Need handhold and urgent advice

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I think I may be putting this is AIBU when I meant Chat. Sorry, all. I’ll try to keep it very short. I have cellulitis, and already had life-limiting illness. My DH is having a mental health breakdown, partially brought on by the stress of caring for me (he says no, but it’s obvious). I finally got him on the phone to the GP so he has treatment, thank God, and they were just wonderful with him. I’m on first-line oral antibiotics for cellulitis (flucloxacillin) but got up this morning at 7 to take my pill and noticed I have swelling, but NOT an open sore, under my eye. Here are the issues:

1. How long should I wait to see if the swelling under my eye goes down or becomes a sore? (Before this, the doctor said to give the antibiotic until Friday to work; sores take up to 12 hours to develop for me).
2. My husband is currently on heavy medication for a few days, to deal with what’s going on. He’s normally my carer. I would call my PILs but they’re leaving for Thailand today on a long-awaited trip, and BIL is house sitting their cat. The only relative I had is my mum and she’s 3000 miles away and at work. I have a friend who can come, but she can only get a flight on Monday. Should I just tell her now to come? Her coming will REALLY upset my husband as he has high anxiety, but if I get hospitalized, wtf are we going to do???

I swear I’m normally “smarter” than this but I feel just paralyzed by stress and worry and feeling so unwell. And I keep thinking I’m going to die, which is either my own anxiety or someone did say it could be sepsis, which I had in November.

I’m just having a huge wobble, I don’t know what to do about anything, and I don’t have a lot of friends to ask, and none local or with experience of this.

Goodness me, I couldn’t read and run. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Have you definitely asked your friend to come? I do think you might need to call 999. I hope things look up for you soon.

She says she has a life-limiting illness, and her DH is having a crisis from being her carer.

Hope you being looked after
Hospital social worker can be contacted to liaise to put emergency package in place pending the longer term solution. Or hospice if space
Your dh can call mh crisis team for home visit and support

She doesn't need to share the personal details of her illnesses, we are not entitled to that knowledge, nor is it relevant to the post

Been watching this thread all day and hoping that OP is having the treatment she needed and being well looked after. We're all rooting for you.

Same here, really hope you are ok Op xxx

Hey everyone - thank you. I don’t know if this will be my last post, in hospital, suspected sepsis.Temp is 35 something and heart rate over 100. My chest hurts. I think this might be the end of my MN journey. My husband knew I was dyibf when we got married, but the reality has been really hard for him to take, so for those who think a grown man should do better… please, just have compassion. I hope the world will have compassion for him when I’m gone. He’s kept me alive two years longer than otherwise. Thank you for your support when I was most scared. If i do somehow make it through this, I will update when able

All the best OP, I do hope we hear from you again, IV antibiotics can work miracles sometimes, but I know when your body is already weak there is only so much they can do. I hope your husband gets the support he needs if the worst happens. I'll keep you in my thoughts tonight. If you need anyone to hold any thoughts for you, I know there's sometimes a thread where people in different timezones do that. I'll try and find it.

Editing to add the thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4363059-Bring-us-your-worries-big-or-small-The-nightshift-will-hold-them-so-you-can-sleep?page=8&reply=147592132

Not been posted on for a while but I have sometimes found it helpful.

All the best xxxx

Here and thinking of you and your husband OP.

Thinking of you and your husband.

FWIW I think he sounds like a good man who has done his best. People who haven't lived it don't realise how hard these situations are on loved ones and so can lack compassion.

I really hope that you pull through this xx

Thinking of you OP.

I don't have any words to make this shit situation any better, but i really really hope you pull through and your DH is OK x

I really hope I see many further updates from you OP x

Sending love. My mother had sepsis last year. I can confirM the sense of impending doom. She was convinced she was dying. It was when I called her and she was talking complete nonsense that I drove up to her as I knew it wasn't right. It was terrifying for her and her family but she is absolutely fine a head on). I hope we hear from you very soon. Sending love.

Well done for going in. You must be feeling really poorly but they'll pump those antibiotics in and deal with everything as it arises. One minute at a time.

Your DH is doing his best. Relatives of very sick people aren't heroes. They're just people.

I'm so sorry. hope your dh is coping okay and you get some more time together to help him x

You and your husband are in our thoughts, I hope the antibiotics work their magic soon and you are home with your DH in no time. You also need so much more support, you and DH, maybe BIL could speak to your GP or local authority and get that ball rolling? God bless x

You and your family are in my thoughts ❤️

In my prayers tonight op

Xxxxxxxxxxx💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

Keeping you in my thoughts OP ❤️

Thinking of you and your husband OP. Thanks goodness you’re in hospital now. I’ve been thinking of you today, after reading your post this morning, You’re both amazing people who have endured immense adversity. Stay strong 💓

Well done for getting to hospital - that's absolutely where you need to be. I am absolutely rooting for you to turn a corner and very much hope to see further posts from you.

Your DH has done the best he can and is taking a mental break - that does not make him weak or anything else - just human.

You have both endured so much for so long - you deserve a break and I have everything crossed that things improve for you.

All the best Op x

Thoughts and prayers being sent to you OP. I had sepsis a few years ago and came out the other side, I hope you do too xxx

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family x

My thoughts are with you and your husband. x