We’ve hurt the birthday boy’s feelings?

[sidneytweeney]

So my son who is 8 has been invited to his friend’s birthday party next weekend. Another mum who I am friends with has asked me to take her son to the party too as she is working (he’s been invited.) I’ve agreed to do this and to help my friend out further, her son is going to be having a sleepover at mine in the night of the party. (Mum friend is a single parent, works as a nurse) The birthday boy is staying at his grandparents after his party in order to see extended family for his birthday. Birthday boy’s mum texted me this morning to say that I had disappointed birthday boy by organising a fun sleepover to which birthday boy can’t come. She said I had ‘taken the shine off his special day.’ Unless I’m missing a higher chunk of social awareness , this woman is batshit right?

WTAF?! To say she is making a bit of a leap is putting it mildly unless she has been misinformed by some other parent of course?! 🙄

This is the only logical outcome for this scenario.
a couple of Hail Marys and you should get out of this alive

She’s utterly unreasonable

@imdunfer

The mother has failed here. Not OP. Kids mum needs to handle his expectations

It’s been covered already. It’s a closed group for discussing Minecraft.
Stand down. Nothing to see here.

Wow she’s cray cray…… really setting her son up for disappointment in the real world. These parents annoy me !

We’ve been uninvited!

This is the text!

Wow! She really is a twat. Has the child that was coming to the sleepover also been uninvited or just your son?

ETA that I've seen your follow up post and she's uninvited both boys. She's not doing her son any favours here with this ridiculous behaviour.

All three of us…

That's outrageous! What a nob!

Wow!! So your conciliatory apologetic post didn’t work? Silly woman.
Who is the third child? I thought it was just the nurse’s son?

What did you reply?

Sorry I mean me, my son and nurse’s son

I think the 3rd person is the OP

How ridiculous of her, she’s going to look so stupid when others find out. All the talk will be about why your 2 aren’t there! Hope your son and his friend are ok about it, I’m sure they’ll have fun doing another activity.

I haven’t. I don’t really know what to say. It’s kind of ridiculous isn’t it, but wanted to share with the thread

Pretty soon this woman’s son won’t have any friends - then her son will be “sad”!

Wow! That won’t help birthday boy at all!

it could create friction between the boys unnecessarily.

Utterly ridiculous response.

Yeah I’ll take them out somewhere for the afternoon.

I would maybe reply and say something like “If you think that’s best, but will your son not be more sad if his friends aren’t his party?”

I don’t really want to get into a dialogue with her. I didn’t know this because I don’t really know her (birthday boy mum) but when I told my friend (nurse) about this, she did mention that she had form for drama, so she’s probably getting something from this.

Omg I can't believe it. That's just so awful of her

That is a real shame. She's getting way too emotional and angry about her son projecting some weird stuff on to him poor boy. It's clearly about her and not him and has triggered a very extreme reaction with her. My only suggestion would be you could be very generous, rise above this and reply to her saying that it is a shame for her son and the other 2 boys and that her birthday boy would be really welcome at yours after the party - that you are looking after x's son so she can work etc and leave it at that.

I’d not reply at all, or if totally pushed would be a 👍, there’s really no point communicating any further with someone like that.