Would you inform the school?

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My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

Did it take you a few posts to mention there were witnesses? 🤔

Would you report her if she worked in IT? Or if she was a nurse or vet or deli worker or cleaner or consultant cardiologist? If the answer is yes then yes. Otherwise no. Teachers do not need to be held to a different standard to everyone else in their personal lives.

This literally is the case though, personal and professional conduct is part of the teacher’s standards. These get hammered into you at every possible opportunity when training - so it’s not like people don’t know this is what they are getting themselves into. assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/5a750668ed915d3c7d529cad/Teachers_standard_information.pdf

But they are though, there is a specific conduct they need to uphold

Nailed it!

There are specific conducts we all need to uphold. It's called the law.

Please do keep us updated. Would love to know what the police say about your report of something you heard about second hand.

If she spat at a child, another teacher, a cleaner, a dinner lady, ANYONE in school, fair enough. But she's human.

I've worked with teachers that are swingers, a prostitute teacher, a teacher who had a relationship with a student (18+ so he said, but not when they started) and married her, teachers who engaged in a staff party orgy, teachers caught shagging (out of hours, no kids around) in school, teachers drunk at school, teachers that took recreational drugs, alcoholic teachers.

But having an argument and spitting? Grow up.

Most normal people dont spit at others, seriously? You seriously think thats normal behaviour?? Your seriously trying to minimise that? Ew.

A clue is in your OP: the “victim” doesn’t want to do anything about it. If you complain to the police on her behalf, the police will want to take a statement from her. If she declines to make one, that will be the end of it. I’d leave your friend to do the complaining; if she doesn’t want to, I’m afraid that’s it. You weren’t there and can’t be a witness.

Im not going to the police… friend is, thanks to those on here who informed of the correct route. Will deffo keep updated on how it pans out for all.

When did your friend have a change of heart?

There’s another risk in reporting this episode to the police: it seems that there was a public spat (sorry - unfortunate pun) culminating in one party spitting at the other. If it does go as far as a magistrates court on a charge of common assault, both your friend and the teacher may be bound over to keep the peace. Something that your friend may be very upset about.

It. Wasn't. In. School.

Did you really need it spelling out that ot should be person who was there and not person who wasn't who should report to police?

Were there or weren't there witnesses? Because you didnt mention them in your first few posts?

No…??

Well you do sound happy your friends going to the police! You and she do realise they’ll take a statement from the woman you your friend is accusing of assault?

Well if you are concerned about an assualt you report it to the police not her employer as you would your self employed hairdresser or you unemployed uncle. Once the police are involved then your teacher friend will be abliged to inform her employer and professional body.

Or alternativly you stay out of it and allow the friend who was spat on to decide how they wish to proceed.

You should get your friend to report the incident to the police not the school. It is assault. If this is all true it is disgusting behaviour on the part of the teacher and I wouldn’t want her teaching my child . FWIW I’m a teacher too.

Just read the full thread , glad your friend is going to the police.

Thank you, its a lot yes, but Im gobsmacked at how many people on this thread seem to think that the teacher should not be held accountable and to be left to it because “she’s human after all ”

Yes, and hopefully they will ask the other witnesses as well exactly what happened.

And most humans don’t spit at others! Argument or not. This woman is a teacher, who has spat on a parent, showing complete disregard for another human beings thoughts and being unable to hold a civil dispute, resorting to violence . What a wonderful role model!

I think most think it is not your role to do so as someone who wasn’t there and who would be giving a second hand account.

if your friend wants to then that is her choice and one she has every right to make

yes to the police no to the school, I think schools have enough reports from parents who contsantly think the schools needs to know every single thing that ever happens in the world I am surprised they have time to teach these days

It jist seems you may have added the witnesses to give credence to your story, after a load of posters said youve only got your friend's side of the story...