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AIBU?

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158 replies

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 09/01/2026 07:53

I think I may be putting this is AIBU when I meant Chat. Sorry, all. I’ll try to keep it very short. I have cellulitis, and already had life-limiting illness. My DH is having a mental health breakdown, partially brought on by the stress of caring for me (he says no, but it’s obvious). I finally got him on the phone to the GP so he has treatment, thank God, and they were just wonderful with him. I’m on first-line oral antibiotics for cellulitis (flucloxacillin) but got up this morning at 7 to take my pill and noticed I have swelling, but NOT an open sore, under my eye. Here are the issues:

  1. How long should I wait to see if the swelling under my eye goes down or becomes a sore? (Before this, the doctor said to give the antibiotic until Friday to work; sores take up to 12 hours to develop for me).
  2. My husband is currently on heavy medication for a few days, to deal with what’s going on. He’s normally my carer. I would call my PILs but they’re leaving for Thailand today on a long-awaited trip, and BIL is house sitting their cat. The only relative I had is my mum and she’s 3000 miles away and at work. I have a friend who can come, but she can only get a flight on Monday. Should I just tell her now to come? Her coming will REALLY upset my husband as he has high anxiety, but if I get hospitalized, wtf are we going to do???

I swear I’m normally “smarter” than this but I feel just paralyzed by stress and worry and feeling so unwell. And I keep thinking I’m going to die, which is either my own anxiety or someone did say it could be sepsis, which I had in November.

I’m just having a huge wobble, I don’t know what to do about anything, and I don’t have a lot of friends to ask, and none local or with experience of this.

OP posts:
Jeschara · 11/01/2026 00:16

My thoughts are with you and your husband. x

Florencesndzebedee · 11/01/2026 00:34

I’m sure you’ll be fine now you’re in hospital. Cellulitis can make you feel like s**t and you were still well enough to post so hopefully sepsis hasn’t set in. Hope you make a speedy recovery.

ApolloandDaphne · 11/01/2026 04:13

Rest easy. The doctors will do all they can to get you well again.

NewAgeNewMe · 11/01/2026 05:15

Thinking of you 💐

loislovesstewie · 11/01/2026 06:50

Thinking of you and your DH. 💐

chunkyBoo · 11/01/2026 07:15

Sending hugs, you’re in the right place, being cared for x

Daysgo · 11/01/2026 07:23

Wishing you and your dh thr best op

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 11/01/2026 07:55

Thinking of you both 💐

TaffyandTeenyTaffy · 11/01/2026 09:28

Sending healing hugs and keeping you and your DH in my thoughts.

PattiPatty · 11/01/2026 10:35

I've been watching but not posted. I hope you can see this @FFSToEverythingSince2020 and I hope you are comfortable.

Zippidydoodah · 11/01/2026 11:32

Sending so much love to you and your wonderful husband ❤️

JennyWrenSeven · 11/01/2026 12:39

Thinking of you and you DH @FFSToEverythingSince2020 I hope you’re comfortable and having the best care surrounding you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💐

Vallmo47 · 11/01/2026 14:40

Thinking of you @FFSToEverythingSince2020
I don’t know what to say beyond that.
Praying for a miracle. ♥️♥️

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 11/01/2026 15:16

Never been so sick in my life. I guess it spread quickly because of my vascular condition. Got all my hair cut off because it was easier. Iced raspberry jelly is really quite good. I’m so scared. Thanks for all the support. Friend will be here tomorrow at 1145am to help. This may be the last update for a while because it’s fucking hard to type and my chest hurts

OP posts:
PrizedPickledPopcorn · 11/01/2026 15:21

Bless you. Save your energy. I hope your friend brings you comfort and support.

NorthernLass50 · 11/01/2026 15:23

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 11/01/2026 15:16

Never been so sick in my life. I guess it spread quickly because of my vascular condition. Got all my hair cut off because it was easier. Iced raspberry jelly is really quite good. I’m so scared. Thanks for all the support. Friend will be here tomorrow at 1145am to help. This may be the last update for a while because it’s fucking hard to type and my chest hurts

Thank you for the update. Glad your friend is on the way tomorrow. Take care of yourself and hope you start to feel better soon x

HappyFace2025 · 11/01/2026 15:26

Thank you for your update OP. Also have you and your DH in my thoughts and wishing you both well asap.

loislovesstewie · 11/01/2026 15:43

Still thinking of you and your DH. Please rest, I'm sure the staff are caring for you. And we will all think of you tonight. Those who pray will do, and the rest of us will hold you in our hearts. ❤️

Munchyseeds2 · 11/01/2026 15:45

Wishing you all the luck in the world that you start to feel better soon

ERthree · 11/01/2026 16:07

My heart is breaking for you. If you are in sw Scotland and i can help please let me know x

Piknik · 11/01/2026 18:25

How generous of you to update us. We are all rooting for you OP. x

Illjustplayostrich · 11/01/2026 22:15

Still thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers x

Confusedmum74858 · 11/01/2026 23:24

Hope you’re ok OP. I had cellulitis in my leg and it was nasty - I was only 27 at the time and had just had a newborn baby. My CRP was over 250 and it should be under 10, I couldn’t have the IV antibiotics in hospital because they couldn’t take my baby too as he was breastfed and I didn’t want to leave him so they sent me home with a cannula in and the district nurses came daily to deliver the antibiotics that way. Wonder if when your sepsis is under control if they could discharge you and put you under care of the home nursing team too so you’re not away from your DH for so long. Must be so hard for you and him, sending lots of love and strength

NewAgeNewMe · 12/01/2026 06:49

How are you feeling x

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 12/01/2026 07:31

OP I hope the treatment is working and that you are beginning to feel better x

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