Child protection plan - Devastated

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Posting for traffic as SEN board is quiet.

We have a high needs AUADHD non verbal DS. Specialist school, learning disabilities and challenging behaviour. Lovely but hard work and disregulates in school holidays. His home carer recently quit due to his violence and not feeling safe which they put in writing and I shared with SS.

I gave up work (both professionals) and became DS carer (also has a younger sibling) and have absolutely advocated for him every step of the way.
We kept asking for additional support and being denied at panel. DS is almost 6 but huge, 9-10 clothes. We reached breaking point this Christmas. We felt we couldn’t keep him or ourselves safe in the home and were really at the end of our tether. I rang social services and recounted how uncomfortable we were with the events of Christmas, said we wanted to consider section 20 or residential school if they wouldn’t help us further. They had a meeting this week and put both kids on child protection plans. Said DS is staying with us as we are what’s best for him.

Im just completely devastated. Barely stopped crying for 24 hours.

There were quite a few inaccuracies told in the meeting that compiled made us look really negative. There’s also things like DS having a safety gate over his room which everyone (including SS and OT) has known about all along and never raised issue with but now it’s a massive issue.
I can evidence most of these things but I’m terrified to even try. They have all clearly decided we are now the problem. Apparently the police who were in the meeting (never had police involvement in our lives) heard all of this and were very unhappy.

No one has ever had an issue with our parenting if anything I’ve always been commended for my perseverance with DS. I honestly wish I’d never said anything, we just really needed help.

In England there is no such role within child protection procedures and on googling not in Scotland either. What you suggested the safeguarder should do is exactly what the social worker does in their assessment. I can't imagine why a second social worker would be asked to do a second assessment. To what end?

@ShawnaMacallister
If you could read my comment on P11 ( with download)of this thread with the attachment.
It may inform you.
I m unsure why you re so confused about this role or deem it unnecessary when you ve( until now) unaware of its existence.
There is indeed a role of safeguarder in Scotland. My post explains their role quite well if you wish to read it and educate yourself.
" To what end ?", you ask.
I have explained, but I ll do it again.
When there are complex issues ,perhaps disagreement between families OR legal teams ( if involved) OR SW .
Or when agreement between parties involved cannot be met in the best interests of the child.
A safeguarder MAY BE APPOINTED by requested of EITHER the court or a Childrends Panel hearing.
Their role ( safeguarder) is to meet with relevant people involved in the case and produce an independent and unbiased account which is reported back to either the court or Panel members.( whoever requested it).
They do not make decisions or offer judgement or opinion.They compile a report regarding all aspects of the child and the relevant people and professionals in the child's life; family,SW, health care ,police,education if involved and relevant.
Appointment of Safeguarder can be most useful in certain cases.
As I ve said; a few times now, a safeguarder can be allocated if the court OR Panel members think it appropriate OR if the family or SW request it in Scotland.
At the time I made my original comment I was not aware where OP lived or that safeguarders were unique to the Scottish system.
Is there anything else you would like explained???