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AIBU?

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Need handhold and urgent advice

158 replies

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 09/01/2026 07:53

I think I may be putting this is AIBU when I meant Chat. Sorry, all. I’ll try to keep it very short. I have cellulitis, and already had life-limiting illness. My DH is having a mental health breakdown, partially brought on by the stress of caring for me (he says no, but it’s obvious). I finally got him on the phone to the GP so he has treatment, thank God, and they were just wonderful with him. I’m on first-line oral antibiotics for cellulitis (flucloxacillin) but got up this morning at 7 to take my pill and noticed I have swelling, but NOT an open sore, under my eye. Here are the issues:

  1. How long should I wait to see if the swelling under my eye goes down or becomes a sore? (Before this, the doctor said to give the antibiotic until Friday to work; sores take up to 12 hours to develop for me).
  2. My husband is currently on heavy medication for a few days, to deal with what’s going on. He’s normally my carer. I would call my PILs but they’re leaving for Thailand today on a long-awaited trip, and BIL is house sitting their cat. The only relative I had is my mum and she’s 3000 miles away and at work. I have a friend who can come, but she can only get a flight on Monday. Should I just tell her now to come? Her coming will REALLY upset my husband as he has high anxiety, but if I get hospitalized, wtf are we going to do???

I swear I’m normally “smarter” than this but I feel just paralyzed by stress and worry and feeling so unwell. And I keep thinking I’m going to die, which is either my own anxiety or someone did say it could be sepsis, which I had in November.

I’m just having a huge wobble, I don’t know what to do about anything, and I don’t have a lot of friends to ask, and none local or with experience of this.

OP posts:
loislovesstewie · 13/01/2026 06:48

Good news! I hope you continue to improve very rapidly. Sending you massive hugs and best wishes. 💐

KellsBells7 · 13/01/2026 07:51

So pleased to read your update. Hope you’re better and home soon.

GriseldaClement · 13/01/2026 09:57

So glad that you’ve got the right treatment now ❤️

ApolloandDaphne · 13/01/2026 10:00

No need to be embarrassed. Just be glad it was less serious than you thought and you are going to recover.

CleanSkin · 13/01/2026 10:32

OP, I’ve just come across your thread. I’m so, so sorry you’re going through all of this, you’re an utterly amazing, strong woman to be able to keep going at all. If I were nearby, I’d offer a huge hug, handhold and anything at all that I could possibly do to help.
And as another Addisons patient, I’m equally horrified & furious that the doctors hadn’t at least doubled your steroids whilst you’re on the antibiotics. This is such basic medicine, there is no excuse.
Best wishes, with everything xx

alexdgr8 · 14/01/2026 01:15

? Change GP ?

Randomchat · 14/01/2026 07:00

I've been around on your threads for years under different names. I hope you get over this crisis and there are more good times ahead for you and your husband.

Please post more Instagram photos if you feel like it. I enjoyed them!

Zippidydoodah · 15/01/2026 13:00

Don’t be embarrassed! This is a wonderful update. Sending gentle hugs 🤗

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