Would you inform the school?

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My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

Was this in school?

Were you there to witness the incident?

Did it happen on school property or in view of her class?

Was this during her working time, at school and witnessed first hand by you?

Teachers are also humans, they do lots of things in their personal lives that they don’t do in school. Unless she did this on school grounds or infront of her class I don’t see how this is relevant info.

Did it happen at school

Did you witness it?

If you would report her to her employer, regardless of who employs her, then the fact that she is a teacher should not put you off.

If you would only report a teacher for this behaviour, why? If you would not report her to any other employer, don’t.

What provocation did your friend give? Are you trying to be petty and get revenge or are you genuinely worried about the students welfare?

Jesus wept
Mind your own business you snake busybidy

"Your friend" should not inform her friend's employer. What on earth makes "your friend" think a personal argument (however badly either of them behaved) is anything to do with them?

Spitting is classed as assault I believe so she should tell the police rather than school if she wants to report it!

(I have assumed this was not at school, and not while she was acting in her professional capacity. Obviously if it was during a parent-teacher meeting on the school premises, the situation is different)

Unless this was actually in school with another member of staff then no should not report it to the school.

That would just be massive s#it stirring

Did this happen in the school or school grounds? If yes, then report it. If no, and this was a ‘private argument’ then of course not! That would be absurd! People fall out, argue, even spit (god awful behaviour, but it happens 😫). We don’t go round reporting these arguments to everyone’s employer do we ffs? 🤦‍♀️

If your friend doesn’t want to report anything then I suggest you just mind your business

It’s funny because the amount of times I’ve seen people on here say that spitting at someone is the lowest of the low, it’s assault, it’s a crime etc etc etc. But as soon as someone actually wants to challenge it and do something about the vile behaviour they are a busy body and a snake. Bizarre.

Not sure if it’ll get you anywhere op but I’d probably want to know if my child was being taught by someone with these sort of values. I mean you have to be pretty scummy to spit at someone, I’d say it’s a character trait rather than a momentary lapse of judgement.

Mind your own business.
Why so keen to snitch?

Not keen to snitch, just worried that someone who resorts to spitting to “win” an argument rather than talk through a dispute is in charge of children. It would never cross my mind to spit on anyone really no matter how provoked or angry I was I could never imagine the type of anger you would have to muster up in you to be able to spit on another human being. My friends child is in this school, she has to send this child in to be taught by someone who has spat on her.

But you wouldn't know because even if the Op did report and the school took it seriously, they are not going yo be discussing it with parents.

You could do, but any decent head will protect their staff against parents being malicious and will think less of you (and the relevant parent) for it.

Your friend is free to choose other schools if she is that worried.

The clue is in your own words
Your friend "does not want to do anything about it"
There will be a reason for that, so you should butt out.

No obviously not but the op knows and her child attends the school…

Spitting at someone is disgusting and actually classifies as assault, but unless your friend wants to take it to the police then there is nothing you can do.

Your friend should probably report it to the school, as this teacher would have known your friend had a child at the school, so she has basically assaulted a parent.

On the other hand, you didn't witness this, so don't know it actually happened like that. Were there any witnesses?

Are you going to answer any of the pertinent questions OP? Was this in school? Did you witness any of the events?

What is your worry exactly? Are you worried the teacher will spit on her pupils?

I don't think the school would do anything anyway tbh, unless it was caught on cctv or there was witnesses, it's just one word against the other