Nursery teachers snarky comment

[CheekyTealFawn]

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

Did you read @JJWT lovely supportive post before you posted this?

I agree - the judgmental pile on in this thread is awful. Women just don’t always support women. I know a few posts have been removed - but more should be.

Every day except Friday kids are commonly still there until 6-6.25 apparently. Do you honestly think if they weren’t giving my child dinner I would’ve left her there until 6.20? She goes to bed at 8pm, that gives us 1.5 hours at home for bath, supper, reading books or playing, and bed.

Thank you very much. It is people like you whose opinion I am taking to heart, not the horrible people who are clearly very insecure and feel the need to rip other mums to shreds when they see another mum doing something they cannot imagine for themselves. You were a working mum with a young child in childcare, who has turned out to be incredible in adulthood, so that is all the reassurance and opinion I need. Thank you, I think you’re incredible for what you did when DC was young!🥰

Honestly I wasn’t expecting it to be so controversial, I’m baffled by some of the responses on here 😂

Please go away.

plenty of parents need this level of childcare.

kids are fine.

Well said.

Thank you 🥰 I’ve seen posts made by SAHM slated for being SAHM, honestly I think when it comes to motherhood you’re damned if you do damned if you don’t!

In areas of high employment, high-cost housing and where wealthy people live, almost all nurseries offer these hours, and they are well utilised. OP, I wish I'd taken an OU degree when my children were younger. I hope the poorly educated SAHM on this thread have spurred you on in your studies x

Oh yes!

My daughter went to nursery from 8am to 6pm five days a week from 5 months old, and she thrived on it. Oh and I might also say that there was always a terrible rush to get there for 6 ... I wasn't the only parent who would have grabbed the extra half hour if it had been offered.

You're not doing anything wrong, and you have every right to expect the nursery to make good on the hours they have sold you.

Gosh.

children are just mistreated right left and center. Of course you should be upset, they are playing on your relationship with her to be paid without the work and cause hurt to your daughter for it.

just find another place.

Oh that’s interesting. my area is very much a young family, finance father/mother area and 7.30-6.30 are the hours literally every single nursery offered. Only childminders close earlier, which my DD was with for 1.5 years, but we had to move because childminders are usually term time only, and since I’m usually so behind in my studies and work that this always bleeds over into half terms and holidays this was stopped working for us! Thank you 🤗

Thank you for this ☺️

Yeap.

The joy of being a woman in a man’s world. You need to be everything so they can be on holidays 😂😂 and the nursery knows that coz it is full of women whom know very well what you aren’t doing!

we always had a laugh (rant) when we realise female teachers would swear by the good day when my hubby was doing the school run and always want to tchat to me about any kind of issue when I was coming.

👀 2026 and we still at it. From women to women!

Women can’t win. I’m currently a SAHM to two little ones and I’ve been on the receiving end of rude comments. I get asked all the time when my (still pretty young) baby is starting nursery because it’s so beneficial for them. When I was focusing on my career, I was asked when I was starting a family and told there’s more to life than working. 😂

I feel like you’ve summed it up perfectly!!! I think there are some very angry or sad people out there who prowl these forums looking for a way to vent their frustrations. I can’t imagine any reason why I would feel compelled to tear apart another mum for what they decide to do with their life. Apparently, once you become a mum, you are never allowed to do anything ever again!

Sahm here with a uni degree. Most sahm I know are educated women who choose to raise their children and then go back to work. I don't see how judging any mum for their choice in life- using childcare or being a sahm- is constructive.

Its appalling that they thought that they could sit there ready to leave in their coats, they're paid till 6.30 to look after your daughter. They should put their bloody coats on when the working day is over. Find another nursery because if this is what they are like in front of the parents...
I wouldn't do this as a schol nursery teacher. What on Earth are they thinking??

I'm not judging SAHMs, I myself am a SAHM, my comment addressed those on this thread who have decided to 'go for' OP using childcare.

Do you have a job? I’m really interested in your career because I’d like to work somewhere that is happy for me to take time off any time one of my three children has a mild cold! Maybe I could retrain.

wow I think you need to stop obsessing over my employment status

I was just looking for some career advice, I’d genuinely love to work somewhere where they’d be happy for me to take time off every time one of my children has a mild cold! Sadly as a criminal law solicitor I think everyone would be a bit pissed off if I didn’t turn up to work because one of my children had the sniffles 😭.

No, you're misquoting, or you're not reading thoroughly. I mentioned those who have said they are SAHMs that aren't educated enough to understand why a Mum would want or need the hours of nursery OP requires.
Your last sentence has no bearing on anything here - did you just feel the need to put that in or are you trying to make a point of some sort ?

It’s ok though, I can assume from the fact that you’re avoiding responding that you don’t, in fact, have a job, and therefore you being able to keep your children at home every time they have a mild cold is completely irrelevant to those of us who do.

For gods sake you’re the last person to be talking about judgemental comments. You have been by far the cruellest and most judgemental of everyone on here