01/2026 23:14

It could be the case he had something like PTSD, which can make people reactive. But I haven't seen enough information in the public to really say that's true.

The real question would be whether he followed whatever their SOPs are for a car driving off in that situation. Most of the time, those kinds of procedures are trained in a very rote way because typically when a situation like that happens there isn't time to contemplate it, there needs to be an almost automatic reaction.

If that's what the training was for that scenario, it doesn't really tell us a whole lot about who they are hiring, IYSWIM.

Great point : it's a bit like the inquiry into chokeholds use by police after George Floyd.

Otoh we don't know yet so it may not have been protocol.

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Thoseslippers · 12/01/2026 00:20

Yeah i mean he possibly had PTSD and definitely ICE should not have had him working so soon after a traumatic incident.
Hes still a murderer. I'm sure it might be downgraded to manslaughter with the mental health stuff as it possibly wasn't premeditated but an impulsive act.
And when people say he was angry not afraid for his life I totally agree.. but that doesn't mean it wasn't PTSD related as PTSD can often manifest as uncontrollable anger.
Whatever happened there I think anyone defending his behaviour as reasonable is completely deluded. Nothing that man did was reasonable. He had no legal right to order her out of her vehicle as he's not a police officer. He definitely had no right to shoot her dead when he could have just stepped away. She wasn't threatening him she wasn't driving fast.. the whole thing is terrifying abd that he hasnt immediately been condemned and isn't being investigated is horrific.
Terrifying the cultural of MAGA just allowing this unchallenged

Thoseslippers · 12/01/2026 00:23

I also dont think she was randomly in the area. I do believe she was trying to work out what the ICE agents were doing and to record it or even block it if she could.
This is still no justification for her being shot dead.

Betterbelieveit · 12/01/2026 00:39

I'm sad about the murder, but also disappointed that Americans don't seem to notice that the tide has turned.

The Constitution, human rights, right and wrong, are all debatable now and no longer hold as much sway as they once did.

If people value their lives, and I should hope everyone does, they will steer clear of these provoking confrotations with trigger happy goons who for whatever idiotic reason have been recruited into law enforcement positions.

I'd rather be alive than right.

Forgotmyshades · 12/01/2026 00:46

@atmywitsend1989- wow I hope you picked your daughter up on her disgusting implication that a South East Asian woman= mail order bride.

MO0N · 12/01/2026 00:51

The 1st reply covers it for me.

ItWillWash · 12/01/2026 00:53

Playingvideogames · 11/01/2026 21:05

It’s difficult because soft, sensitive, left leaning men simply couldn’t do this job. They wouldn’t be able to deal with hardened gangsters and drug lords. They would be too scared to engage them.

So that leaves the tougher, stronger types but they are prone to being trigger happy or too enthusiastic to engage.

Ultimately it’s a totally different landscape to here, where the public have guns, cities are addicted to fentanyl, and vast swathes of cities are controlled by gangs. But you’ll get the well meaning types saying ‘they should do what our police do/our police aren’t aggressive’ etc

And yet the soft, sensitive, left-leaning police officers in the UK, Australia, Canada, Sweden, Switzerland, Germany, etc., all manage to do their jobs without resorting to shooting/beating/choking people dead on a regular basis.

Your police are allowed to kill with impunity. Why are you OK with this?

DeepBlueDeer · 12/01/2026 01:03

I suspect that the administration are delighted with this killing (that I do believe was a murder).

They specifically want ICE to rough people up, and wanted the military to use Democratic-led cities as training facilities for wartime.

If they can provoke unrest, that will give them their narrative for why they need to cancel, or exert significant control over, the midterm elections.

Violence and political unrest is the aim, here.

Forgotmyshades · 12/01/2026 01:05

@ItWillWash- Are you sure about that? Go ask the first Nations community in Canada how how soft and sensitive the police are.

atmywitsend1989 · 12/01/2026 01:42

Forgotmyshades · 12/01/2026 00:46

@atmywitsend1989- wow I hope you picked your daughter up on her disgusting implication that a South East Asian woman= mail order bride.

I thought she was claiming that he did actually marry a mail order bride but I was a little irked when I found out what she meant 😬 We're south Asian not south east asian but I thought I'd already talked about stereotypes ect . Usually it'd be My son who'd make an off colour comment like that . my daughter tends to act like more of the teenage activist type and her best friend was a Filipino girl. I'm not sure where she got that misinformation from

mjf981 · 12/01/2026 01:55

AhBiscuits · 11/01/2026 21:05

I've had to stop reading social media posts about it because it makes me feel so angry and upset. I saw someone compare it to that dress where some people see white and gold and some see black and blue. It's really hard to make yourself see it the way some others do. Whatever new info and different spins I read, to me it's just murder.

This is exactly what I thought.
I see people saying she tried to run him over so he was justified in killing her and I get angry. It's like they're seeing a totally different video. I've had to stop following it all as I find it so unbelievable, and is making me question my own sanity/judgement. Which is what they want I guess..

LeonMccogh · 12/01/2026 02:27

If that man has also not abused his immigrant (Filipino) wife I’ll eat my hat.

Forgotmyshades · 12/01/2026 02:47

@atmywitsend1989I think I was being a little salty!. My husband is Malay and I have girls and sisters in law who I feel very protective of. The world is so crazy such Division and assumption and labeling of anything or anyone different or with different views.

FunMustard · 12/01/2026 02:59

No I don't think that had anything to do with it. Not least because he's recording her, switches hands so he can grab his weapon, and then calls her a fucking bitch afterwards.

I also don't actually care. It is a fascist police state that defends the murder of a woman by federal agents when she did nothing wrong.

Carla786 · 12/01/2026 03:34

Thoseslippers · 12/01/2026 00:23

I also dont think she was randomly in the area. I do believe she was trying to work out what the ICE agents were doing and to record it or even block it if she could.
This is still no justification for her being shot dead.

Exactly, even if she were doing that, do people think that merits death?

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Carla786 · 12/01/2026 03:41

atmywitsend1989 · 12/01/2026 01:42

I thought she was claiming that he did actually marry a mail order bride but I was a little irked when I found out what she meant 😬 We're south Asian not south east asian but I thought I'd already talked about stereotypes ect . Usually it'd be My son who'd make an off colour comment like that . my daughter tends to act like more of the teenage activist type and her best friend was a Filipino girl. I'm not sure where she got that misinformation from

I think it is fair to say that some men do still treat some women in poor countries including South Asia like mail order brides. I've had the misfortune to look at the passport bro subreddit & that attitude is sadly alive & well among a minority of men.

Identifying that a man may possibility have followed racist/sexist passport bro ideas ≠ endorsing those ideas themselves and meaning that a younger South East Asian wife must automatically be an exploited passport bro wife.

I don't whether your daughter meant it with that nuance or not though. It's like the difference between acknowledging that a minority of men who date Asian women are motivated by 'submissive Asian' etc stereotypes and generalising that to accuse any man dating an Asian woman of having 'yellow fever', as some online activists do.

Anyway, I don't think wr should be prying into the poor wife's background. I hope she is safe though!

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Goingootforawalk · 12/01/2026 03:51

I was reading something on Instagram threads earlier about how and why many Asian women end up married to racist misogynist MAGA white men.

The answers given (mainly by Asian people) were interesting.

The general consensus was that one reason is these MAGA men see their Asian wives as submissive to them. So they are “useful” and “good” immigrants /minorities that should be allowed to stay as opposed to “crazy tattooed lefty feminist immigrants or minorities who challenge the dominance of these men.

But even then, they may throw the threat of deportation about if their wife ever “gets out of line”.

And not even just white men - one Asian woman spoke of having been married to a MAGA supporting Black military man who hated Western women, especially Black women.

Another reason put forward (by some Asian women) was that some of them are happy with racist misogynist men because they share those views. They actively want to be racist towards other minorities stemming from their desire to seek proximity to whiteness and distance themselves from other non-whites eg. Mexicans and Black people.

So I wouldn’t automatically assume this is a “poor wife” situation. She may well be complicit.

JohnSt1 · 12/01/2026 04:01

Perhaps he was enraged because he didn't intimidate her with his pee-pee. At least two of the shots were fired from the side so it wasn't self defence. It was hatred and rage. I'd like to think he'll be locked away, but he'll probably end up with his own YouTube channel.

RedTagAlan · 12/01/2026 04:45

ItWillWash · 12/01/2026 00:53

And yet the soft, sensitive, left-leaning police officers in the UK, Australia, Canada, Sweden, Switzerland, Germany, etc., all manage to do their jobs without resorting to shooting/beating/choking people dead on a regular basis.

Your police are allowed to kill with impunity. Why are you OK with this?

DV has been an issue in US police forces for a long time, because of a preference to hire more "macho" types. There are a lot of academic papers and articles to be found on this. Example here :

Police Officer Domestic Violence Is A Crisis. It’s Time for States to Take Action | Scholars Strategy Network

There is a 40% of US cops inflict DV, but that is about 35 years and has been debunked.

40% of Cops Admitted They Abuse Their Partners? | Snopes.com

However, it is an issue, as Snopes indicate,

"One of those studies used an overly vague definition of "violence" that the researcher said could have been interpreted in multiple ways. The other study muddied the issue by including abuse perpetrated by officers' spouses in its data. The percentage of officers in that study who admitted specifically to perpetrating domestic violence was actually 28%."

I found another study, I wont link because don't want to flood the forum, that in the general population DV perps are 16%. So its 16% non cops, 28% cops.

But it's one of these things that are not recorded consistently. The USA does have 40k different Police forces after all. From local town forces with a couple of officers, up to likes of the NYPD. With recruitment pressure, there are many cracks in the system for the bad officers to walk through.

And of course, these 40k forces will feed into the feds. The USA has a LOT of sworn officers. About 1.28 million.

I am making no claims here, I am not an academic. I am just saying that DV in US cops is a known issue.

40% of Cops Admitted They Abuse Their Partners?

An X user shared the supposed statistic in response to a dating show clip.

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/cops-abuse-partners-studies/

Ihatetomatoes · 12/01/2026 04:52

WhatSharonSaidNext · 11/01/2026 22:21

Sky News today claimed cctv evidence had now been found that she didn’t just accidentally stumble into the neighbourhood. She hadn’t just dropped her child off at school. She along with others had spent the morning stalking ICE around the streets and obstructing an active immigration investigation long before the parts we saw on camera. They were already frustrated and angry at her. She knew exactly who they were. We only saw the aftermath of that morning of her following them. I personally don’t believe she tried to run anyone over. Sadly I think she thought an armed officer of the law would never shoot her regardless if she obstructed them.

Wasn't aware of that. Why goad someone in a very tense situation when they are armed. Didn't deserve to be killed though.

RingoJuice · 12/01/2026 04:54

Thoseslippers · 12/01/2026 00:20

Yeah i mean he possibly had PTSD and definitely ICE should not have had him working so soon after a traumatic incident.
Hes still a murderer. I'm sure it might be downgraded to manslaughter with the mental health stuff as it possibly wasn't premeditated but an impulsive act.
And when people say he was angry not afraid for his life I totally agree.. but that doesn't mean it wasn't PTSD related as PTSD can often manifest as uncontrollable anger.
Whatever happened there I think anyone defending his behaviour as reasonable is completely deluded. Nothing that man did was reasonable. He had no legal right to order her out of her vehicle as he's not a police officer. He definitely had no right to shoot her dead when he could have just stepped away. She wasn't threatening him she wasn't driving fast.. the whole thing is terrifying abd that he hasnt immediately been condemned and isn't being investigated is horrific.
Terrifying the cultural of MAGA just allowing this unchallenged

He had no legal right to order her out of her vehicle as he's not a police officer

First of all, federal agents DO have the right to arrest and detain for a short time anyone that obstructs their operations.

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